Me Time!

[MrsKiasu]

I m so relieved to hear experiences and the same thoughts..thank you for all sharings..so I m doing quite a right thing yeah

[MrsKiasu]

Estéema\" post_id=\"1950547\" time=\"1575004543\" user_id=\"66413:

jedamum\" post_id=\"1950542\" time=\"1575003042\" user_id=\"159:

[quote=Estéema post_id=1950535 time=1575002169 user_id=66413]jedamum,
You’re very blessed yr 2 boys hv healthy bond as bros. Yah, talk abt monosyllabic replies. Still training my young fellow to be more specific & short msgs do not communicate well. He’ll get there soon but ocassionally still Brief comm. He says that’s how his guys chat! :faint: He’s pulled both ways - peers & mum. Thankfully, DH started coaching him too esp when we hv family chtgrp.

Yes, we are very blessed that they complement each other. When i was a young parent, i read that focusing on bringing up the firstborn will make bringing up the younger ones easier due to having a strong role model around. There is this balance to strike on favouritism too. It helps that Ds1 asked for a sibling when he was only 2 plus.

You are right. Lol that is how guys chat. Good that your dh is coaching him. I can only hope my future dils will fill in that gap - like how i will whatsapp my inlaws every 2-3 days be it just posting the boys eating dinner.

jedamum,
One other blessing u hv - no middle-child syndrome right?
Until very recently, I still witness BIL trying to prove he shines better than DH. It’s so amusing! I just added in to affirm him that “yes, you’re ingenious & did a great job!” [/quote]My goodness..what age already

[MyPillow]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950558\" time=\"1575007077\" user_id=\"43981:

I m so relieved to hear experiences and the same thoughts..thank you for all sharings..so I m doing quite a right thing yeah

hey Mrs ks, i will check more about robot vac, i need to replace my old one le
so u suing suzuka - i checked, price is ok below $200 n like so many functions lei

[Estéema]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1950560\" time=\"1575007162\" user_id=\"43981:

Estéema\" post_id=\"1950547\" time=\"1575004543\" user_id=\"66413:

[quote=jedamum post_id=1950542 time=1575003042 user_id=159]
Yes, we are very blessed that they complement each other. When i was a young parent, i read that focusing on bringing up the firstborn will make bringing up the younger ones easier due to having a strong role model around. There is this balance to strike on favouritism too. It helps that Ds1 asked for a sibling when he was only 2 plus.

You are right. Lol that is how guys chat. Good that your dh is coaching him. I can only hope my future dils will fill in that gap - like how i will whatsapp my inlaws every 2-3 days be it just posting the boys eating dinner.

jedamum,
One other blessing u hv - no middle-child syndrome right?
Until very recently, I still witness BIL trying to prove he shines better than DH. It’s so amusing! I just added in to affirm him that “yes, you’re ingenious & did a great job!”

My goodness..what age already[/quote]In his 40s with 3 kids alr. Can’t believe? I can accept coz s’times family dynamics & effects of childhood can subconsciously be embedded in one’s heart & mind and unless one realizes it & learn to relieve tt emotional burden, it’ll always be there. Must hv closure. Not sure his struggle is with parent or DH, so best he settle & draw out that negative feeling whether rilvary or deprivation of parental attention & esp when parents still ard. For me, I recognize it but it’s never easy to bring out such sensitive issues esp when I’m related to DH. He might not take it constructively & denial. He did on other issues previously but time proven him to correct his perception.

[laughingcat]

Estéema\" post_id=\"1950544\" time=\"1575003998\" user_id=\"66413:

laughingcat\" post_id=\"1950540\" time=\"1575002726\" user_id=\"3309:

MKS, likewise I also refuse DSs from going to other frz house. If want, I can book the condo function room for them to do project. I can provide food and drinks. Going to other folk's house is a no-no rule.

But, but huh, in reality other parents also just as protective not letting their kids go ano peer’s house do proj how? Come to compromise either neutral grounds in sch or rotate bah.

Oh dear....I have never thought about that. Coz my first thought is other children should not enter another student's home. Even more so for my DSs. When my DS's frz came, we didn't allow them to enter our house for fear of other parents complain, in case.....

Come to think of it, I should have encourage them to go to the school ground.

Thanks Estee for point it out. :love:

But then quite shiong too. Coz there are moments when the kiddos complete their projects quite late into the night and/or over the weekend. I have to send them back home or call a grab for them.

[doodbug]

For group work, I prefer going to friend's house (or my place), or better still, in school, than public places like McDonalds or what Much easier to have access to books/laptop screens etc and what not.

[Estéema]

doodbug\" post_id=\"1950585\" time=\"1575013220\" user_id=\"13281:

For group work, I prefer going to friend's house (or my place), or better still, in school, than public places like McDonalds or what Much easier to have access to books/laptop screens etc and what not.

Agree with you doodbug.

Home or sch is always better than MacD or Starbucks or the likes. No junk food or sugar high drinks. Definitely not good

[Nebbermind]

Can share what are the fears about going to peer’s home?

[janet88]

Nebbermind\" post_id=\"1950593\" time=\"1575016355\" user_id=\"15571:

Can share what are the fears about going to peer's home?

the fear would be the kids playing computer games instead of getting work done.

[laughingcat]

the fear of hooking to games. My fear of unwarranted physical contact.