Me Time!

[MrsKiasu]

kinda nag abit more on dd2 for being slow in finishing her breakfast…after dropping them at school, the image of her pitiful face looking at me before she got down the car kept playing in my mind…always feel sorry when didn’t say proper goodbye to them…ok, my mistake, forgotten that today has no staying back for her…planning to bring her out before going back to pick up the elder one.

[hurlyburly6.019192gmail.019192com]

Nice to have one-on-one time with your DD2.


I think the grass is always greener? My contract is up soon and I have to look for a new job, and I always think - maybe I should just not bother and stay home with my kids while they are little??

[MrsKiasu]

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Nice to have one-on-one time with your DD2.

I think the grass is always greener? My contract is up soon and I have to look for a new job, and I always think - maybe I should just not bother and stay home with my kids while they are little??

I read abt Gurmit Singh's news this morning

pros and cons for staying at home..maybe not too long break as in few years or flexi time arrangement?

[Estéema]

hb\" post_id=\"1933336\" time=\"1567478196\" user_id=\"179788:

Nice to have one-on-one time with your DD2.

I think the grass is always greener? My contract is up soon and I have to look for a new job, and I always think - maybe I should just not bother and stay home with my kids while they are little??

If you can afford simple things in life, the impt ones are your presence in personally supervising their formative years. You’ll see what a difference it makes. I gave up a 6-fig job just to be there when my kids are learning - reading to them & then to you, guiding, paving way, chastising, bonding, enjoying fun, cheering, interpreting their moves & helping them steer fr trouble, admit up to mistakes, make friends, respect & give to teachers, sharing with others & so much more that I can’t articulate enuf coz you will hv together time which only your family will appreciate & come to rmbr in years to come.

I can find my own niche anytime, but childhood time with them lost can’t wind back time.

[MyPillow]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1933320\" time=\"1567475227\" user_id=\"43981:

kinda nag abit more on dd2 for being slow in finishing her breakfast..after dropping them at school, the image of her pitiful face looking at me before she got down the car kept playing in my mind..always feel sorry when didn't say proper goodbye to them..ok, my mistake, forgotten that today has no staying back for her..planning to bring her out before going back to pick up the elder one.

my dd is a slow eater too .
she simply enjoys her own time with the food, appreciating each bite & flavour
her main meal is bet 0.5 to 1hr
morning she drinks milk at home then bread/cake in the car

[MrsKiasu]

I think got to see what ‘kind’ of parent you are too? some can be very nurturing, good in planning like esteema (at least it is what I think)…you will see that you forgo something but you get back/ maybe more than that in terms of how your kids bloomed for eg…how you enjoyed not working etc… maybe you got to think…ok le…I think I have done/achieve what I would like to achieve…and I am ready to forgo everything else in my career or at least I will be happy even if I won’t be out again to work or just work a little bit…else your mind cant really rest even though you are really not working for many years…and as times go by, we will get older, outside world changed etc etc…I too, gave up same when I stopped… and I feel the stress lor…but of course I do have my time with my kids since they were born which I value alot, learn a lot from them as well…still there is something very unsettling inside…

[MrsKiasu]

MyPillow\" post_id=\"1933349\" time=\"1567480047\" user_id=\"70594:

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1933320\" time=\"1567475227\" user_id=\"43981:

kinda nag abit more on dd2 for being slow in finishing her breakfast..after dropping them at school, the image of her pitiful face looking at me before she got down the car kept playing in my mind..always feel sorry when didn't say proper goodbye to them..ok, my mistake, forgotten that today has no staying back for her..planning to bring her out before going back to pick up the elder one.

my dd is a slow eater too .
she simply enjoys her own time with the food, appreciating each bite & flavour
her main meal is bet 0.5 to 1hr
morning she drinks milk at home then bread/cake in the car

I told dd I need to ban her from reading her story books/mag when eating and set the alarm at 15mins (her food very little de) got to finish it within the timing .. difficult to do 2 things at a time...

[Coolkidsrock2]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1933351\" time=\"1567480826\" user_id=\"43981:

I think got to see what 'kind' of parent you are too? some can be very nurturing, good in planning like esteema (at least it is what I think)..you will see that you forgo something but you get back/ maybe more than that in terms of how your kids bloomed for eg..how you enjoyed not working etc.. maybe you got to think..ok le..I think I have done/achieve what I would like to achieve..and I am ready to forgo everything else in my career or at least I will be happy even if I won't be out again to work or just work a little bit..else your mind cant really rest even though you are really not working for many years..and as times go by, we will get older, outside world changed etc etc..I too, gave up same when I stopped.. and I feel the stress lor..but of course I do have my time with my kids since they were born which I value alot, learn a lot from them as well..still there is something very unsettling inside..

I don't think am cut out to be a parent. I will go crazy if I have to be at home and face the kids all day. I enjoy the adult company and intellectual stimulation of at work and am happy to put in the hours at work.

I think the kids are also happy that I work. DH works long hours too and will not want me to be too free as it is easy to over think things.

[Funz]

Some are cut out to be stay home parent some are not. There is no 100% right or wrong way neither is one better than the other. It all boils down to individual and each family’s dynamics. Does not mean that you are not a stay home parent means you are not able to teach, guide and provide all the support they need.


Those who can have a choice to be stay home parent or not are the fortunate ones. Many do not have that choice at all.

[hurlyburly6.019192gmail.019192com]

Yah to have the choice at all is definitely a blessing. I actually have a very flexible job now - I can be home at five and do the evening/bedtime routines with the kids and then get back to work at night (flexible is not part-time). Looked at it one way, it's perfect. Looked at it another way, I feel like I'm putting in part-time hours in two full-time jobs (work and parenthood) and just barely scraping through for each - this would work for someone more organized or more hardworking (so that me time at night is really work time), but I can't compete with the people who put in the hours in the office and at night, and I'm basically just hustling the kids through dinner/bath/bedtime each night.


Edited to add: but it is a better deal than a lot of FT working parents, I know. I'm trying to have it all, and this might be as good as it gets (at least until the contract ends!).