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[starlight1968sg]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2108221\" time=\"1683762783\" user_id=\"43981:

Esteema..we can just write what we feel like writing..what other ppl wants to do wit it ...hmm is not our problem leh..that is how I feel.

we can be influenced by pple's words and actions despite we know it is none of our business.
This is human nature ...

[MrsKiasu]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2108222\" time=\"1683762892\" user_id=\"14025:

we can be influenced by pple's words and actions despite we know it is none of our business.
This is human nature ...

One thing I think I have learned over the time..is to get 'detached'. I m still learning but not bad already. Late last year, I still got emotional when talking about something with dh. Then dh told me these are not my problems and that my senses is everywhere and I really need to collect it all back. I agree.

[sharonkhoo]

ChiefKiasu\" post_id=\"2108197\" time=\"1683729232\" user_id=\"3:

Thanks! Will check out your recommendations. When I take classes, I seldom show up in class I do my reading separately. Just that I find it more effective than spending a couple of hours listening to a droning voice.

The Alpha course is not about acquiring info - that, I agree, some people are well able to read up for themselves (I'm one of them). The Alpha course is more about providing a space to ask questions, so there is a short video and there are facilitators, but it's mostly Q&A. Each Alpha course is usually just a few weeks' long, though some participants will then join a group that meets weekly for fellowship after that. Your friend who has been in Alpha for 10 years is probably a facilitator, not a permanent participant!

As Esteema explained, Alpha was first started in the UK by the Anglican church, but churches of many denominations also use their materials (regularly updated) and format now - to add to the list, my church is Baptist!

[Liew Nga Wing]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2108223\" time=\"1683763179\" user_id=\"43981:

One thing I think I have learned over the time..is to get 'detached'. I m still learning but not bad already. Late last year, I still got emotional when talking about something with dh. Then dh told me these are not my problems and that my senses is everywhere and I really need to collect it all back. I agree.

The problem is why you easy got emotional? :?

[Estéema]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2108221\" time=\"1683762783\" user_id=\"43981:

Esteema..we can just write what we feel like writing..what other ppl wants to do wit it ...hmm is not our problem leh..that is how I feel.

Thank you for your love & encouragement. I’m the sort who don’t wish to 得罪 others and if someone feels sad, I feel bad & wish to reach out. So It’s just me. S’times I don’t know what to do when I get misu’stood. I’m still learning in the dept of human interactions.

[Estéema]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2108223\" time=\"1683763179\" user_id=\"43981:

One thing I think I have learned over the time..is to get 'detached'. I m still learning but not bad already. Late last year, I still got emotional when talking about something with dh. Then dh told me these are not my problems and that my senses is everywhere and I really need to collect it all back. I agree.

Sounds abit like me leh. Then, I must learn to detach. I need to learn not to take on too many things or take things too personally. S’times after reading your sharings, I learn to reflect & see where I’ve gone wrong & learn to do things right. Nice to hv frds to chit chat right?

[Liew Nga Wing]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2108222\" time=\"1683762892\" user_id=\"14025:

we can be influenced by pple's words and actions despite we know it is none of our business.
This is human nature ...

So we have to speak “kind” words to other people.
良言一句三冬暖，恶语伤人六月寒。

[Estéema]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2108224\" time=\"1683763389\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2108224 time=1683763389 user_id=195250]
The problem is why you easy got emotional? :?[/quote]

That’s just how some of us are. If we’re not emotional, then we’ll find 人间 less 温暖.

Many of us grow up they way we’ve been brought up either been shut up too much as a child & become unconnected (one of my BIL is such as he had been under very harsh control as a child & was thrown out of home when he first become a Christian, tho he still is and a very dedicated one serving elderlies in his church but he won’t laugh, won’t talk too much or smile type).

Some of us, happy-go-lucky say anything & everything coz we were probably given too much freedom & free will.

Rmbr my sharing that we’re imperfect and our parents are not given parenting handbook to be perfect parents. Also, we’re what we are s’times thro our personal experiences & interactions with others that sent us the opp directions.

S’times I wished I’ll shut myself up fr others (aka bid farewell or leave frds) so no frdship pains anymore (I don’t cause havoc nor can others hurt my feelings kinda moments). I’m sure u’ve gone thro this part of life’s journey?

Overtime, we learn hv to learn to live with others and adjust ourselves cos if we’re too chatty, there may be others who just need quietness? So, I guess we all continue to learn as we meet more diff ppl and hv diff experiences. We learn to co-live and accept others.

[MrsKiasu]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2108227\" time=\"1683763776\" user_id=\"66413:

Sounds abit like me leh. Then, I must learn to detach. I need to learn not to take on too many things or take things too personally. S’times after reading your sharings, I learn to reflect & see where I’ve gone wrong & learn to do things right. Nice to hv frds to chit chat right?

Yea..it is good to chit chat and am glad to know you ladies here. I never felt lonely during these period when I want to be alone physically.

One of my purposes in writing so much sometimes is for me to revisit it in the future..so thank you to chief for providing the platform

[MrsKiasu]

Yea some ppl are like that and some can be a little more sensitive. For me, I would cry very badly till eyes swollen, mucous dripping from nose when I watch some pitiful shows on tv since very young. When it is over, still continue cry type. Growing up I feel the need to care my mom and my siblings etc…


The one that I was emotional abt recently was reading abt the grab delivery guys…pity them, angry with what may be the causes…so these kind of things are really not a problem I can solve or my problem…and it is just not right to get so affected.