All About Full-Time Maids
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Poppyy\" post_id=\"1957503\" time=\"1578276743\" user_id=\"183163:
Mine eats/drinks whatever my dad eats/drinks.
Nt to mention they are picky with food.
My maid told me she do not like the following food : non fried banana, bean sprout, ntuc brand instant noodle, kaya, pineapple, tomato. She luv indomie, hotdog, coke. - _-''
My mil maid gave me a dirty look when I offered her my indocafe coffee, outright told me 'this I no like'. -
Poppyy\" post_id=\"1957503\" time=\"1578276743\" user_id=\"183163:
I’ll tell her “I know luv but “I can’t give u Indomie or any instant noodles coz MOM don’t allow” & show her the MOM guidelines.
Nt to mention they are picky with food.
My maid told me she do not like the following food : non fried banana, bean sprout, ntuc brand instant noodle, kaya, pineapple, tomato. She luv indomie, hotdog, coke. - _-''
My mil maid gave me a dirty look when I offered her my indocafe coffee, outright told me 'this I no like'.
“You want hotdog or coke, but for yourself” I only give 3 squares meals with rice, veg & s’times chicken or fish depends on what I eat” :evil:
Oh come on, in Indonesia, don’t think their diet is hotdog or coke everyday! Tell her some hotdog hv babi. Indonesians mostly depend on rice as staple & maybe some chilli, some deep fried fish or chicken. Where for hotdog? Be firm with her to eat what your family eats except those she’s not able bcoz of religious belief. That we’ve to respect. -
Poppyy\" post_id=\"1956953\" time=\"1577975934\" user_id=\"183163:
i have a google wifi mesh system so i limit her 'wifi' usage only from 830-1030pm ...and yes my home has CCTV but it's impossible to cover all the rooms ( her room and our master bed room / toilets etc i cant have cctv...) so she will usually go into those rooms to 'hide' loh....and cctv has blind spots so cant really always spot them also....
Omg, did u gave her WiFi password?arsenalgirl\" post_id=\"1956792\" time=\"1577940566\" user_id=\"168680:
Hi Guys...just sharing with you guys about a full time maid that i hired who is my worst maid ever...she is highly likely looking to return back to Singapore soon so would like to share it here so that no other employer is 'unlucky ' enough to employ her.
Name: Kap Tluangi ( Myanmmar)
WP No: 0 93760115
Sent her back today and she was shouting and demanding why we didnt tell her earlier and demanded to be bought a luggage ...best is when packing her stuff it exceeded check in baggage limits by 10 kg...( about 30 over kg worth of clothes and stuff)- she even suggested to place her belongings at my security guard post so that her friends can pick it up- how bold and 'creative' right...( even storage facilities also have a fee lah...wah lau).
During her 9 month employment....her main tasks is to clean the house and preparing breakfast and dinners ...for a small family of 3- hubby , me and boy who goes to full day child care). Yet during her employment she
-Always always cannot get up on time....1 week she will oversleep at least 3-4 times...meaning either me or my hubby have to wake her up making us so tired....as we go to sleep later than her ( Her bedtime is usually 830-9pm as we take over our son and put him to sleep every night)...morning on wkdays she needs to get up at 6am to help us prep as my hubs needs to leave with my boy for childcare by 7am...in order to reach work on time...so because of her tardiness they are either often late for sch/ work or i need to be so stressed out and wake up subconsciously by 6am to check that she's up...:(
She also has a very non teachable attitude and is very defensive whenever you correct her mistakes....she will argue and argue back whatever point you raise...An example...when you tell her that you've trained her to dry the front load washer and not overload the washing machine to prevent moisture/ it from spoiling etc...she will reply : Oh is it? Or when she serves you burnt food....you ask her why it's burnt she replies oh the video you showed me says 1 hr ( but i told her to tweak the timing as the size of the potato is different - she doesn't watch food as well when she cooks leading the food to be overcooked or water to boil over )- Her bio data rates her cooking as 5/5 ya hahahaha....big joke ya
Is a huge busybody....loves to interupt whenever hubs and I are talking and inserts her opinions in whenever it's not sought for....like when we buy clothes for my boy she'll go eeewl that's so ugly etc....basically no respect...
