All About Parenting Teenagers
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jho48109\" post_id=\"1997973\" time=\"1602044147\" user_id=\"165799:[quote=jho48109 post_id=1997973 time=1602044147 user_id=165799]
5 Mistakes Parents Make With Teens and Tweens
2. Reading Too Many Parenting Books
Certainly agree with this.
Opinions and Skills taught in books may not work well on our child. Every kid is an individual. I take them as information and apply them wisely.
Thks for useful info
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MrDenver\" post_id=\"1998248\" time=\"1602228972\" user_id=\"185142:
Be careful about incentives - kids may regard them as \"payment\", and in future will want something for anything that they do. It's better to first convince him that it is his duty to do some of these chores, and spare his parents from having to pick up after him. If you have a maid, it may be a harder sell.
Hi fellow parents out there!
I would like to get some advice on how I can cultivate a habit for my 13yo boy. I would like him to have the habit to organise his bed and room every morning and also the habit to help out with housework.
Do you guys have any tips on how to cultivate a habit? Should I incentivise him or something?
I would use a penalty system to start with - keep a record of whether he did what he was supposed to do, and deprive him of something if he fails to do it. Make it linked - if he doesn't organise his bed, wake him up 10 mins early so he has time to do it, or deprive him of TV/computer/phone time until he does what he's supposed to. Depending on what housework you want him to do, work out some \"deprivation penalty\" as well.
Work on 1 chore at a time so you aren't fighting on too many fronts at once. And when/if he remembers all the time for a week, give him a reward or treat of some kind to show how much you appreciate it. The main thing is not to promise it ahead of time as that becomes a payment or bribe. -
Good advice!
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From an unfortunate incidence in which an adult female was slapped by a teenager, we can understand that it doesn't happened just because he turned teen from tween. It is the expectation and habit that were developed from his brought up.
Master Parent vs Tiger Parent.
Reward to Encourage or Punish to Deter totally depends on individual child. I will go for the soft approach
Parenting is so challenging but rewarding
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EarthQuek\" post_id=\"1998298\" time=\"1602294142\" user_id=\"183435:
When I say \"penalty\", I don't mean \"punishment\" - more like \"natural consequence\". In my family, it's explained that certain things take priority, such as chores. If they are not done, then less important things have to give way. No anger, no shouting, no beating.
From an unfortunate incidence in which an adult female was slapped by a teenager, we can understand that it doesn't happened just because he turned teen from tween. It is the expectation and habit that were developed from his brought up.
Master Parent vs Tiger Parent.
Reward to Encourage or Punish to Deter totally depends on individual child. I will go for the soft approach Parenting is so challenging but rewarding
:grphug: :celebrate: -
Hi parents! I desperately need advice here! My 15 yrs old son grades are not improving and I feel like he has lost interest in studies…
My husband and I never scolded him if he fails in any of the subject all we did was encouraged him to try harder.
But recently he has been doing badly in this EOY.
I am so worried that next year will be his national exam. Tuition is the last thing we think about because if he doesn’t show any interest or if he doesn’t want to help himself nobody can.
So parents out there I really need some advise.
Thank you -
mumof8\" post_id=\"2000087\" time=\"1603501604\" user_id=\"128362:
Do you know why his grades are slipping? Does HE know why his grades are slipping? Assuming no bad habits or discipline issues, it could be that he is discouraged. He may be \"trying harder\" but not improving, and he may need to change how he studies. You might want to investigate this further with him and his teachers.
Hi parents! I desperately need advice here! My 15 yrs old son grades are not improving and I feel like he has lost interest in studies...
My husband and I never scolded him if he fails in any of the subject all we did was encouraged him to try harder.
But recently he has been doing badly in this EOY.
I am so worried that next year will be his national exam. Tuition is the last thing we think about because if he doesn't show any interest or if he doesn't want to help himself nobody can.
So parents out there I really need some advise.
Thank you
Other common reasons for teens losing motivation are girlfriends, computer games, etc. Another one might be not knowing what he wants to do in the future, and not seeing how his grades affect this. -
slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2000089\" time=\"1603501913\" user_id=\"28674:
Did he put in the effort to study? If has effort but no positive outcome then could be the studying methods. If no effort and no positive outcome, then yah let's see why are there no efforts.
Do you know why his grades are slipping? Does HE know why his grades are slipping? Assuming no bad habits or discipline issues, it could be that he is discouraged. He may be \"trying harder\" but not improving, and he may need to change how he studies. You might want to investigate this further with him and his teachers.mumof8\" post_id=\"2000087\" time=\"1603501604\" user_id=\"128362:
Hi parents! I desperately need advice here! My 15 yrs old son grades are not improving and I feel like he has lost interest in studies...
My husband and I never scolded him if he fails in any of the subject all we did was encouraged him to try harder.
But recently he has been doing badly in this EOY.
I am so worried that next year will be his national exam. Tuition is the last thing we think about because if he doesn't show any interest or if he doesn't want to help himself nobody can.
So parents out there I really need some advise.
Thank you
Other common reasons for teens losing motivation are girlfriends, computer games, etc. Another one might be not knowing what he wants to do in the future, and not seeing how his grades affect this. -
mumof8\" post_id=\"2000087\" time=\"1603501604\" user_id=\"128362:
If he has worked hard and yet grades slipping, maybe it is time to consider tuition. I am not saying tuition is a must but sometimes, if the student did not get his foundation right, the issues will just snowball and he might find it harder and harder to rectify. As a result, he might lose interest entirely or just want to give up. And it is sometimes hard to seek help from teachers in school. Maybe if there is a patient person who can point out where he has not been getting right and point him in the right direction, it would help?
Hi parents! I desperately need advice here! My 15 yrs old son grades are not improving and I feel like he has lost interest in studies...
My husband and I never scolded him if he fails in any of the subject all we did was encouraged him to try harder.
But recently he has been doing badly in this EOY.
I am so worried that next year will be his national exam. Tuition is the last thing we think about because if he doesn't show any interest or if he doesn't want to help himself nobody can.
So parents out there I really need some advise.
Thank you
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