All About Bullying
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janet88\" post_id=\"1960264\" time=\"1579663101\" user_id=\"12950:
Good for you. You’re your daughter’s guardian angel!
her buddy now changed and talking bad. don't know what happened.MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1960260\" time=\"1579662428\" user_id=\"43981:
what kind of bully, Janet?
I once told my gal that she has changed..she used to be very mild, gong gong type..and the reply was ..if I m not like this, some people will crawl to my head liao..I was taken back awhile..but well I agree to some extent. I just told her dont be too affected and change due to that..see look think, maybe people/issues target ba..
I told her to focus on her studies since it's just a few months to go.
will meet with her teacher to see what's going on after CNY. -
when in lower primary, dd cried on the spot as she was so embarrassed when one student make announcement of dd’s weight. I wouldn’t say it is bully as that gal may not know that it’s hurting the feeling. I told the teacher and let teacher settle and all is well I think.
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i told my daughter many times…friends do not badmouth. if they are toxic, it’s better to stay MILES AWAY from them.
it’s just another few more months before N levels…i would rather she focuses on her studies. most important thing now is to take her anti-depressant regularly, so that it will kick in and boost her mood. -
Years ago, my girl told me how a group of them was confronted by a mommy for not talking/playing with the daughter. Makes me wonder dunno who bully who.
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janet88\" post_id=\"1960415\" time=\"1579739445\" user_id=\"12950:
Oh dearie! Yr girl so young on anti-depressants? Hope she can be weaned off it once her N-levels ends. Best help her identify a delightful hobby so she can destress thro it.
i told my daughter many times...friends do not badmouth. if they are toxic, it's better to stay MILES AWAY from them.
it's just another few more months before N levels...i would rather she focuses on her studies. most important thing now is to take her anti-depressant regularly, so that it will kick in and boost her mood.
I had depression after my mum passed on & thankfully got myself out of it. Thereafter, I vowed nvr to get myself in a depression state, but it isn’t easy as life don’t always go the way u want it affecting you. Last year, after FIL frequent admission to hospital, I fell into depression. Immediately, I find ways to avert the situation by starting my edible garden. Now, I encourage my retired frds thro gifting them cuttings & small pots. It’s a fun & healthy hobby & so is the gardening community. Sth I like to do & bye-bye depression w/o chemical twitching. -
When I was in upper primary, there used to be a group of us girls who always hung out together during recess. Then dunno why suddenly one day got one particular girl J, came and gave me a card, on it she told me that she asked all of the others & they said they don’t want me to join them anymore. Because A said this bad thing about me, B said another bad thing about me, C said another…
I thought it was true & so I stopped spending time with them. After a long time, A came to me and asked am I ok, why I didn’t join them anymore. I told her the story and she said “Oh! That J ah, went and told each of us separately, some made-up badmouthing comments that the others said. Dunno what’s wrong with her?! Who made her the boss anyway?!”
Later on this J followed us to the secondary school also, I kept far far away from such toxic people cos dunno when they can backstab you again. Now she’s a big shot lawyer, using her manipulation skills well in her career I see. -
zac's mum\" post_id=\"1960437\" time=\"1579750805\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=1960437 time=1579750805 user_id=53606]
“Dead fish also bite till alive” type of toxicity? :rotflmao:
When I was in upper primary, there used to be a group of us girls who always hung out together during recess. Then dunno why suddenly one day got one particular girl J, came and gave me a card, on it she told me that she asked all of the others & they said they don’t want me to join them anymore. Because A said this bad thing about me, B said another bad thing about me, C said another...
I thought it was true & so I stopped spending time with them. After a long time, A came to me and asked am I ok, why I didn’t join them anymore. I told her the story and she said “Oh! That J ah, went and told each of us separately, some made-up badmouthing comments that the others said. Dunno what’s wrong with her?! Who made her the boss anyway?!”
Later on this J followed us to the secondary school also, I kept far far away from such toxic people cos dunno when they can backstab you again. Now she’s a big shot lawyer, using her manipulation skills well in her career I see.[/quote] -
zac's mum\" post_id=\"1960437\" time=\"1579750805\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=1960437 time=1579750805 user_id=53606]
That is really awful! Hope you weren't scarred.
When I was in upper primary, there used to be a group of us girls who always hung out together during recess. Then dunno why suddenly one day got one particular girl J, came and gave me a card, on it she told me that she asked all of the others & they said they don’t want me to join them anymore. Because A said this bad thing about me, B said another bad thing about me, C said another...
I thought it was true & so I stopped spending time with them. After a long time, A came to me and asked am I ok, why I didn’t join them anymore. I told her the story and she said “Oh! That J ah, went and told each of us separately, some made-up badmouthing comments that the others said. Dunno what’s wrong with her?! Who made her the boss anyway?!”
Later on this J followed us to the secondary school also, I kept far far away from such toxic people cos dunno when they can backstab you again. Now she’s a big shot lawyer, using her manipulation skills well in her career I see.[/quote] -
doodbug\" post_id=\"1960443\" time=\"1579753667\" user_id=\"13281:
She’s made stronger for that. Know the failure in human character bldg. It’s good that the other frd verified with her for the absence. She’s now such a blessing to KSP community! Hope her DS is well blessed with good frdships in sch. The best is yet to be!
That is really awful! Hope you weren't scarred.[/quote]zac's mum\" post_id=\"1960437\" time=\"1579750805\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=1960437 time=1579750805 user_id=53606]When I was in upper primary, there used to be a group of us girls who always hung out together during recess. Then dunno why suddenly one day got one particular girl J, came and gave me a card, on it she told me that she asked all of the others & they said they don’t want me to join them anymore. Because A said this bad thing about me, B said another bad thing about me, C said another...
I thought it was true & so I stopped spending time with them. After a long time, A came to me and asked am I ok, why I didn’t join them anymore. I told her the story and she said “Oh! That J ah, went and told each of us separately, some made-up badmouthing comments that the others said. Dunno what’s wrong with her?! Who made her the boss anyway?!”
Later on this J followed us to the secondary school also, I kept far far away from such toxic people cos dunno when they can backstab you again. Now she’s a big shot lawyer, using her manipulation skills well in her career I see. -
People whose love language is “words of affirmation”, they are more susceptible to feeling down when hearing nasty & mean comments from others, especially if coming from trusted friends and loved ones.
Somebody taught me that it’s hard to just “ignore” what they said, because the words just keep repeating & repeating in your thoughts, at vulnerable times or before sleep.
The better way is to fill your head with positive words instead. Recall the loving words that others have said about you. Keep encouraging cards that others have written to you, listen to cheery/upbeat/spiritual songs to fill up your mood tank. These will cancel and drown out the naysaying thoughts over time.
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