All About Full-Time Maids
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Liuhao, I really empathise with u after reading your maid stories cos I had just released an errant maid too. Caused me alot of pain and anguish before I finally released her to agent.
I don’t really want to go into details cos the incident was still fresh and I don’t want to dig up my wounds again. But she also broke the ‘NO H/P’ rule which I have stated to the agent even before they brought her in. But this maid managed to get a H/P from her cousin on one of her off days and kept it without telling me. I found out one day that she had been using the phone to call and sms when she was sleeping with my child in the same room every night! I was so furious and asked her to give me her phone. I told her she can get from me if she really need to talk to her family. She stubbornly refused and even asked for a transfer. I told her fine, but she had to wait till I get a replacement maid. Guess what?! She insisted on a transfer right away and even refused to work (it was about dinner time and she was supposed to cook). I was so, so furious and upset that I called the agent to take her away.
Now I’m without a maid and thinking whether I should get a new maid cos I’m really scared of all these maid problems, esp. after reading your stories. You are such a good employer, yet these maids do not appreciate at all. It’s like a no-win situation with maids. You treat them well, and they take advantage of you. You treat them bad, and they complain to MOM, embassy and what nots. It really made me wonder if there are any good maids or not?? -
liuhao:
Wow - can help to get your colleague to share her tips?well i havent lost my hope yet.
my colleague has successfully keep her maid for 2 years without HP and off day. going to renew for another 2 years. the maid is always happy. she is a great maid manager. she has successfully brain washed her maid (especially in the first 6 months) that even now she wants to give her maid a HP, her maid also does not want.
Tks
Rgds,
Ming -
daily, weekly, monthly brain washing session about what is the right way and wrong way doing this/that and keep an eye on the maid all the time. her maid never dares to talk to other maids downstairs. otherwise a more comprehensive session will be conducted. the purpose is let the maid think as she thinks and worry as she worrys. basically, transferring her thinking/idea to the maid brain. plus constant reward when doing right and punishment when doing wrong. haha
she told me sometimes she forgot the daily brain washing session and keeps quiet watching TV. then her maid got panic and thought why ma’am does not give me "tutorial" this evening, i must have done something seriously seriously wrong… hehe
according to her, the critical time is first 6 months when loan is not full paid. after that it will be too late. -
actually i think there are tons of stories of sending maid back in this thread. you can pick up one story every day and tell the maid. explain in great details and ask for her feedback. that will do for at least the first 2 months...
i plan to do that.
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my colleague will come down to my house and give me a \"tutorial\" this sunday evening, before new maid arrives. hehe...
LKVM:
My MIL brainwash maid every now n then still she dare to keep HP without letting us know :stupid: :stupid:
My MIL also told bout singapore system of canning still she dare leh :!: -
I've been brainwashing my ex-maid but she just trust other maids and nobody else.
If we tell her strictly no contact with other maids, it's kinda cruel right? As she sees other maids in the market, downstairs with old folks, naturally they will chat. We did not prohibit her from talking to others, but i constantly remind her what can/cannot be said to other maids, also what is right/wrong doing as she's quite a naive person, first time working overseas.
Just 2 weeks ago, this maid #4 of mine, got caught hiding a Banglah man in her bedroom on a Saturday morning 10+am!!! FIL saw a man dashing out from her room while he turned his back to wash up in the kitchen area, FIL shouted at him and I was woken up by the loud noise. (DH & DS also in our room sleeping)
How daring can she be, with many people in the house!! She's the last person that I thought will do such act.
We sent her back home 2 days later.
I feel so relief without an outsider in the house, we are now trying out a PRC neighbour to help out in housework. We will most likely be engaging part time house keeping service till we find a better maid, or no live-in maid at all. (It's less than 5% chance we can find a good maid)
For those looking for maid, wish you good luck!
look out for my next post on another horrifying story...... -
Around the same time that I caught my maid earning extra bucks from Bangladesh man, this incident happened to my friend’s friend.
This employer stays opposite of the in-laws. Each household has a maid. As a preventive measure to allow too much interaction between the 2 maids, they install a cctv outside the main door of each flat, pointing at the corridor area. Each camera can see the bottom of the main door and opposite flat’s main door.
This employer just got a new maid for couple of months, so the new maid is not allowed to hold the gate’s key.
On a weekend morning, this female employer woke up, did a routine scan of her recorded video, she found out a horrifying scene…
Her maid was having a sexual transaction with a Bangladesh man while the whole family was sleeping in the middle of night.
Can you possibly guess how they did it without the maid getting out of the flat??? -
nope...how?
anyway, really terrible story you have. but then again, same thing could happen to many other employers without being caught.thebusybee:
Around the same time that I caught my maid earning extra bucks from Bangladesh man, this incident happened to my friend's friend.
This employer stays opposite of the in-laws. Each household has a maid. As a preventive measure to allow too much interaction between the 2 maids, they install a cctv outside the main door of each flat, pointing at the corridor area. Each camera can see the bottom of the main door and opposite flat's main door.
This employer just got a new maid for couple of months, so the new maid is not allowed to hold the gate's key.
On a weekend morning, this female employer woke up, did a routine scan of her recorded video, she found out a horrifying scene...........
Her maid was having a sexual transaction with a Bangladesh man while the whole family was sleeping in the middle of night.
Can you possibly guess how they did it without the maid getting out of the flat??? -
That’s why the employer was so shocked and terrified by what she saw…
She saw the maid clinging on the gate, and the man just did it THROUGH THE GATE!!! Don’t forget that she has 2 angles of view from the 2 cameras!!
How DESPERATE can one be…
…for money and needs…
The employers handed the footage to the police.
liuhao,
You are right! I believe there are many transactions between maid and other foreign workers, behind employers’ back. -
reading all these stories about filipino maids just make me feel "justified" in my "prejudice" of not having a filipino maid
all my maids are from Indo (1st one 5 years, 2nd one 5 years, 3rd one 4 years, now fourth one less than a year)
all 3 previous ones returned to Indo after so many years away from home
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