How to reduce stress for my child
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Tinagoh\" post_id=\"2029247\" time=\"1625462645\" user_id=\"192914:
- give her the assurance that you will support her & love her no matter what. I think this boosts their self-confidence.
My child is in P5 now and the family is trying our best to give her a conducive environment whenever she's at home and needs to study. But she recently told me she's feeling a bit stressed out for next year (you know how it is with PSLE). As a parent, I feel very stressed for her, and I'm not sure what I can do to help her. Does anyone have any tips for reducing stress?
- let her spend some time on her own hobbies each week, maybe a few hours during the weekend. Daily, have some short amount of wind-down/relax time before she goes to bed.
- check in with her regularly on her emotional state, on her friendships, on her workload, etc. Share with her happenings in your own life & how you manage your stress levels too.
- teach her to have on hand some techniques in case she gets too frustrated or angry with stuff. Eg. Deep breathing techniques, go to a quiet corner and count to 10, punch a pillow, listen to some music (loud or soothing, up to her) etc. -
zac's mum\" post_id=\"2029253\" time=\"1625463366\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2029253 time=1625463366 user_id=53606]
@ TinagohTinagoh\" post_id=\"2029247\" time=\"1625462645\" user_id=\"192914:
- give her the assurance that you will support her & love her no matter what. I think this boosts their self-confidence.My child is in P5 now and the family is trying our best to give her a conducive environment whenever she's at home and needs to study. But she recently told me she's feeling a bit stressed out for next year (you know how it is with PSLE). As a parent, I feel very stressed for her, and I'm not sure what I can do to help her. Does anyone have any tips for reducing stress?
- let her spend some time on her own hobbies each week, maybe a few hours during the weekend. Daily, have some short amount of wind-down/relax time before she goes to bed.
- check in with her regularly on her emotional state, on her friendships, on her workload, etc. Share with her happenings in your own life & how you manage your stress levels too.
- teach her to have on hand some techniques in case she gets too frustrated or angry with stuff. Eg. Deep breathing techniques, go to a quiet corner and count to 10, punch a pillow, listen to some music (loud or soothing, up to her) etc.[/quote]
To add to zac’s mum’s advice, chat with her on sitting together with her to work out a time table. Gently suggest to her to put in her study time first then her R&R time. Also incl rests time coz u might need to cater rest time rap if yr child is into puberty.
I rmbr getting kids to start plonking in timetable lunchtime, then showers and sch hmwk, then revision time, before I suggest putting in snack time, then tuition hmwk before suggesting “why don’t u do a bike ride or swim time?” 😉
The idea to involve yr child is to get their “buy-in”.
In the initial stage, if yr child does well with sticking to schedule, give her surprises such as an ice-cream treat or sth u know she’ll like & look fwd to. Happy moments are good for bonding & happy moments releases endorphins & reduces stresses. -
How stressed is she? Is it affecting her normal life, sleep, well-being in a bad way? Stress can’t be completely avoided, and it’s not all bad. The tips given above are very good for keeping stress at a tolerable level; but I just want to add one more - tell her that moderate stress helps her grow and improve, as long as it doesn’t get too much. Just as muscles get stronger when they are stressed, her mental strength and resilience will increase as she experiences moderate stress. So experiencing some stress, some of the time, is really a good thing. But if she is stressed all the time, and it affects her overall health and well-being, then it’s bad.
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slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2029289\" time=\"1625484420\" user_id=\"28674:
Hahaha, slmkhoo, yr sharing reminded how I gave DS no excuse to avoid hmwk & revision. I’ve to spot his attempts to avoid doing any work. As early as P2, he was alr ‘smart’ to tug at my conscious & send me on guilt trips. So, I’ve to learn not to be outsmart by my kid.
How stressed is she? Is it affecting her normal life, sleep, well-being in a bad way? Stress can't be completely avoided, and it's not all bad. The tips given above are very good for keeping stress at a tolerable level; but I just want to add one more - tell her that moderate stress helps her grow and improve, as long as it doesn't get too much. Just as muscles get stronger when they are stressed, her mental strength and resilience will increase as she experiences moderate stress. So experiencing some stress, some of the time, is really a good thing. But if she is stressed all the time, and it affects her overall health and well-being, then it's bad. -
Tinagoh\" post_id=\"2029247\" time=\"1625462645\" user_id=\"192914:
She might be feeling the stress from the adults.. try to act normal and not to tell her you are giving her a “conducive” environment. Try to be subtle in providing for her needs, without letting her know.
My child is in P5 now and the family is trying our best to give her a conducive environment whenever she's at home and needs to study. But she recently told me she's feeling a bit stressed out for next year (you know how it is with PSLE). As a parent, I feel very stressed for her, and I'm not sure what I can do to help her. Does anyone have any tips for reducing stress?
