Phimosis / Tight Foreskin / Circumcision

[phankao]

Christine_T:

You must not try to retract the foreskin or clean under it. This can damage the foreskin and create scar tissue. Scar tissue is inelastic and may cause true phimosis (rather than normal infant unretractability)

Sigh, our boy had an injury, and there's possibility of scar tissue. But couldn't quite tell yet at the 1 week review. Have to wait for 6-mth review. Problem is, he's not that young now at 10yrs old. Big enough to not relish the possiblity of circumcision, no matter how \"simple\" or \"common\" a procedure it could be. So he's really hoping that probabiliy of scaring is low and not lead to phimosis. ;(

[ZacK]

worried mummy:

Thanks to all of you. You have helped me to decide not to send my boy for circumcision. This thing has been bugging me for the last few days...

I can understand how you feel as parent caught at the \"crossroads\" deciding what is best for our children :?:

Good to hear that you can have a good nite's sleep tonight

[ZacK]

phankao:

Christine_T:

You must not try to retract the foreskin or clean under it. This can damage the foreskin and create scar tissue. Scar tissue is inelastic and may cause true phimosis (rather than normal infant unretractability)

Sigh, our boy had an injury, and there's possibility of scar tissue. But couldn't quite tell yet at the 1 week review. Have to wait for 6-mth review. Problem is, he's not that young now at 10yrs old. Big enough to not relish the possiblity of circumcision, no matter how \"simple\" or \"common\" a procedure it could be. So he's really hoping that probabiliy of scaring is low and not lead to phimosis. ;(

Wow hope your boy will be fine... It's never easy to get an injury to something so \"delicate\"... All the best to your boy!

[phankao]

ZacK:

Wow hope your boy will be fine... It's never easy to get an injury to something so \"delicate\"... All the best to your boy!

Got kicked in the groin at the playground and foreskin tore. :!:

[MLR]

Ouch. When my brother was about 11, his got stuck when tried to zip down. He wasn’t wearing undies cos he forgot to bring one when he went swimming. He had to be brought to A&E, cos he was very embarrassed and he tried to get it unstuck, ended in worst situation. After he healed, he had to do surgery to remove the scar tissue which caused lots of pain when he peed. When he was in his 20s, he had to underwent another surgery. The one that he did when he 11 wasn’t done properly and caused problem when he engaged in intercourse.


Of course the one that he did when he was 11, was more than 20 yrs ago. Surgery procedures and skills would hv improved all these years.

[Lili 22]

Hubby has been asking me to bring 6 yrs old boy for a circumcision as he still can't fully retract his foreskin and also his penis is much smaller than our 3 yrs old boy's. Hubby feels that with circumcision, boy's penis will grow faster which I don't agree. Anyone here has the same worry or any suggestion? :?:

[ZacK]

Lili 22:

Hubby has been asking me to bring 6 yrs old boy for a circumcision as he still can't fully retract his foreskin and also his penis is much smaller than our 3 yrs old boy's. Hubby feels that with circumcision, boy's penis will grow faster which I don't agree. Anyone here has the same worry or any suggestion? :?:

Hi Lili22,

i must confess that this came to my mind.. But I guess the foreskin is also able to stretch and grow although that would mean the organ growth would be somewhat impeded? :oops:

Btw may I ask if your 3 yr old's foreskin is retractable?

[Lili 22]

Hi Zack,


Tks for your reply!

Is not fully retractable also for the 3 yrs old. Elder boy got long foreskin, so I think there is enough room for the organ to grow. That is also why I dun agree with hubby's suggestion for a circumcision.

Not only family members who help to babysit the boys ever commented discreetly about the difference in size, even 6 yrs old commented that titi ones is bigger. Am worried that this might affect his ego in another few years time.

[ZacK]

Lili 22:

Hi Zack,


Tks for your reply!

Is not fully retractable also for the 3 yrs old. Elder boy got long foreskin, so I think there is enough room for the organ to grow. That is also why I dun agree with hubby's suggestion for a circumcision.

Not only family members who help to babysit the boys ever commented discreetly about the difference in size, even 6 yrs old commented that titi ones is bigger. Am worried that this might affect his ego in another few years time.

Hiya Lili,

From my understanding, male organs may be classified as grow-ers and show-ers... Perhaps your elder son is classified as the former, which means that in the normal un-erect state, he shd be small but will grow more in size when erect.

My only concern is there may be a host of other reasons why your elder son's penis is smaller than his titi and it's not the mere fact that his foreskin is not retractable which may be resolved by circumcision.

I guess I adopt the mentality that if it ain't broken, I'm not gonna fix it

In relation to his ego, you may wish to be more sensitive to him and constantly assure him that he is no lesser of a boy... If he is into cars, not sure if this analogy would work:

In this world there are many type of cars, there are small cars like your 1000cc cars to the big BMW 7series etc but if we take away all the gadgetry, technology etc... They basically only serve one purpose ie to provide a means of transport. So whether we are in a small car or a big car, ultimately, they serve the purpose of transporting us from Pt A to Pt B... So they are still good cars as they serve the purpose according to our needs.

It is the same of our little boy's \"wee wee\", it is a means to discharge body waste so that the body will not be filled with toxins. So regardless whether the \"wee wee\" is big or small, it is a healthy and good organ as long as it is able to discharge liquid waste.

Wonder if this analogy would be too chim for a 6 yr old? :idea: I would of cos choose to omit the other procreation purpose for now... unless you have already covered the birds and the bees with you boy

[Christine_T]

From what I understand, the penis grows in puberty. Infant size has little bearing on what the adult size will be.


Circumcision always reduces the size. In my life I have had a few partners of different circumcision status. On average the natural ones are always bigger -especially thicker. It makes sense, in circumcision you are losing about half the skin of the penis. I heard it also changes the structure of the penis and so it doesn’t grow in the natural manner it is supposed to.

But it is considered normal for 6 year olds not to retract. The important thing is that you should not try to pull the foreskin back as this can create inelastic scar tissue. As I said in my previous post and the links I provided, there is nothing to worry about with an intact boy. Naturertakes care of itself. If more people knew this then I guess there would be less circumcisions.