All About Full-Time Maids

[tamarind]

Si Si:

tamarind:

janet_lee,

What is most frustrating is that there are so many people who think that all employers are villains and maids are the victims. There are so many laws protecting the maid, but no laws protecting the employers.

These people really need to be educated about the real situation about maids in Singapore.

You are absolutely right tamarind!!! :salute:

But I got a feeling that whoever set all these laws may somehow knew and heard enough horrible stories. It is just that they have to \"favor\" those FDW more as to keep the good ties between countries. To be fair, the serious crimes are also being dealt with seriously. Just to name a few recent casesssssssssss ..... :x

You are right about keeping the good ties.

[tamarind]

janet_lee88:

When the employer or employer's mother is murdered, then it is too late to say anything. Then the maid will be given a lawyer and prove that she has a mental problem...she gets jail term while employer mourns the loss of his/her parent. IS THIS FAIR ?


Babies/employer gets poisoned by soap powder or urine. Why are we employers always at the losing end ?

The most unfair part was when the maid turned around and accused the dead employer of abusing her. Like in the Bukit Merah case in which mother and daugher were killed by the maid. Then everyone will pity the maid, and everyone thought that the employer got what she deserved ! Who really knows what is the truth ? Why are people so ready to believe the maid ? Because the dead cannot speak for herself.

[janet88]

Indonesian maids are reputed to be liars. That maid claimed that she was deprived of food but police found that she was lying.

That case is really really sad. Mother and daughter died in maid’s hands, then the father lose all interest in life and died as a result. Now the boy is an orphan at such a young age.

Maids who kill their employers always get off the hook when their country appoints a lawyer, then show some evidence saying she has diminished responsibility and so not liable for murder charge.

[verykiasu2010]

janet_lee88:

Indonesian maids are reputed to be liars. That maid claimed that she was deprived of food but police found that she was lying.

That case is really really sad. Mother and daughter died in maid's hands, then the father lose all interest in life and died as a result. Now the boy is an orphan at such a young age.

Maids who kill their employers always get off the hook when their country appoints a lawyer, then show some evidence saying she has diminished responsibility and so not liable for murder charge.

I have 4 indo maids for the last 15 years ... no liars ... very good

[janet88]

verykiasu2010,

You are very lucky…except for my first maid, the rest lied about everything. I chose not to believe what they tell me, maybe at most believe 20%. HaHaHa.

[verykiasu2010]

janet_lee88:

verykiasu2010,

You are very lucky...except for my first maid, the rest lied about everything. I chose not to believe what they tell me, maybe at most believe 20%. HaHaHa.

as a guide we don't want anyone from Jakarta or west java region, or those too experienced one

critically important is to pray for discernment before selecting maids for those who are Christians

[tamarind]

I had both filipino and indonesian maids who were liars


My current Indonesian maid is very honest and reliable.

[hquek]

It all depends on the person - nationality may not be all important.


I had only Indo maids. Both were liars - but becos the areas they lie in are not critical, so I'll choose to close one eye.

When things break under their watch, it's usually not them who did it - I have to attribute this to 'hantu'. When they clean the house, they NEVER notice anything, eg a misplaced toy. But quite strange in that when we talking about them, their eyes will dart very fast in our direction.

Fairly sure I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

[janet88]

hquek:

It all depends on the person - nationality may not be all important.


I had only Indo maids. Both were liars - but becos the areas they lie in are not critical, so I'll choose to close one eye.

When things break under their watch, it's usually not them who did it - I have to attribute this to 'hantu'. When they clean the house, they NEVER notice anything, eg a misplaced toy. But quite strange in that when we talking about them, their eyes will dart very fast in our direction.

Fairly sure I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

Dear hquek,
Whenever I talk to my friends on the phone, my maids will hang around.
Strangely I don't understand who is the one breaking plates/bowls, misplaced toys either. Anyway, those are the days of having a maid. I don't use my Corelle bowls and plates when I had maids, now I do.

[hquek]

janet_lee88:

Dear hquek,
Whenever I talk to my friends on the phone, my maids will hang around.
Strangely I don't understand who is the one breaking plates/bowls, misplaced toys either. Anyway, those are the days of having a maid. I don't use my Corelle bowls and plates when I had maids, now I do.

hantu...hantu....when they deny, I'll just say, ok, hantu do one. I'm fine if they admit. in fact, I never raise my voice if they tell me they were responsible.

I have a grohe showerhead ($300 plus for that miserable thing alone) in my master bathroom. Within months, the head started coming loose...but of course, she never dropped it - I didn't also and I should know. Still living with that showerhead, and anything that spoilt, I never bother to replace with quality ones....cheap ones will do.

I just find it very funny. Give instructions, they all tak tahu (dun understand). Gossip about people/her, the eyes will brighten up and ears all pricked up.

Taking all this in stride - a joke to me. Life is too short to have to mull over these.