Lastly, due to her inability to get up in the mornings we imposed a time limit to her handphone hours ( so at night from 9-1030pm-Disclaimer: I hope people don't judge....as people from Home or whatever organisations might say its so inhumane etc to keep someone's phone)...blah blah BUT in any case whilst packing today i found out that she has a 2nd secret phone which is probably why she always oversleeps as she's always using her hp late into the night....and also explains y she's always taking so long in the toilet as well....( when i asked her today she again had another explanation : that she was helping her 'friend keep the phone')...
Another thing i also found out today was that she throws her undergarment - panties and bra together with my son's laundry- when she came i provided her with a scrub and pail and told her explicitly not to wash her undergarments in the washing machine ( we allow her to wash the rest of her clothes in the washing machine)- even I handwash my own undergarments....ARGH im feeling so disgusted i feel like getting a new washing machine
So yup writing this post to warn potential future employers as she is looking to return to work here ( she has a wide network of friends here )..She's an ex SG mynammar maid so her spoken English is pretty good for Myanmmar so she might kind of easily do well in 'interviews' with potential employers...( thats one of the reasons i took her too since it was diff finding myanmmar helpers with gd English - as Im a FTWM and don't have time to train a fresh one)
Ur hse gt cctv?
Y u allow her to wash her clothes in the washing machine? Shouldn't maid hand wash their clothes separately?
Sorry but I'm a FTWM as well. Trying to find how others managed their maid.
Yah that is my fault....i shouldn't have allowed her to use the washing machine to wash her clothes....i thought chin chai since our laundry load is little.....so can just add hers in as well but turns out she abused our 'kindness' and started disrespecting us and treating us as if we are tenants instead of her employers....
She is also quite bold and rude with her comments I rem once we went out shopping she was supposed to look after my boy and my hubby and I were picking out his clothes....then when my hubby picked one out she went ' EEEE so ugly'...i was like woah she's so Audacious...
Once at a restaurant also i asked if she wanted to share some of my porridge she said 'eeeeee' dont want....
WTF rte.... -
@ arsenalgirl I recall a conversation with my frd’s pino helper here with 12 years service bagged. She explained in her country, their ppl take porridge only when sick & no energy to stomach anything heavy. So, maybe that’s where she’s coming fr?
S’times we’ve gotta look beyond their inability to communicate or express themselves well, but in short sentences. I’m sure if she speaks in Bahasa Indonesiaand her intonation it’ll be very expressive to communicate her truest of meanings.
OT, just the other day, I was sharing with DH how our first Indo girl came during her Hari Raya & we were so appreciative coz many wld this come during tt impt part of their festive culture & we brot her out & ask her to chose her lotong or satay. She kept looking at the signboard & then shone her head. We asked her why & she quietly said for 40 cents each stick (price abt 20 years back) she cld buy 10 sticks back home. We then just bought for her & sat her down. S’times, when my family hv fruits I wld remind my kids culture does make a lot of diff btwn hunger & those who hv & take for granted. In SG, we’ve so much choices of foreign imported fruits to add to our plates, but for these helpers, most SG families do not incl fruits in a helpers diet. I’m sure when they’re back home, they happily enjoy bananas or papayas fr their bkyard w/o worries of costs, but they don’t get to eat them in our SG homes. DH always chided me for siding helpers, but when they shows disrespect or hide in toilets lengthy periods too often, they get an earful fr me. I do spot check their quality of work & explain the reasons why I need sth to be hygienic or clean, but will be in hardtone once I’ve to remind them umpteen times. An eyer has to exercise firmness w/o being inhumane & not give understanding to their original perspectives. JMO -
I feel that in general the maids are giving me e vibe that they are here on a holiday.
1) picky on food
2) want hp - my maid requested for a hp during her 2nd mth but I did not give her WiFi, as she was previously using my hp to watsapp video for 30 to 40 mins each night
3) preference on toiletries - bought citra for her, thinking its her homeland brand but she said not gd, and want garnier whitening instead. - _- -
honkah\" post_id=\"1956976\" time=\"1578009284\" user_id=\"180832:
Yeahh and to think she was shocked on the day we decided to let her go....come on lah u wake up late daily and can see we are visibly upset....we try to counsel you nicely...talk to you....scold you and explain to you why you have to get on time...yet all you can say is ' i will try harder' and then get up late again....u try for 2-3 days and nxt few days again you cant get up....so selfish...and i'm also pregnant now with #2....she doesnt care about my health ( obviously ) that this is shooting my blood pressure up just seeing her face daily when she gets up late.....and did i mention when she gets up late she acts as if it's such a huge effort on her part getting up....and she is so tired she has to sprawl on the table....or go back to her room to lie down??!? This is such huge disrepect to your employer who's paying you monthly....worse is she does not even show any form of remorse when we sent her back...still kept starring fiercely at us...
