All About Full-Time Maids
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starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"1960291\" time=\"1579669756\" user_id=\"14025:
Seems like the agent was very unethical too. :mad:
https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/police-arrest-maid-after-cctv-recording-shows-her-dipping-toddlers-hand-in
Hurting pple is bad, hurting the young and old who are defenceless is unpardonable
https://www.facebook.com/amylml/posts/10157794959587086
[quote]I never thought this would happened to my daughter. Because of commitments in life, both my husband and I have to work, hence we decided to hire a maid, to look after our 16 month old girl. Little did we know, this was the beginning of our nightmare.
It happened on 14 Jan, 5.13pm. The maid was at home with both my daughters, 8year old and 16month old. At 5.20pm, my 8year old called my husband up and told him that my 16month old had suffered a burnt. We were shocked and rushed our girl to a nearby clinic, but the doctor thought it was too serious a burn wound hence referred us to hospital a&e instead.
Since the maid started working, we had told her that her priority is always to look after our girl and never to bring our girl into the kitchen. We can always take away dinner and there is no need for her to cook. I questioned the maid and she explained that it was an accident.
She was carrying my girl while cooking in the kitchen and that my daughter ‘touched’ the pot by herself and the maid didn’t expect it to happen as it happened too quick. We chose to believe her even when the doctor at a&e had some doubts in the cause of the burnt wounds.
Next day morning, the maid packed all her belongings and insisted to go back to the agency. I kept assuring her that we never blamed her, as it was just an accident, she can still stay on and work for us. But she was very insistent hence I called the agency up.
The agent told me that he would get someone to pick up the maid, and take it as a transfer case (to transfer the maid out to another family), so that the 6 months loan that I have paid for the maid could be returned to me. I chose to believe and listen to the agent.
I felt something was amissed and I decided to check the CCTV footage at home while waiting for the maid to be picked up. And what I saw was horrifying.
The maid, she did it on purpose! ！！It was never an accident! She took my daughter’s hand and dipped her hand inside a boiling pot.
I was shaking throughout and made a police report immediately.
While waiting for the police, I notified the agent of what had happened. The agent started to be agitated and insisted that we should return the maid to agency and end it just like that.
Before the police arrived, I questioned the maid why did she do that to my daughter. She said she wants to go home, she said that her friends taught her to do it, so that she could go home.
And when I asked if the agent was also involved, she said yes – he said that I could go home if I do this! How horrifying! (The maid came to work for us for about a month and she did mention that she wants to go home 2 weeks ago, but all was settled after the agent met and spoke it her. Did the agent teach her to do that when they met?)
During this period, the agent kept threatening and harassing me. Accused me that I am a bad employer – that I abuse the maid hence the maid wanted to leave, which I never do.
The agent’s behavior had gone way over the boundaries hence I made another police report, as I was really frightened that the agent would do something to my family.
But the outcome was disappointing, the police mentioned that unless the agent harassed us again, else they won’t be taking any further action.
I always thought that the police is for the people, this is Singapore, this is supposed to be one of the safest countries in the world, but no, the police can’t do much unless something fatal happened?
I chose to believe in the maid, and she hurt my daughter.
I chose to believe in the agent, and he could be the one who is behind all these.
I chose to have faith in the law and the police force but all I get is to wait for something else to happen before they could really take any further action.
There is nothing I want more than justice for my daughter, is that too much?
I won’t be disclosing further information of the agency. But I plea that all of you to keep a close eye on your domestic helpers.[/quote] -
Majority of SG agencies are to some small & big extent limiting their liabilities, defecting either to the FDW or push to eyers to bear.
Unlike in the very old days, where helpers are at least trained more thoroughly, the current generation of FDWs are entitlement orientated & what they learned are mostly fr peer FDWs how to “get out of contract” to cut short their woes the moment things are not within manage (incidence which wld hv been averted if proper training are given). H’ever, I must qualify there are those in this generation of FDWs with poor attitude, not wanting to give their best foot fwd.
I hope in good time, MOM can establish compulsory & comprehensive FDW training that goes beyond a one-day familiarization or what they call settling-in course. Many things cannot sink into a young girl’s mind so immediately esp when they’ve nvr leave home/travelled out of their country & the mind and emotions are cluttered. They’re easy prey to negative influences. IMHO, a new girl need more than a day to learn abt a diff culture & to behave in a society w/o taking things to a violent end. Sad -
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GDDmd1epc4E] [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fZLbDiQyfrg]
As the Father narrate and \"reenact\" the incident, can tell that the poor girl is mentally scarred... \"Luckily\", it's just hands and not somewhere else like the face. -
chenlaoshi\" post_id=\"1960374\" time=\"1579703718\" user_id=\"162894:
Sighs what a lousy and vile maid....no surprise where she's from as well....the maids from that particular place I've not heard many good things about them.....stubborn, not trained...come here as princess for holiday.....very self entitled...not here to work hard for $$....I think more regulations should be in place for them ( from Myanmmar)- Often times i think they just push these young girls here and these 'young girls' dont know what is expected of them in a 'helpers' role....
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GDDmd1epc4E] [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fZLbDiQyfrg]
As the Father narrate and \"reenact\" the incident, can tell that the poor girl is mentally scarred... \"Luckily\", it's just hands and not somewhere else like the face. -
yes a good maid is too hard to find
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Hi friends with babies or kids, do you allow your helped to take care of your babies when they wake up in the middle of the night? or do you guys do that yourself? Just wondering if I should let my helper sleep in the baby’s room to help if anything.
On a side note, does any have an electricity retailer to recommend for a home with 3 adults and 1 baby? Our consumption has increased quite a bit and was considering switching to Senoko Energy - they have an online promo with lower rates. -
from my istborn to 4thborn ,i handle my own kids at night.helper is mainly doing household chores and handling of kids daytime.I want her to have ample sleep and rest .By handling my kids myself at night, the bonding is still there
Am using Geneco for my home electricity. -
We nvr let helpers to bathe or night feed kids. Our kids know who are the parents. Yes. It’s the bonding that’s impt.
We use Tuas Power -
We handle kids personally at all times. Helpers only perform household chore.
Using Sembcorp. -
I alway wanted to hire a full-time maid but I am worry about living with a ‘stranger’ kind of feeling.
Any advice on this?
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