All About Autism

[Liew Nga Wing]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2051225\" time=\"1639102015\" user_id=\"28674:

Moved from the All about GEP thread:

Thanks! That's the problem when they are smart, and when they are not counselled and coached when they are younger. They need to realise that being smart doesn't mean they are good at everything, and it's not always the fault of everyone else (although it would be good if more could be kinder and more understanding). My daughter has got a job through SG Enable, and her employers are aware. Let's hope it works out well. Both SG Enable and the Autism Resource Centre have employment and coaching schemes.

Thank you for the information and will forward to him later. The problem is - he is not my kids. He is just someone I met in some broadgames events before and don't know whether he will listen to me. :frustrated:

[sharonkhoo]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2051346\" time=\"1639149722\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2051346 time=1639149722 user_id=195250]
Thank you for the information and will forward to him later. The problem is - he is not my kids. He is just someone I met in some broadgames events before and don't know whether he will listen to me. :frustrated:[/quote]

Yes, that's a problem - he could get very offended. Maybe speak to the parents? I think you know them? If not, I suppose there is nothing much you can do. There was a series of articles in CNA recently which he might find interesting (if he is willing to consider the possibility that he is on the ASD spectrum):

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/cnainsider/invisible-struggle-people-high-functioning-autism-workplace-hire-1965121
https://www.channelnewsasia.com/cnainsider/high-functioning-autistic-man-quest-be-human-lifelong-disability-1965116

[YYmommy]

Hi I am looking for a playmate for my boy during weekend or school holiday. My son is 7 and attends Pathlight now. We live near Serangoon. We want to find him a friend who is either from mainstream or Pathlight. We feel sometimes he is bit lonely and too bored. Any parents interested please drop me a private message? Thanks!

[Estéema]

If u can, try a pet for yr child & playmate can join in to care for & teach tricks to pet

[Liew Nga Wing]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2055460\" time=\"1641950250\" user_id=\"66413:

If u can, try a pet for yr child & playmate can join in to care for & teach tricks to pet

We can talk to each other or play boardgames for a playmate / friend but a pet cannot talk and play boardgames with us. Moreover, the cost of keeping a pet at home may be high but we no need to pay for a playmate or friend. :roll:

[Estéema]

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We can talk to each other or play boardgames for a playmate / friend but a pet cannot talk and play boardgames with us. Moreover, the cost of keeping a pet at home may be high but we no need to pay for a playmate or friend. :roll:[/quote]

S’times kids want sth small & cute they can handle. Of course there are costs involved even with playmates, u’ve social & moral obligations, which do translate to a cost at some point.

The value of a pet & the companionship it gives can’t be the measured with it’s intrinsic value to the emotional devpt of a child & the happiness it brings anytime. For a young child, adults hv to guide & support.

2 years back, we were locked down with WFH & HBL, kids can’t meet or play with classmates, peers or cousins. As a family, we tried engaging with boardgames till we’re all tired of it. Then we decided to get a pet & it’s no turning back. The child learns to take responsibility, engage in walking & playing catch as well as the ‘chore’ of feeding, oral care & bathing. We don’t want our child to miss childhood under a difficult pandemic nor turn to 24/7 tech geek & not able to relate to different forms of relationships. Just an opinion fr our experience. Granted not every family will opt for this.

[Liew Nga Wing]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2055478\" time=\"1641955315\" user_id=\"66413:

S’times kids want sth small & cute they can handle. Of course there are costs involved even with playmates, u’ve social & moral obligations, which do translate to a cost at some point.

The value of a pet & the companionship it gives can’t be the measured with it’s intrinsic value to the emotional devpt of a child & the happiness it brings anytime. For a young child, adults hv to guide & support.

My Parent and my DH never agree to get a pet at home and therefore I don't have any experience / happiness from pet and the funny part is all my and my DH siblings also never keep any pet at home before. :oops:

[Estéema]

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My Parent and my DH never agree to get a pet at home and therefore I don't have any experience / happiness from pet and the funny part is all my and my DH siblings also never keep any pet at home before. :oops:[/quote]

I know. It was hard convincing DH for years! Over the years, we’ve seen some boys having developmental issues. DH was concerned but when the covid locked us all in, he acknowledged the need for a pet to help us. Eventually, DH gave in for the sake of sanity. Was thankful.

[Zeal mummy]

Which pet would you recommend? One that is the lowest maintenance ? I think it might be tough for someone who has never had a pet in their family.

[ChiefKiasu]

Oh… I’ve been through all kinds… dogs, turtles, fish, birds, hamsters, etc. The problem with keeping a pet is the animal becomes entirely your responsibility.


These days, I keep no pets. But I would do monthly purchases of bird seeds and feed the pigeons at a spot far away from the residents. They are, overall, very clean and polite, but I’ve been marked by a couple of them who knows where I stay and would fly into my hall and glare at me to remind me it’s feeding time. But they only show up between 10-1pm and not other times. I guess even birds know it is not polite to keep bugging a guy for food.