She has a light workload and yet abuses your generosity. Good thing you figure this out earlier. I could not imagine if you let her same for more days or months. -
Estéema\" post_id=\"1957546\" time=\"1578284144\" user_id=\"66413:
From my post, you can tell she's not from Philippines...she's from Myanmmar and is just plain rude - her English as I've mentioned is really good....so there's no reason for her to answer in that way- Eeeee i Don't want....in general she's just a rude person- How do you explain the fact that she's so tactless to say that my husband's choice of clothes for my son is Eeeee also??? but all these can close an eye her work also cannot make it...cooking cannot make it....attitude also...
@ arsenalgirl I recall a conversation with my frd’s pino helper here with 12 years service bagged. She explained in her country, their ppl take porridge only when sick & no energy to stomach anything heavy. So, maybe that’s where she’s coming fr?
S’times we’ve gotta look beyond their inability to communicate or express themselves well, but in short sentences. I’m sure if she speaks in Bahasa Indonesiaand her intonation it’ll be very expressive to communicate her truest of meanings.
OT, just the other day, I was sharing with DH how our first Indo girl came during her Hari Raya & we were so appreciative coz many wld this come during tt impt part of their festive culture & we brot her out & ask her to chose her lotong or satay. She kept looking at the signboard & then shone her head. We asked her why & she quietly said for 40 cents each stick (price abt 20 years back) she cld buy 10 sticks back home. We then just bought for her & sat her down. S’times, when my family hv fruits I wld remind my kids culture does make a lot of diff btwn hunger & those who hv & take for granted. In SG, we’ve so much choices of foreign imported fruits to add to our plates, but for these helpers, most SG families do not incl fruits in a helpers diet. I’m sure when they’re back home, they happily enjoy bananas or papayas fr their bkyard w/o worries of costs, but they don’t get to eat them in our SG homes. DH always chided me for siding helpers, but when they shows disrespect or hide in toilets lengthy periods too often, they get an earful fr me. I do spot check their quality of work & explain the reasons why I need sth to be hygienic or clean, but will be in hardtone once I’ve to remind them umpteen times. An eyer has to exercise firmness w/o being inhumane & not give understanding to their original perspectives. JMO -
I gave the example of pino bcoz I spoke to one pino girl of my frd. I hv always taken Indo maids & nvr likes pino girls, until the old guards fr Indo started showing lots of problems. I’ve been having Mynmar girls for the last 8 years. I chose those only originally fr Chin State (not tt Chin State 100% good girls coz they’re all human) , but had less attitude problems & I love them all.
So, I’m not referring to anybody else’s maid. Just sharing.
My take has always been if any staff (even in my mgt of staff in Spore) hv attitude problems, within the week, I’ll send the individual packing. I’ve only sent one girl back to Agency in my lifetime of employing maids & always sent them direct home to home-country & hometown. Nvr even to Batam coz too easy for them to return to hound other innocent SG families. I hope by doing so, it doesn’t limit them fr finding their way back easily & hope they’ll feel the pinch having to pay the agents all over again & hope they learn to behave better & respect eyers better rather to act like Divas. Nobody owes them a living, not even their own corrupt govts. Certainly, I sent them packing asap coz I don’t want my spirit to be vexed nor my family members to feel any stress. I’ve always started my helpers by telling them “We employ you to help take care of my family & kids, so u take care of us & we can then take care of you so I can send yr hard earn salary home to yr children & family. -
arsenalgirl\" post_id=\"1957617\" time=\"1578299503\" user_id=\"168680:
Maid from hell
Yeahh and to think she was shocked on the day we decided to let her go....come on lah u wake up late daily and can see we are visibly upset....we try to counsel you nicely...talk to you....scold you and explain to you why you have to get on time...yet all you can say is ' i will try harder' and then get up late again....u try for 2-3 days and nxt few days again you cant get up....so selfish...and i'm also pregnant now with #2....she doesnt care about my health ( obviously ) that this is shooting my blood pressure up just seeing her face daily when she gets up late.....and did i mention when she gets up late she acts as if it's such a huge effort on her part getting up....and she is so tired she has to sprawl on the table....or go back to her room to lie down??!? This is such huge disrepect to your employer who's paying you monthly....worse is she does not even show any form of remorse when we sent her back...still kept starring fiercely at us...honkah\" post_id=\"1956976\" time=\"1578009284\" user_id=\"180832:
She has a light workload and yet abuses your generosity. Good thing you figure this out earlier. I could not imagine if you let her same for more days or months.
