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Estéema:
Huh? Your FIL has started to walk a bit? His pain tolerance level must be very high! Actually for those elderly suffering from osteoporosis, such fall could be fatal.
Yes. Alr hv in mind to get a helper for PIL. As our parents age, it's not easy to manage day-to-day, much as we want to be personable. Possibly taking over a new Mynmar girl fr a frd. She alr trained 9 mths so hopefully, get her to learn how to handle FIL. I'll be looking ard for a male helper, if can find coz there'll be need in future for bathing FIL moving fwd.
Today FIL was good doing his physio & walking a bit. Was very surprised but comforted. Doc indicated that he shld hv no ambulant problem.
For the past two weeks, my grandma didn’t dare to come down from the hospital bed. Hers should be hairline crack, no op this time thou.
Can find a male helper? You want to try this? Engage a 3hr home care nurse to help him shower and do physio at home? I suspect after a few months when your FIL can use the U-shape walker and slowly walk to the bathroom on his own, he might not want some to shower for him.
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lee_yl:
lee_yl,
Huh? Your FIL has started to walk a bit? His pain tolerance level must be very high! Actually for those elderly suffering from osteoporosis, such fall could be fatal.Estéema:
Yes. Alr hv in mind to get a helper for PIL. As our parents age, it's not easy to manage day-to-day, much as we want to be personable. Possibly taking over a new Mynmar girl fr a frd. She alr trained 9 mths so hopefully, get her to learn how to handle FIL. I'll be looking ard for a male helper, if can find coz there'll be need in future for bathing FIL moving fwd.
Today FIL was good doing his physio & walking a bit. Was very surprised but comforted. Doc indicated that he shld hv no ambulant problem.
For the past two weeks, my grandma didn’t dare to come down from the hospital bed. Hers should be hairline crack, no op this time thou.
Can find a male helper? You want to try this? Engage a 3hr home care nurse to help him shower and do physio at home? I suspect after a few months when your FIL can use the U-shape walker and slowly walk to the bathroom on his own, he might not want some to shower for him.
https://www.homage.sg/en/home-care
You've given me a good option. Will toss the idea of care nurse to the extended family.
Actually, what happened this morning at the hospital was FIL find it diff to pee on bed-pan. He said can only do in toilet. The physiotherapist started him walking helped him to walk over the washroom to ease himself, after that physio guy encouraged him to walk ard the ward. So, both the painkiller & motivation to get himself out of embarrassment peeing on bed-pan were factors.
Doc said bcoz of his age, he'll not use a U-shaped walker but a walker support. Wanted to get the straight walker for him, but doc said he can use the ones in ward & community hospital hv them too. The idea is to get him to walk independently.
We'll modify the house & was thinking soft paddings ard the house. Just awhile ago, I was thinking of laying carpets for presentation, but this will definitely require getting extra work. -
My sis immediately got the bathrooms modified. You can apply online.
http://www10.hdb.gov.sg/eBook/EASE/html5/index.html?opf=tablet/EASELeaflet.xml&launchpage=http://www10.hdb.gov.sg/eBook/EASE/leaflet.html -
lee_yl,
PIL will not need the bathroom modification as they’ve the place renovated with the hand bars & non-slip tiles.
I’m thinkinng more of slopes btwn living & kitchen & bathrooms, so PIL won’t kick the ketbs & fall. Noticed as they age, they tend to shuffle their feet possibly coz of weak leg muscles. I had my own entire house reno with seamless slopes ard the house in anticipation for our aging & in case hv to care for PIL in the future, but their homes hv those kerbs esp bathrooms. Also, moving furnitures to corners of wall areas to create clear walking space, padding living room & bedroom floors, & add grab bars in the kitchen for MIL (do one time in case MIL need them too in future). Hope I’m not getting over the board. -
Estéema, after the 1st fall which she needed an op a decade ago, she has since recovered well.
She actually cancelled a trip to Japan for this June if not for this 2nd fall. Meaning, after some time, although the metal rod will cause some inconvenience (can’t squat, less agile etc), I do not think she has reached that stage where she would need those modifications you mention, maybe unless wheelchair bound? By the way, my grandma is almost 90yo. -
PIL are close to 80s. I’m planning modifications of slips & rearranging furniture coz I noticed particularly for FIL, his gait is less agile these couple of years. He’s often seen shuffling his feet rather than walking briskly or lifting feet in his steps. MIL says he’s always kicking sth in the house & this time round, he kicked the dining chair & fell.
