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    All About Bullying

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    • EstéemaE Offline
      Estéema
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      janet88\" post_id=\"1962441\" time=\"1581037446\" user_id=\"12950:

      hi Slmkhoo,
      I had my normal chitchat with daughter last night. she told me the F&N teacher passed some remarks about ME letting my daughter going for braces this year. maybe I'm sensitive, but should an educator make such remarks about the parent in front of the child? I certainly hope this is not true but it seems she also overturned daughter's school bag to check if her mobile phone was inside. this is outright humiliating :mad:

      I'm trying to calm myself down and not do anything rash...but I am really pissed about her :censored: behaviour.
      the other thing is, should teachers make them stand throughout the lesson if the students can't answer the question? this is not the way to educate.

      it's so embarrassing my daughter is in an all girls' school which has been around for so long.
      You might like to hv a nice Kopi chat with the P abt helping your girl fit well and reduce stress & sensitivity in class. Side comments on how a student look is uncalled for unless it lacks decency or decorum. Educators shld be patient & kind, not reactive & unkind. Act immediately dear Janet.

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      • janet88J Offline
        janet88
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        hi esteema,

        I'm at my wit's end regarding the teachers' treatment towards her.
        I really hope what she told me is not true, but that would mean daughter is lying...equally bad if not worse.

        just called the school counsellor. she will try to find out more and return my call next week.
        to make things worse, it's not one teacher but 3 :faint:

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        • EstéemaE Offline
          Estéema
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          janet88\" post_id=\"1962447\" time=\"1581038700\" user_id=\"12950:

          hi esteema,
          I'm at my wit's end regarding the teachers' treatment towards her.
          I really hope what she told me is not true, but that would mean daughter is lying...equally bad if not worse.

          just called the school counsellor. she will try to find out more and return my call next week.
          to make things worse, it's not one teacher but 3 :faint:
          2 other chers? What did the others do?

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          • janet88J Offline
            janet88
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            Estéema\" post_id=\"1962458\" time=\"1581040898\" user_id=\"66413:

            2 other chers? What did the others do?
            one made her stand throughout the lesson when she can't answer questions (seriously, is this the way to educate?)
            I thought if students can't answer, the teacher would tell them to sit and explain.

            the other one would make remarks like, 'is this work done with your tutor's help? or something related?'
            what biz is his if the student has tutor?
            I hope I'm not seen as an over-reacting parent...but in this modern time, this is not the way to teach.

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            • EstéemaE Offline
              Estéema
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              janet88\" post_id=\"1962462\" time=\"1581042252\" user_id=\"12950:

              Estéema\" post_id=\"1962458\" time=\"1581040898\" user_id=\"66413:

              2 other chers? What did the others do?

              one made her stand throughout the lesson when she can't answer questions (seriously, is this the way to educate?)
              I thought if students can't answer, the teacher would tell them to sit and explain.

              the other one would make remarks like, 'is this work done with your tutor's help? or something related?'
              what biz is his if the student has tutor?
              I hope I'm not seen as an over-reacting parent...but in this modern time, this is not the way to teach.

              Sounds like the chers hv very little faith in students being able to be independent or they don’t show themselves to be independent. Educators need to be encouraging & positive, always lifting the confidence of kids to try on their own & strengthen their own wings. I recall the MediaCorp had an ad where the teacher started writing a “D” but she turn it into encouraging the student for positive & constructive action.

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              • FunzF Offline
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                janet88\" post_id=\"1962447\" time=\"1581038700\" user_id=\"12950:

                hi esteema,
                I'm at my wit's end regarding the teachers' treatment towards her.
                I really hope what she told me is not true, but that would mean daughter is lying...equally bad if not worse.

                just called the school counsellor. she will try to find out more and return my call next week.
                to make things worse, it's not one teacher but 3 :faint:
                If your daughter is lying, I think it is easier to resolve as you can manage from there. If 3 teachers are truly targeting her or this callous, that is something you cannot control as they are external factors so that will be a lot more difficult.

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                  Funz
                  last edited by

                  janet88\" post_id=\"1962462\" time=\"1581042252\" user_id=\"12950:

                  Estéema\" post_id=\"1962458\" time=\"1581040898\" user_id=\"66413:

                  2 other chers? What did the others do?

                  one made her stand throughout the lesson when she can't answer questions (seriously, is this the way to educate?)
                  I thought if students can't answer, the teacher would tell them to sit and explain.

                  the other one would make remarks like, 'is this work done with your tutor's help? or something related?'
                  what biz is his if the student has tutor?
                  I hope I'm not seen as an over-reacting parent...but in this modern time, this is not the way to teach.

                  Stand throughout the lesson is unnecessary. Did the teacher explain to her what she did not know how to answer eventually?

                  As for the 2nd teacher, depends on the tchr's tone I guess. If he is just trying to know if your DD truly understood the lesson and was able to do her work without help or she needed additional help to complete that piece of work, that would be something commendable actually. Not many teachers bother to find out, they just deliver their lessons, mark the work and that's it.

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                  • janet88J Offline
                    janet88
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                    snide remarks are definitely uncalled for. educators are supposed to be encouraging.

                    as for daughter's tutor, I did mention during last year's PTM that the tutor doesn't participate in school homework.

                    the class didn't understand what the math teacher taught, and she made a remark saying that what she taught the day before was wasted :slapshead:

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                      Funz\" post_id=\"1962475\" time=\"1581045816\" user_id=\"6230:

                      janet88\" post_id=\"1962462\" time=\"1581042252\" user_id=\"12950:

                      [quote=Estéema post_id=1962458 time=1581040898 user_id=66413]2 other chers? What did the others do?

                      one made her stand throughout the lesson when she can't answer questions (seriously, is this the way to educate?)
                      I thought if students can't answer, the teacher would tell them to sit and explain.

                      the other one would make remarks like, 'is this work done with your tutor's help? or something related?'
                      what biz is his if the student has tutor?
                      I hope I'm not seen as an over-reacting parent...but in this modern time, this is not the way to teach.

                      Stand throughout the lesson is unnecessary. Did the teacher explain to her what she did not know how to answer eventually?

                      As for the 2nd teacher, depends on the tchr's tone I guess. If he is just trying to know if your DD truly understood the lesson and was able to do her work without help or she needed additional help to complete that piece of work, that would be something commendable actually. Not many teachers bother to find out, they just deliver their lessons, mark the work and that's it.[/quote]If everyone else received the same punishment, then the teacher wasn't just picking on the DD. Punishment may be inappropriate but could it be an escalation from previous incidents?

                      As for #2, I was also thinking the same as Funz. Could it be coz she has been struggling and then she put up a perfect piece of homewk? I used to have a student who was not interested in learning but just me helping her to complete her work.

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                        Bullying is happening everywhere especially in schools. To think bullying only happens between kids but it also happens with teachers. I have my fair share of my child encountering bullies. My child once have a teacher that likes to give unsolicited comments that I find it very unprofessional of her. If you do not wish to encourage the students, by all means but don’t give unsolicited comments to bring them down especially when they are in their final year of school. Still, it never ends there. You thought changing schools will get better but then there is always others that we are not able to stop. Sad to say that teachers of today are no longer the way they used to; passionate and caring for kids. If you find one, that teacher is a rare gem amongst the many out there. There is no wrong in helping your child get through this bully. Disregard those who say you are over protective of your child coz it did not happen to them! If situation were to turn around, I am sure these people would share the same sentiments with you.That is why we are all made parents! We are here to protect our child until they are ready to fly. Talk to your child frequently and not put it aside until it is too late to resolve bullying issue. This is just my opinion.

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