Girls tend to be more mature and they want to do well to please her parents. So try to relax (yourself), allow her time for her usual hobbies (reading, drawing, swimming, play instruments), give lots of love and perhaps happy food like pancakes or chocolates etc. Go for walks together, celebrate little things like “end of term”, “completed revision test” papers! We indulge in ice cream treats to relieve stress. -
zac's mum\" post_id=\"2029253\" time=\"1625463366\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2029253 time=1625463366 user_id=53606]
Wow zac mummy, these are very useful tips! Thank you so much for sharing. We will definitely try some of these with her!Tinagoh\" post_id=\"2029247\" time=\"1625462645\" user_id=\"192914:
- give her the assurance that you will support her & love her no matter what. I think this boosts their self-confidence.My child is in P5 now and the family is trying our best to give her a conducive environment whenever she's at home and needs to study. But she recently told me she's feeling a bit stressed out for next year (you know how it is with PSLE). As a parent, I feel very stressed for her, and I'm not sure what I can do to help her. Does anyone have any tips for reducing stress?
- let her spend some time on her own hobbies each week, maybe a few hours during the weekend. Daily, have some short amount of wind-down/relax time before she goes to bed.
- check in with her regularly on her emotional state, on her friendships, on her workload, etc. Share with her happenings in your own life & how you manage your stress levels too.
- teach her to have on hand some techniques in case she gets too frustrated or angry with stuff. Eg. Deep breathing techniques, go to a quiet corner and count to 10, punch a pillow, listen to some music (loud or soothing, up to her) etc.[/quote] -
Estéema\" post_id=\"2029256\" time=\"1625465259\" user_id=\"66413:
@ Tinagoh
- give her the assurance that you will support her & love her no matter what. I think this boosts their self-confidence.zac's mum\" post_id=\"2029253\" time=\"1625463366\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2029253 time=1625463366 user_id=53606]
My child is in P5 now and the family is trying our best to give her a conducive environment whenever she's at home and needs to study. But she recently told me she's feeling a bit stressed out for next year (you know how it is with PSLE). As a parent, I feel very stressed for her, and I'm not sure what I can do to help her. Does anyone have any tips for reducing stress?
- let her spend some time on her own hobbies each week, maybe a few hours during the weekend. Daily, have some short amount of wind-down/relax time before she goes to bed.
- check in with her regularly on her emotional state, on her friendships, on her workload, etc. Share with her happenings in your own life & how you manage your stress levels too.
- teach her to have on hand some techniques in case she gets too frustrated or angry with stuff. Eg. Deep breathing techniques, go to a quiet corner and count to 10, punch a pillow, listen to some music (loud or soothing, up to her) etc.
To add to zac’s mum’s advice, chat with her on sitting together with her to work out a time table. Gently suggest to her to put in her study time first then her R&R time. Also incl rests time coz u might need to cater rest time rap if yr child is into puberty.
I rmbr getting kids to start plonking in timetable lunchtime, then showers and sch hmwk, then revision time, before I suggest putting in snack time, then tuition hmwk before suggesting “why don’t u do a bike ride or swim time?” 😉
The idea to involve yr child is to get their “buy-in”.
In the initial stage, if yr child does well with sticking to schedule, give her surprises such as an ice-cream treat or sth u know she’ll like & look fwd to. Happy moments are good for bonding & happy moments releases endorphins & reduces stresses.[/quote]Thank you so much! You're right, it is very important to have a proper schedule in place with the right amounts of time for her to relax. Hubby and I have been trying to do activities outside of school with her which has been helping but perhaps a proper schedule will help her even more! Thank you for sharing! -
slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2029289\" time=\"1625484420\" user_id=\"28674:
Hmm... I have never thought about it this way. It is important to build endurance for stress. I think so far she is still okay. She's eating well and sleeping well so I take that as a good sign. I shall definitely talk to her about it.
How stressed is she? Is it affecting her normal life, sleep, well-being in a bad way? Stress can't be completely avoided, and it's not all bad. The tips given above are very good for keeping stress at a tolerable level; but I just want to add one more - tell her that moderate stress helps her grow and improve, as long as it doesn't get too much. Just as muscles get stronger when they are stressed, her mental strength and resilience will increase as she experiences moderate stress. So experiencing some stress, some of the time, is really a good thing. But if she is stressed all the time, and it affects her overall health and well-being, then it's bad. -
slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2029289\" time=\"1625484420\" user_id=\"28674:
Hmm... I have never thought about it this way. It is important to build endurance for stress. I think so far she is still okay. She's eating well and sleeping well so I take that as a good sign. I shall definitely talk to her about it.
How stressed is she? Is it affecting her normal life, sleep, well-being in a bad way? Stress can't be completely avoided, and it's not all bad. The tips given above are very good for keeping stress at a tolerable level; but I just want to add one more - tell her that moderate stress helps her grow and improve, as long as it doesn't get too much. Just as muscles get stronger when they are stressed, her mental strength and resilience will increase as she experiences moderate stress. So experiencing some stress, some of the time, is really a good thing. But if she is stressed all the time, and it affects her overall health and well-being, then it's bad.
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