Me Time!

[janet88]

MyPillow:

Exam period again , most of us will feel “ Sian” n vexed - Only Mums have such agony ? Dad no?

yes...exam period + my menses :rotflmao:
it's like a huge rock on my shoulders. my hubby doesn't seem to feel anything other than nagging daughter, 'girl, study. exam period.' :slapshead: maybe other dads will be more concerned AND worried.

[Estéema]

Some fathers do take leave to coach their kids, esp if their girl. Oops, not nec so huh, just jiving tt they hv favouritism for daughters. My ex-boss take leave for each child incl his only son (youngest pet of family).


Men are not good in instructing & nurturing kids. I've known for long time but recently saw the brain makeup & difference - it's all in the nature of things. Saw Dr Daniel Amen pics showing the diff in men & women's brain. It turns out that biological differences between men & women extend far beyond reproductive body parts. There are distinct differences in brain structure, chemistry and function that affect what we say, remember, see, feel and hear -- all of which might have implications for quarreling couples. If men & women are wired differently, could being aware of this difference help couples get along better?

https://www.doctoroz.com/article/battle-sexes

For me I believe they've capacity to learn when we reason out with them. I did by reasoning with DH that I need him to sing same song & he needs to exert his fatherly authority. By myself, not effective. We've learnt to co-parent right fr birth of our kids.

OT : My colleague once shared her grouses. Teenage son communicates less with mum. She went over to hubby & ask him to hv man-to-man talk to find out if he's OK. Her hubby went into son'S room & audibly asked \"boy, are u OK?\" Boy replied \"OK\". Hubby returned to my colleague said \"he said he's OK\". My colleague was so flabbergasted, speechless :frustrated:

If all men are not Mars, it'll give Venus more space & time for ME TIME isn't it?

[starlight1968sg]

Estéema:

OT : My colleague once shared her grouses. Teenage son communicates less with mum. She went over to hubby & ask him to hv man-to-man talk to find out if he's OK. Her hubby went into son'S room & audibly asked \"boy, are u OK?\" Boy replied \"OK\". Hubby returned to my colleague said \"he said he's OK\". My colleague was so flabbergasted, speechless :frustrated:

Men are just wired differently from women.

[janet88]

starlight1968sg:

janet88:

psle 2 years ago, now it's no difference except I'm taking more subjects.

:rotflmao:

Wait till you take A levels, then it would be fewer subjects.

she cannot take A levels. I would be more than relieved if she can go to the poly and complete the diploma.
damn pissed with him over the weekend. I told him, 'hello, that's your daughter and her exams are coming up. can you do something other than saying exams are coming up?'

[starlight1968sg]

janet88:

she cannot take A levels. I would be more than relieved if she can go to the poly and complete the diploma.

damn pissed with him over the weekend. I told him, 'hello, that's your daughter and her exams are coming up. can you do something other than saying exams are coming up?'

Janet
Don't conclude now as it is still early to decide but continue to encourage her.
It is common for dads not to display any concern on kids' exam. Instead of finding the reasons, I have accepted it as a fact.

[Estéema]

Thot he can teach? Maybe playfully ask him to take on one more tutee (then when he ageees, tell him pro bono now, reap rewards in future)?

[ammonite]

janet88:

starlight1968sg:

:rotflmao:

Wait till you take A levels, then it would be fewer subjects.

she cannot take A levels. I would be more than relieved if she can go to the poly and complete the diploma.
damn pissed with him over the weekend. I told him, 'hello, that's your daughter and her exams are coming up. can you do something other than saying exams are coming up?'

Janet, just ask nicely, give specifics, make it doable and say thank you.
Eg dear, dd exams are com8ng up. Can you go through topic xyz with her every sat for 45min? I think my explanation is not clear enough. Thanks dear/ i’ll prepare your favourite dish for lunch etc.

[Estéema]

That's a nice feminine touch to melt the man! :salute:

[ammonite]

Funz:

I've always enjoyed being by myself. And yes, there is a very real danger of me turning into a hermit if I am allowed to. Even more so now with all the convenience of online shopping and deliveries. No need to interact at all with people.

Honestly, I cannot imagine retirement life. Think I will go crazy.

I am naturally a loner. But as I get older, I treasure relationships more and now make it a point to make time for them.

[janet88]

starlight1968sg:

janet88:

she cannot take A levels. I would be more than relieved if she can go to the poly and complete the diploma.

damn pissed with him over the weekend. I told him, 'hello, that's your daughter and her exams are coming up. can you do something other than saying exams are coming up?'

Janet
Don't conclude now as it is still early to decide but continue to encourage her.
It is common for dads not to display any concern on kids' exam. Instead of finding the reasons, I have accepted it as a fact.

I'm using 2 'techniques' with her - talking to her nicely to get her to work HARDER and get to choose subject combination or scream when she is in la-la land. I'm very worried and also scared to keep her at home to revise but if teachers are getting them to do past year exam papers when each topic was just touch-and-go (considered taught, you know what I mean?), I rather she stays at home to revise her weak subjects/topics. furthermore, son is having poly holiday now.