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I have had engaged an Indo helper very many years ago, whom I interviewed before she return to her hometown after 4 years working with an SG family. Was pleased with her experiences & she spoke reasonable English. She indicated that her eyer wanted to renew her WP but tt she was suppose to go with her hubby to Taiwan for his work posting. When her hubby’s job fell thro, her eyer alr had engaged a replacement helper hence she needs a job.
We agreed for her to return after 1 mthbof rests with her family, but she requested for ano 2 weeks for her sister’s wedding. 2 mths after arrival, she started showing attitude problem or sorts. Her work level completely dropped to zero suddenly, it’s as if she had no work experience - iron my clothes & burnt them; serving half-cooked food; DH complained of musty smelling towels & shirts... When questioned, she’ll just keep silent. Then, before her 3 mths was up, she announced tt her husband wants her back coz he’s going to Taiwan after all. I counseled her & questioned why she hv no intention to complete her contract then don’t take up the job with my family. Then all the different patterns emerge - her father is hospitalized, her morher’s foot got gangrene hv nobody look after her daughter so she have to quit! What can we say? We still bought a one-way air-tic to repatriate her, still pay her up to the last day of work in SG at the airport. She insists in counting her last pay even tho not familiar how to computation & questioned us for full month’s pay!
Anyway, Indonesia is too close for comfort & the “10 years series on how to get yr eyer to send you back” is circulated too commonly. So, I’m staying away fr both Indo & pino helpers now that I’ve a reasonable source thro my mission work.
My family hv had good helpers many many years’ ago. Mum has a very hardworking & kind pino who wld hold her bladder just to ensure she watches her every minute to prevent her fr falling. We had a very self-motivated Indo helper in my early years as a new mum and she stayed with us for more than 6 years until her kids hv all grown up & we gave her a few thousand extra to start her bz back home to care for her elderly parents. But thereafter, we’ve nvr had peace till our first success with Mynmarese & since then had been engaging helpers fr Mynmar.
I’ve learnt not to take girls fr Irrawaddy or Rarkine (don’t know Mynmar girls fr where else not suitable) but was told they’ve less idea abt work ethics, hardwork, hygiene, etc. My previous Mynmar helper who had helped mobilized quite a few girls to SG, had advised tt basically Chin State girls are required to hv primary education & learning the Burmese language is compulsory in that state. That also means they’re exposed to English as a subj but those good in written work may not be good at speaking. Some had good exposure in church bcoz of missionary reaching out to Chin State whilst we need to u’stand Mynmar comprises of very fragmented society so, some can’t even communicate with each other coz they don’t speak Burmese. In most parts of Mynmar, jobs are very hard to come by, so many are very sick & weak with little food to sustain them.
I’ve visited many orphanages & homes in the country & seen too much to briefly explain here. So, just sharing tt these girls may come to our h’hold with cultural shock (they don’t bring in clothes if it rains coz sun will dry it up again; they don’t need to sweep their floor coz they don’t hv homes with nice floors to upkeep just dust & some families live on stilted homes with connected poles & plastic sheets spread over for beds. Many hv homes in stench locations, little proper drainage or circulating air. Our bedroom may be where they call home for 4-5 in one family.
Those Mynmar girls who are able to pay for their passports are alr somewhere moving towards middle-class but still in the lower rungs of society comparing with the ultra rich (again may be our SG managers or director level in comparison). Many are mobilized & sent thro agents (who were their monks, pastor or village leaders who will provide ‘some English’ lessons they call training & meals of rice & a veg). All these so they’re to contribute their first few months of salary as gratitude). I’ve recently met such an agent, who claimed he shld charge more than 2 mths of these girls’ salary bcoz he trained them as oppose to SG agents who don’t train them & take 2 mths fr the girls.
If we point a finger at the girls who come here with fears & apprehensions, I find these ‘agents’ more oppressive. The audacity of how that ‘agebt’ I met thro his religious work to claim he shld be able to charge much more than our SG agents who had to pay license, accommodation & take on risks for which s’times are the results of girls who cldn’t fit into our fast-paced society.
It’s a nvr ending pain for everyone so long as we’re dealing with humans. Even those of our own (if u’ve heard of those local PT cleaners with their high expectations & averse for certain h’hold work). :slapshead:
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