All About Full-Time Maids
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Angelight:
On the same page, the employer was fined S$5k for slapping the maid.....Today's TODAY paper pg 12: \"Lie lands Indonesian maid in jail\" should serve as a warning to all employers and potential employers.
Its incredible how low some maids would stoop to get what they want like accusing their employer of abuse or molest just to get a transfer. I empathise totally with the employer's father in this case. I should know. I'm also a victim of such a maid from hell. -
Angelight:
Hi Angellight, Sorry to hear of your bad experience. I heard of story where maid falsely accuse the employer hubby of rape. By the time the case go to trial and hubby was cleared, he lost his job. Like that we, SGPn sure to lose.Today's TODAY paper pg 12: \"Lie lands Indonesian maid in jail\" should serve as a warning to all employers and potential employers.
Its incredible how low some maids would stoop to get what they want like accusing their employer of abuse or molest just to get a transfer. I empathise totally with the employer's father in this case. I should know. I'm also a victim of such a maid from hell.
I've learnt many things from this painful episode, just to name a few:
1) When your maid wants a transfer, let her go. Don't try to persuade her to stay no matter how good she is, or how much you or your family like her. If she wants to transfer, it shows her heart is not in your family anymore, just let her go.
2) No matter how much you trust your maid, ALWAYS keep an eye on her. Any agreements between the two of you shld be written in black and white. Don't let the maid have anything to turn against you or accuse you falsely just to get her own way.
3) Every payment made to her shld be signed by her. No matter how much you trust her. Remember, money is the root of all evil.
4) Dont assume that just becos she never tells you anything means she is happy working for you. Most times, they can put on a false front to you and badmouth you behind your back.
5) Dont assume that just becos you treat your maid well, she will appreciate or reciprocate likewise. Becos you will be deeply disappointed when she doesnt.
Anyway, after this horrible maid ordeal, lots of heartache and tears (from me), I will probably not hire any full time maids in future. May look into part time help instead...
What do these maids have to lose in return? Time??? they have plenty of it. But employers stand to lose their reputation, their jobs all becos of these lying and conniving persons. -
shine_fs:
That one I think was an old lady - 71 y/o; me think she forgot that maids today is not as easily bullied as those in the olden days.
On the same page, the employer was fined S$5k for slapping the maid.....
I can be not happy with my maid, but definitely nothing physical - I won't even want to throw things at/near her. It's just so not worth the issue - plus they are human, and not my children. -
yeah...I dont know if I can ever get over this very disturbing and painful episode. In fact, I now have 'maid phobia'.
hquek:
Hi Angellight, Sorry to hear of your bad experience. I heard of story where maid falsely accuse the employer hubby of rape. By the time the case go to trial and hubby was cleared, he lost his job. Like that we, SGPn sure to lose.Angelight:
Today's TODAY paper pg 12: \"Lie lands Indonesian maid in jail\" should serve as a warning to all employers and potential employers.
Its incredible how low some maids would stoop to get what they want like accusing their employer of abuse or molest just to get a transfer. I empathise totally with the employer's father in this case. I should know. I'm also a victim of such a maid from hell.
I've learnt many things from this painful episode, just to name a few:
1) When your maid wants a transfer, let her go. Don't try to persuade her to stay no matter how good she is, or how much you or your family like her. If she wants to transfer, it shows her heart is not in your family anymore, just let her go.
2) No matter how much you trust your maid, ALWAYS keep an eye on her. Any agreements between the two of you shld be written in black and white. Don't let the maid have anything to turn against you or accuse you falsely just to get her own way.
3) Every payment made to her shld be signed by her. No matter how much you trust her. Remember, money is the root of all evil.
4) Dont assume that just becos she never tells you anything means she is happy working for you. Most times, they can put on a false front to you and badmouth you behind your back.
5) Dont assume that just becos you treat your maid well, she will appreciate or reciprocate likewise. Becos you will be deeply disappointed when she doesnt.
Anyway, after this horrible maid ordeal, lots of heartache and tears (from me), I will probably not hire any full time maids in future. May look into part time help instead...
What do these maids have to lose in return? Time??? they have plenty of it. But employers stand to lose their reputation, their jobs all becos of these lying and conniving persons. -
I agree that one will have a more perfect maid when there’s no one there to supervise.
So far, I have problems with all my maids, mostly because I’m a SAHM. I’m there to see their work, and because one day I want to go maidless, I make sure that I know how everything is done, where everything is placed so that should they fail me, I would not be at a loss.
And that’s when I see that a lot of times, they don’t follow instructions/cut corners. -
hquek:
my friend told me that she has no problems with her maid...and that's cos there is no adult jaga at home. I have issues with my maid - and that's typically becos my mum is around the whole day and she feedback to me. Perhaps herein lies the problem - having an adult at home who happen to be around when the maid is doing/not doing anything.
In fact, those I hear got problems with maids are typically those where there is old pp at home.
Hi hquek,
Totally AGREE ! Hee...hee...hee... I think this is really true, those times I got problem with my maid was due to my MIL complain. Recently a bit regret telling my maid off after MIL complain because spoil the atmosphere at my own home. Next time I must really control and think 3 times (or more!) before I talk to my maid!
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Breadandmuffins:
Hi Breadandmuffins!Hi desertwind
I also agree there are good maids around. In fact, mine is with me 7 years now and is my first and only one. No special way to select one. We just walk into this agency, and also manage to talk to her over the phone and also talked to ex employer in singapore. I think getting a good maid is 50% luck. The other 50% is how we manage them ie professionally as an employee. However, good maid can also give you problems overtime (will have more friends (or boyfriend) so talk on HP more often, also can be more defiant after so many years. ) That's another story anyway.
:congrats: on your good maid!
I am starting to understand what you mean about long-time maid. My maid is with us coming to 3 years now and I thought I am seeing more of her \"black face\". But then perhaps I was the one to blame for recently telling her off after MIL complain and did not put things across nicely or tactfully. Sigh! People management is never easy! :idea:
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RRMummy:
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What kind of treatment/operation was given?? $42,000??
What happened to the Maid Insurance?? :? -
DesertWind:
It mentioned that the Insurance can ONLY claims S$5K.RRMummy:
:!: :faint:
What kind of treatment/operation was given?? $42,000??
What happened to the Maid Insurance?? :? -
DesertWind:
I tell my maid(s) consistently that I listen to my mother, and NEVER EVER to tell me things about my parents. Current maid tried many times to pin the blame on grandma....she kena from me. Beware that maids will know if employers listen to them more than to their own family, and they WILL seek to exploit this.
Hi hquek,
Totally AGREE ! Hee...hee...hee... I think this is really true, those times I got problem with my maid was due to my MIL complain. Recently a bit regret telling my maid off after MIL complain because spoil the atmosphere at my own home. Next time I must really control and think 3 times (or more!) before I talk to my maid!
My fren told me that her maid knows this, and thus, when nobody is around, she will purposely walk away and pretend not to see/hear when grandma is calling for her (need her help).
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