Me Time!
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Mums tend to meddle not bec we are more KPOs but we care and love more easily.
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jedamum, your dc also 4 yrs apart arh..at one stage should be very cute right as you could see one big and one small ..I sometimes fascinated forgetting that the elder one is still a kid lor.. I see and think..why can play till like that arh
I notice school holidays are the time for kids to strengthen their relationship. During school terms,
usually will be busy and younger one will go and look for friends to play with.. and this morning, dh says try not to let dd1 take public transport on own else she thinks want to go out she will go out on her own lor..and last night reminded me to spend more time with kids else in a while more she will not need us as much... see, one hand we hope they be independent but on another, we feel reluctant to let go.. -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950486\" time=\"1574986463\" user_id=\"43981:
we are always contradicting ourselves. the fact is, we find it difficult to let go. my younger one who just turned 15 is still very much a kid herself and it is frightening to let go completely. teenage stage is so much harder to handle than terrible 2s.
jedamum, your dc also 4 yrs apart arh..at one stage should be very cute right as you could see one big and one small ..I sometimes fascinated forgetting that the elder one is still a kid lor.. I see and think..why can play till like that arh I notice school holidays are the time for kids to strengthen their relationship. During school terms,
usually will be busy and younger one will go and look for friends to play with.. and this morning, dh says try not to let dd1 take public transport on own else she thinks want to go out she will go out on her own lor..and last night reminded me to spend more time with kids else in a while more she will not need us as much... see, one hand we hope they be independent but on another, we feel reluctant to let go.. -
starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"1950485\" time=\"1574986026\" user_id=\"14025:
yah , i think i will until abt 19yo - for ds to go NS then by 21 he should be grown adult with own responsibility to himself, family , society - we did tell him that from 21- he is himself, he manage himself - if he dun eat, dun bathe - i am not going to nag cos by then he own himself lor.
Mums tend to meddle not bec we are more KPOs but we care and love more easily.
we should let go . my parents let go of me at abt 21/22yo to find frens, socialise, get married etc but then after married n have kids, my folk helped to look after my first born ( prob not so correct choice)- then my parent start to meddle into our life n parenting style, house chores daily routines... i and dh are just closing our eyes sometimes to maintain peace, harmony & sort of appreciate the help in kids. I really hope some one can tell my parent to respect my (our) privacy , give me personal space etc I hope we dun grow into nosy & difficult in law/ parent as we age gracefully
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my son is 19. I do not interfere much in his life although I do ask if he is doing ok. he has given me the assurance he knows right from wrong. i am grateful he is mature and doesn't give me much problems :xedfingers: but I can't say the same for my younger one. on one hand, she tries to be mature but there have been several occasions which scare the hell out of me.
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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950486\" time=\"1574986463\" user_id=\"43981:
Ds1 is 4yrs older than ds2 but since young, his thinking is a few years older than his years. Even his sec sch teacher commented he has a \"fatherly figure\" air to him. :rotflmao:
jedamum, your dc also 4 yrs apart arh..at one stage should be very cute right as you could see one big and one small ..I sometimes fascinated forgetting that the elder one is still a kid lor.. I see and think..why can play till like that arh I notice school holidays are the time for kids to strengthen their relationship. During school terms,
usually will be busy and younger one will go and look for friends to play with.. and this morning, dh says try not to let dd1 take public transport on own else she thinks want to go out she will go out on her own lor..and last night reminded me to spend more time with kids else in a while more she will not need us as much... see, one hand we hope they be independent but on another, we feel reluctant to let go..
While ds2 is still the baby of the house, who will still sing and dance to our amusement. At times i did feel that because of ds1's alpha character at home, the siblings dynamics is such that ds2 grows to be accomodating and is just contented following his brother's lead since young. And because of that too, ds1 has plenty of day to day decision making and leading since his bro was a baby, traits of a typical firstborn. Ds2 is fearful of both his dad and his bro but the difference is he approaches ds1 readily for help but not his dad. It helps that ds1 takes good care of his bro and covers up for him at times too.
It is funny to see them so different that they fit nicely together. One is too serious and one is too carefree.
Daughters will turn to their mum more when they become mothers. :love: No worries..
Whereas boys only answer their mothers WhatsApp message with monosyllabic replies (my hb included!) :spank: -
janet88\" post_id=\"1950516\" time=\"1574999896\" user_id=\"12950:
I been thinking about dd taking public trpt recently as dd kept wanting to do that..so hearing dh thinking same, I m happy actually. I know it is good to let kids be independent in this area but personally I feel I would like to delay as much as possible for dd to have more open contact with her surroundings and outside ppl. Actually, I been quite reluctant to let her go friends house alone but somehow felt difficult to say no as the mom asked me and dd kept saying I want I want..but I told dd next year onwards I would be be stricter in this aspect liao.. I don't want it to turn to habit or think it as something very light issue..yeah for younger one, I refused few times for just dropping kiddo for playdates..I know I may be seen as anti social and gal's circle of friends sure affected but I just feel that I should do that. I told them to spend as much time with each other first..to me, building up a stronger relationship between siblings and us as a closer family unit are more important..strengthen this first before others...I think I m towards the extreme side yeah..
we are always contradicting ourselves. the fact is, we find it difficult to let go. my younger one who just turned 15 is still very much a kid herself and it is frightening to let go completely. teenage stage is so much harder to handle than terrible 2s.MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950486\" time=\"1574986463\" user_id=\"43981:
jedamum, your dc also 4 yrs apart arh..at one stage should be very cute right as you could see one big and one small ..I sometimes fascinated forgetting that the elder one is still a kid lor.. I see and think..why can play till like that arh
I notice school holidays are the time for kids to strengthen their relationship. During school terms,
usually will be busy and younger one will go and look for friends to play with.. and this morning, dh says try not to let dd1 take public transport on own else she thinks want to go out she will go out on her own lor..and last night reminded me to spend more time with kids else in a while more she will not need us as much... see, one hand we hope they be independent but on another, we feel reluctant to let go.. -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950484\" time=\"1574985854\" user_id=\"43981:
Thank you MKS :love:
lc, I saw the Suzuka on this Qxx black fri offer and suddenly it hits me that you asked about it on hair right..ok it has roller brushes to sweep so I guess the some hair will entangle around it but I dont think it will cause it to stop working just that you need to clear it after a while..using it at another place that has mainly dust and it works ok..on hair, based on shorter period trials, looks fine too. -
there is a limit we can control our kids…the more we control, the more they will do things behind our back. what I can advise and remind is to look out for surroundings and don’t be so engrossed in the mobile phone. I need my 15 year old learn how to be street smart.
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jedamum\" post_id=\"1950521\" time=\"1575000707\" user_id=\"159:
Jedamum, you hit the nail on the head. My DS1 is like that! Replying me with monosyllabic replies. :roll:
Whereas boys only answer their mothers WhatsApp message with monosyllabic replies (my hb included!) :spank:
At least for now, my DS2 is more like me.....管家婆. Hopefully this chatty DS2 stays the same.
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