I’m also trying to preempt future inciddbts (tho cannot be 100%) with soft paddings.
My elderly bro had Alzheimer & cant lift his feet. SIL had to support him & train his brain to lift his limbs. So a typical few minutes walk fr dining room to bedroom wld take more than 15 min as SIL patient repeat "lift your left legs" or "lift your right legs" to take his walk ard the house. Purpose is to reduce his muscle waste & keep his brain active.
I’ve been observing the family seems to hv some motor movement issues, as I see DH & BILs able to think well on the feet but motor movements seems delayed. I’d ask for sth fr them & they’d register as I noticed theyvresponding, but before they can pass item to me, I wld hv picked it up in my hands. Maybe I’m just a go-getter, impatient to get things done? Don’t know. -
Esteema, we put slope between living room and kitchen after my MIL’s fall. However, my PIL dismantled it after 2 weeks. My MIL feels the slope is harder and more slippery for her to walk on. But they like the bars we installed at all kerbs in the house.
When MIL arrived at Alexandra Hospital, there was a nurse that told us to take photos of all rooms, floors and kerbs in the house. She then advised us on what we should install/modify to make it easier for MIL to move around in the house. I can’t remember the title of the nurse. She even gave us her handphone number so we can WhatsApp all photos to her. Other than the slope that my PIL don’t like, PIL finds other advices are very useful.
After your FIL’s discharge, do engage a physiotherapist that will come to your FIL’s home. I find that the visits are extremely beneficial because the physiotherapist can see the house and environment so she/he can teach your FIL on how to move around in the house and out of the house safely. We engaged a physiotherapist from SGH and she gave my MIL confidence to move around in the house, to get out of the house, to go to supermarket near her house and to get in and out of car. It really made a difference. Before those physiotherapist visits, MIL only dared to stay inside her room.
There were also doctor’s visits to home. If I remember correctly, my MIL was visited by a doctor from SGH twice. The doctor refilled her usual medications and checked her progress. The doctor came with a nurse. The nurse counted MIL’s medicine stock and calibrated her blood pressure machine. I found the doctor’s visits are useful too. Do pick-up a brochure from SGH on this service. -
Wow! Your dharingbis so impt for us to plan. Will certainly appreciate the home services fr docs, nurse & physio therapist coz it'll certainly need to build motivation & confidence. I noticed MIL is quite affected as this is first op FIL ever had. I'm hoping to keep her engaged so she don't go depressed. But if FIL can be seen more mobile at home when discharged, I'm sure it'll uplift her mood. Not easy hv to handle both. It's physical & emotional needs. Gotta watch closely
Thanks again, ngl2010 :thankyou:
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Esteema, you are welcome.
Another thing. Before MIL have confidence to get in and out of car, we called private ambulance each time she needs to see a specialist in SGH (the doctor that came to home is a GP. We still need to go to hospital to see other doctors). The ambulance picked her up at home and once we are done at SGH we called the ambulance again to pick us up at the clinic. Your FIL walked 1 day after his operation so it is unlikely he wants to use ambulance to go to SGH for his follow-ups. But in case he has difficulty in getting in and out of car, you can call private ambulance. -
Estéema:
Your in laws sound old , mayb it is time that the kids need to care the aged parents - stay together ?Wow! Your dharingbis so impt for us to plan. Will certainly appreciate the home services fr docs, nurse & physio therapist coz it'll certainly need to build motivation & confidence. I noticed MIL is quite affected as this is first op FIL ever had. I'm hoping to keep her engaged so she don't go depressed. But if FIL can be seen more mobile at home when discharged, I'm sure it'll uplift her mood. Not easy hv to handle both. It's physical & emotional needs. Gotta watch closely
Thanks again, ngl2010 :thankyou:
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My mum is not old , only 60s , no serious illness but she is staying with me so I can care for her very easily . She has a 5 rm flat but she likes to stay in my house
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