Working with P3 stress

[vlim]

my ds was in mbs from p1 to p3. Now he is p5. I have a daughter who is 3 yr younger then my son. I could not remember whether my ds felt jealous after my dd is born but he could be very stubborn at time. So my husband and I would always try to make sure that we show equal loves to both of them. Oh ya he ever did say that he got scolded for quarrelling with mei mei and mei mei didn't get scolded by us..something like that. But now, both of them are pretty ok with each other.

One of my friends told me that her daughter , beginning of p1, would have stomach ach when it was time to go school and she also didn't like to go to school then. So after much 'investigation' my friend realised that there was a girl 'bully' who was in the same study group as her dd, liked to bully her dd. So she approached the form teacher and asked the form teacher to change group for her dd. The problem was then solved subsequently.
So don't give up. Continue to find the solution ... :hugs:

[shn]

Oh my girl jus got counsel today . Conclusion positive !!! No emotional problems. Phew!!! Wat a relief! Maybe that tr abit k s but she is really helpful! I must thank the tr or else Till now, I myself still can’t figure out my daughter need attention! Now she comlain tat she can’t see the board clearly, poor vision reading books. So I brought her to optician! 2 opticians!!! Know what ??? While reading she complain she can’t see those big letter words then optician say they suspect ard 200• deg!!! It give me a shock! Then she was taken to the computer screening ! Result came out was nothing… both different shop sAy the same thing! I am really out of my wits! Dun know what will be her next move?

[vlim]

shn:

Oh my girl jus got counsel today . Conclusion positive !!! No emotional problems. Phew!!! Wat a relief! Maybe that tr abit k s but she is really helpful! I must thank the tr or else Till now, I myself still can't figure out my daughter need attention! Now she comlain tat she can't see the board clearly, poor vision reading books. So I brought her to optician! 2 opticians!!! Know what ??? While reading she complain she can't see those big letter words then optician say they suspect ard 200• deg!!! It give me a shock! Then she was taken to the computer screening ! Result came out was nothing....... both different shop sAy the same thing! I am really out of my wits! Dun know what will be her next move?

glad u have found the answer! :rahrah:

[shirley.020816tamzil]

I think with siblings, there bound to be jealousy. My DS1 & DS2 age gap is 6yrs, so DS1 (P3) will complain that I always 'play' with his brother and not him. I now arranged for DS2 to be placed in nursery school during the day so I can spend my time with my DS1. During the evenings, when DS2 is back home, then DS1 will get to spend some time with his dad while I play with DS2. This arrangements have been working quite well, sometime DS1 tells me that he misses his brother and can't wait for him to get home. I think will continue to do this until DS1 grows out of this attention craving stage.


For the complaints in school, take it seriously, talk to your daughter about it and show her that you care abt her problems. Probably she thinks that u pay attentions to her only bcos she has complains or problems. I think for these type of situations, need to be really patient and show her that u geniuinely care abt her (problems or not)....

[MOE Hater]

i second your thoughts

[JonC]

P3 stress? What stress?


It’s normal.

P2 to P3 syllabus, there is a big jump in the familiar 3 subjects.

On top, there is still Science.

If you think this is stress, you will have a high blood pressure when P4 go P5 and you will have heart attack in P6.

Just relax, get to know the syllabus, teach them if you can, get tuition if you can affort. Give them more practice and leave the rest to the children and the one above.

Just tell her she has put in her best, its ok, you can make it by doing this and this, etc. But make sure you are giving the right advise and teaching in her work.

You can also split the job with your spouse, one person in charge of 1 kid.

[MOE Hater]

JonC:

If you think this is stress, you will have a high blood pressure when P4 go P5 and you will have heart attack in P6.

A HEART ATTACK IN P6. now that would be a dream come through :lol: it's not 1 minute of intense pain. Take this from a P6er, its more like a migrane. YES, a migrane. a headache that simply won't stop , burden you wherever you go , drives you up the wall :x , makes you clutch your head and scream in agony :stupid: but there is no permenant cure so you have to tolerate it till the end (i.e.PSLE) :roll: . Though one has to admit i am exagerrating a little too much. its really not that bad especially when you balance work and play(yes, yes, possible in doom year :lol: ), like doses of panadol to ease the pain. Don't go overboard though, too much can affect you in the long run.

[corneyAmber]

I never knew what stress is until I have my kid.


Prior to that, exam is not stressful to me, climbing corporate ladder is also not stressful to me. Not because I am a superwoman but I believe my life was well-paced and probably some choices I made along the way, i.e. not being overly competitive for everything, helps.

But now the education that kids are getting seem to stress them at a tender age. Why?

I think we need to do a poll to understand if the push-factor stress is predominantly from:

A. MOE because curriculum is overly advanced for certain age group?
B. School/Principal/Teacher because of KPI?
C. Parents because cannot lose out?
D. Parents because child is really not keeping up? (this one is linked to A/B)
E. Child's own expectation?
F. Child really cannot keep up?

Until we know this, it is hard to be diagnostic about the problem.

Btw, for me, my stress with my child is not about studies at all so A-F does not apply to me yet but I am concerned because P3 is just round the corner.