Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know?
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Wow, Good Thread…
Because my helper of 5.5 years will be leaving end of Nov 10. She has been with us since my DS was a mth old and my DD1 2. [my DD2 is 3 mths]
We are going thru a prolonged "handing and taking" over period for the last 3 mths we were operating with 2 helpers [1st is Phil, new one is from Myanmar]. Hopefully by the time the older one leaves, the new on would knowour habits etc.
Stressful time for DW & I.
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Hi
My helper also leaving end Nov 10 too after 7 yrs. She came when my no.2 was born. Thereafter, I had 2 more and these are the two who are very attached to her. I have already told all 4 of them recently and I can only say that the 4yr old would be the one who will miss her terribly as he always look for her for "shelter" when I punished him. The 2yr old may not understand yet until the reality sinks in. As for the two older ones, I think they understand it quite well and I told them they would be the "auntie" to help me on household chores…ha ha. We planned to bring all of them to airport for a meal and to send her off. -
Sounds exactly like mine.... I sent off my maid of 7 years too 2 years back. Terrible experience for the past 2 maids after her departure until I got this current one (the 3rd)...
I bought her a gold bangle as her wedding gift (as she's going home to get marry & to settle down). As a token of appreciation after all these years, we paid her 1 extra month.
We had a meal with her at the airport and bid goodbye to her...
I & my elder cried like a baby... (my hb took photographs of us with red swallon eyes and had it mailed over to her) as I had her during my pregnancy for my first child, I treated her like my younger sister. We really cant bare the separation at that moment... Till to-date, we're still in contact with her via phone.. sms.. letters from my elder son.
While I'm happy that she's now married with a daughter and lead a happy life there
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hi there,
wanted to share with you my personal experience. same thing happened to me in jan. i had a maid for close to 6 years and helped us alot, taking care of my dad and my eldest boy since he was a kid. she had to leave due to some family matters and it was quite sudden.
my kid was just 5 then and he just cried and cried for a whole 1 month almost. i took the approach of telling him that she has own family and stuff so she has to take care of her own family now. but i helped him keep in touch with her through phone calls twice a month. what to do? good maids are hard to come by! -
This is an old thread, but I really need some cathartic writing and release. Also, it helps tremendously to read some of your writing here, as I can't seem to find much on employers' feelings when their helpers return home. All I get when I googled was a bunch of maid abuse stories, or 'horror stories' of maids doing 'stuff'/running away.
Like some of you who posted above...
My helper of 2 years left yesterday, not just because the contract was up (she wanted to continue working), but because of circumstances back home, she needed to return for her young son's sake. When I found out the news a few months ago I was already heartbroken, but went on to get a replacement helper. The new helper had an overlap of a week...
My kids said goodbye to her last night just before they went to bed, while I was sobbing my eyes out. I was and am surprised by my own emotions, that I am so affected. I suppose the last two years with me, she has became my ally, my partner in crime in raising the children, and we sure did have our ups and downs! But gosh I am so, so affected and am so down about her leaving. I know she needs to go home, and she has my full blessings, but we will all miss her so much. The kids haven't really missed her yet; we have been prepping them from the start, that she has to return home soon. But I suppose kids doesn't understand the permanence of things... ah well.
I wish more of you could share your feelings/emotions and stories here, of your dear helpers who have been such great help and bonded with the families over the years! I definitely needed this space to share this, and to cry a bit more (ahhh I'm doing this at work, ugh, my sore eyes!)
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Hi Reiann,
Thanks for reviving this post. I am reading it today as my helper of 3.5 years gave us her resignation yesterday and I am heart broken.
She had been with us since our girl was 7months young. And like many had mentioned they are like our comrades through the tough times. She even remembers my girl's skin care cream and itchiness issues better than I do. We travelled together to Macau, Penang and many weekends in HK Ocean Parks together.
However she is choosing to go unite with her sister who applied a job for her in Canada. The job conditions are so much better and her possibility of spending weekend with her sister is not something that HK can offer, hence I understand her reason to go. But it saddens me that she has all these in mind without some heads up to me, in fact just 2 weeks ago, she agreed she is going to continue the 3 contract. Then this happen...
She was actually applying to go Canada, then why don't tell us. We had been very open about our relationship, like friend and treat her like our family.
Well, I'm getting pass the stage of all these questioning and self doubt and just want to give her my blessings.
She has been a wonderful help and much like our family staying with us in Malaysia and Singapore over cny or even travelling from Malaysia back to HK with my daughter and my Mom.
What left now is some sadness. Sadness that it will be so different without her and wonder how to let the news out to my daughter and then it is the day of good bye.
How many times she had seen me cry over home family issues, baby issues and now crying over her letter... She is a friend afterall.
Just want to post here... And if anyone wanna comment, or advise, feel free.. -
It’s hard to find a faithful maid nowadays and it’s even harder if you have found one and will leave you for good. The bond you have will never be replaced. But for cases like this you have no choice but to let go… as for those who are left behind, with the technology that we have I think you’ll be able to still communicate with each other until the time comes that they have accepted she’s far away now. Time heal all wounds, you just have to be patient.
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it’s time to let go means it’s time. It’s inevitable that one day your maid will leave. Question is only when
the only time I heard of maids not leaving is when some family member marries the maid. very bizarre. -
lol marrying a maid
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it's time to let go means it's time. It's inevitable that one day your maid will leave. Question is only when
the only time I heard of maids not leaving is when some family member marries the maid. very bizarre.
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