Difficult Relationship with Parents
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Once again... same here sista... same here. :celebrate:
Experimenting kinda friends oso same leh.. a lot in fact.. :lol:
Voluntary offerings of experiment details from frenz oso same..
Overshare in fact sometimes.. Hee.. but it's rude to interrupt
when someone is sharing.. :lol:
The shoulders many cry on..
Conservative parents.. wow same. But that touch of honest to
goodness reality sunk in deep down inside me. Sometimes i wonder
if i'm too liberal with my girls for their own good? :scared: I shudder
all of a sudden at one creepy thought..
Wow.. a coincidence too many? Not just us.. our kiddies too.
ie. your DS and my DD2.. :lol: The (why) Y-generation.
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[quote]Since you have the full support of DH to go for your uni, just go ahead. You are already married and have a family of your own. What you decide and do should be between DH and yourself, not your mum (unless it affects her directly). Those are just my thoughts, coz this is exactly what I do and when my mum try to 'control my life', which she always used to do b4 I got married, I just told her I will decide what I want to do with DH, its not up to her to decide for me [/quote]
Hehehe, totally agree. DH kept telling me to stop telling my mum about my plans but I kuai daughter mah! Everything also tell, thought she would support me. :slapshead: Still haven't learnt my lesson.. :clubmyself: Though she knows she has no more power sometimes she still manages to trick me into doing something I don't like... Mums have tremendous guilt power... Can really make you feel guilty with a look or a word...
[quote]As a mum now, I don't want to be like my mum though yes she treated me well. I set expectations for my kids and try to \"push them\" to do better. I feel that it is in the spirit of challenging oneself to do better in whatever you do and not be complacent. Also, I do express my disappointment and I am frank with what I think. But I will praise them and give them credit when it's due. I maybe wrong but I feel that our generation being more educated should be better position to provide better guidance for our kids?[/quote]Totally agree!!! :ugogirl: -
Sorry peeps, I need to :rant: !
My mother has done it again! We are letting our maid go next month. My maid and I are parting on good terms and quietly preparing for her flight next month. My DDs are going to CC because I don't want another maid. My mother has CLEARLY shown her displeasure but is unable to persuade me and DH otherwise. Both DH and me been ignoring her offers because she was the reason I got a maid in the 1st place :x . She said she couldn't take care of DD1 then, 3 weeks before my maternity leave ended, hence the maid. So cannot trust her offers, so just ignore.
She has been checking and arranging the maid's belongings (Good also lah, i don't need to check) but all my foodstuff also she put inside. My maid leaving and deposit for CC is costing me a BOMB!
The worst thing she said to me and DH was \"You all like so confident can cope without maid! Don't be arrogant! You don't know what's going to happen after themaid leaves\" and she told DH \" Good also the maid go, you can BE A FATHER\" :!: :!: :!: :x :x :x :x
Had to keep calming my DH down, don't want him to argue with her. We still need her to help fetch DDs from CC, 2 days a week. My mum didn't use to be like this. Menopause changed her alot...
I miss my mummy! -
my mum look down on me & my DH. when DH & i were dating she say if i were to marry him she will disown me cos she never like DH. but heck care her, i still marry my DH.
when we bought our 5-rm flat, she said buy so big for wat & say she got no $ to LEND me for reno. but we used our own money, i never took a cent from her.
when i was pregnant, she said my tummy so small, i never eat iszit, dun starve her grandson. when i said i cant eat anymore cos very full, she force me to finish & say i waste food den complain to my dad, aunties etc
Always complain she no $, always complain her children no good, always compare other ppl with us.
she always say my son everything also duno. compare him, a 1yr old with a 5yrs old. anything she say abt my son i always argue back. she can say anything abt me but Y drag my son in. :x
she will embarass me in front of relatives or her friends & say things like me & DH everything duno still dare to ve baby. during my schooling days, my friends came over to my house, she embarassed me by telling them im so useless, duno how to cook maggi mee & duno how to wash panty.
she always talk bad abt my inlaws. :roll:
she always curse my grandfather(her FIL) to die.
i duno Y i ve such an evil mum. mayb i did something to her in my past thus ive such an evil mother. -
mummyJune:
Always complain she no $, always complain her children no good, always compare other ppl with us.
Mine is like that too. Basically she's avery unhappy person. Sometimes I pity her. But at least she has not said anything bad abt my kids. -
mummy of 2:
same as u, sometimes i pity her. & i also pity my dad for having such an unreasonable wife. yet sometimes my dad will back my mum up by siding her to scold us. :xmummyJune:
Always complain she no $, always complain her children no good, always compare other ppl with us.
Mine is like that too. Basically she's avery unhappy person. Sometimes I pity her. But at least she has not said anything bad abt my kids.
i duno y ive such weird parents. even my sis oso dislike gg back ever since she got married & moved out. -
mummyJune:
Wow your mum sounds like she has real serious issues. *pat pat*my mum look down on me & my DH. when DH & i were dating she say if i were to marry him she will disown me cos she never like DH. but heck care her, i still marry my DH.
when we bought our 5-rm flat, she said buy so big for wat & say she got no $ to LEND me for reno. but we used our own money, i never took a cent from her.
when i was pregnant, she said my tummy so small, i never eat iszit, dun starve her grandson. when i said i cant eat anymore cos very full, she force me to finish & say i waste food den complain to my dad, aunties etc
Always complain she no $, always complain her children no good, always compare other ppl with us.
she always say my son everything also duno. compare him, a 1yr old with a 5yrs old. anything she say abt my son i always argue back. she can say anything abt me but Y drag my son in. :x
she will embarass me in front of relatives or her friends & say things like me & DH everything duno still dare to ve baby. during my schooling days, my friends came over to my house, she embarassed me by telling them im so useless, duno how to cook maggi mee & duno how to wash panty.
she always talk bad abt my inlaws. :roll:
she always curse my grandfather(her FIL) to die.
i duno Y i ve such an evil mum. mayb i did something to her in my past thus ive such an evil mother.
I would try to minimise contact with her if I were in your shoes. Behaviour and remarks like that really poison the soul.
Glad that you and your DH have backbone and don't need to rely on her.
Try to live a happy life, don't let her nastiness ruin your mood. *hug* -
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Wow your mum sounds like she has real serious issues. pat pat
I would try to minimise contact with her if I were in your shoes. Behaviour and remarks like that really poison the soul.
Glad that you and your DH have backbone and don’t need to rely on her.
Try to live a happy life, don’t let her nastiness ruin your mood. hug[/quote]
im trying to. im always bothered by what she said. in fact i was so upset by her actions once i had premature birth. luckily my son was alright. & she can say lucky i never harm her grandson or else i should go & die instead. -
wah that is really mean.
I know people who would never speak to their parents again if such harsh words were said.
I guess all you can do is treat her as having some mental illness and still try to do your duty as a daughter, and take it that she can’t help being so mean. -
mummy of 2:
I always wonder why some mothers (like mine) can always be so unhappy. Nothing seems to please her and her only 'hobby' seems to be complaining...always complain about $$, complain husband NG, children NG, always saying that other mothers have a better life than her, why did she have such a 'hard life' blah...blah...blah..., when in fact she has not work at all in her whole life. I just don't understand, sigh....mummyJune:
Always complain she no $, always complain her children no good, always compare other ppl with us.
Mine is like that too. Basically she's avery unhappy person. Sometimes I pity her. But at least she has not said anything bad abt my kids.
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