All About Full-Time Maids

[hquek]

liuhao:

yea good suggestion. i will do that next time for sure. she will get mad wen found we left her but let her be...


every morning her bedroom got strong perfume smell

But you DID tell her that you were leaving in 5 min....if she's late for plane, you think the plane will wait for her?

Anyway, general observation. When I issue instruction, maid can be very blur. But when I say things about her, she is suddenly very sharp. :stupid: :stupid:

[liuhao]

i think in that she will be on time. what i am not comfortable is she just can not go out without showering and nice cloth, no matter how short is the distance or how urgent is the work. even myself wont do showering just for that. she looks like a noblewoman rather than maid.

shine_fs:

hquek:

[quote=\"liuhao\"]- spent lots of time grooming herself. everytime we asked her to go out with us to do casual marketing, we wait for her for so long at door step but found she went to have shower and change new clothes! we wait for her for 15 mins before she gets ready. told her twice dont do that but still she will go showering everytime! my previous two maids never did that!

I'm being notti and a bit curious. If you just leave the house while she's preening herself....can?

I will tell my maid what time we will leave home and make sure she is ready by then. If not she will have to stay home...too bad...[/quote]

[hquek]

liuhao:

i think in that she will be on time. what i am not comfortable is she just can not go out without showering and nice cloth, no matter how short is the distance or how urgent is the work. even myself wont do showering just for that. she looks like a noblewoman rather than maid.

Not surprising lah. I look more like a maid besides my maid - she is very 'gu-niang'. But that's just her.

[shine_fs]

liuhao:

i think in that she will be on time. what i am not comfortable is she just can not go out without showering and nice cloth, no matter how short is the distance or how urgent is the work. even myself wont do showering just for that. she looks like a noblewoman rather than maid.

At 1st did you tell her how many times she can bath?

For me, I told my maid : Morning, afternoon and night = 3 times.

Maybe she is used to her style leh......u need to tell her your house rules..and what can and can't.

Like perfume...I don't allowed cos she is looking after my kids....

[shine_fs]

hquek:

liuhao:

i think in that she will be on time. what i am not comfortable is she just can not go out without showering and nice cloth, no matter how short is the distance or how urgent is the work. even myself wont do showering just for that. she looks like a noblewoman rather than maid.

Not surprising lah. I look more like a maid besides my maid - she is very 'gu-niang'. But that's just her.

My 1st maid who worked for my 2 weeks was like that...she dress up when gg to nearby NTUC. Like I am the maid lor.....

[liuhao]

what happened to ur 1st maid after 2 weeks?

shine_fs:

hquek:

[quote=\"liuhao\"]i think in that she will be on time. what i am not comfortable is she just can not go out without showering and nice cloth, no matter how short is the distance or how urgent is the work. even myself wont do showering just for that. she looks like a noblewoman rather than maid.

Not surprising lah. I look more like a maid besides my maid - she is very 'gu-niang'. But that's just her.

My 1st maid who worked for my 2 weeks was like that...she dress up when gg to nearby NTUC. Like I am the maid lor..... :P[/quote]

[shine_fs]

liuhao:

what happened to ur 1st maid after 2 weeks?

Some maids jst want to come out from their Country so they will agreed to be your maid. Then once they are out, they will ask for transfer.
This is the maid like tat lor....so unlucky.

[liuhao]

i am wondering...if she only works for 2 weeks and wants to transfer, can she find a new employer? within the specific time? that basically means no experience right?

shine_fs:

liuhao:

what happened to ur 1st maid after 2 weeks?

Some maids jst want to come out from their Country so they will agreed to be your maid. Then once they are out, they will ask for transfer.
This is the maid like tat lor....so unlucky.

[kiasimom]

mwchua:

hi mommies,


Wish to seek some advice here.

My new Indo maid of 2 weeks (with home country experience) last night said she wanted to change employer. But this morning retracted saying that she does not want pay another 2 months of salary if going back to agen to change employer.

This is the 1st time I have encountered such a case. Have employed 3 maids before her, all completed contract with me. This latest maid has the easiest life per se as I have made all my household duties so simple that I can just put my only child in student care (P1) if presented with maid issues. My mom whom is staying with me nowadays also \"bo-chap\" the maid afte she read about the many maid horror stories.

Yet this maid give me such a crappy stuff. When she first came & I checked her luggage, she has much more toiletries and beauty stuff than me !! She will find every sinle chance to sit down & no initiative to help out. When I go home after work with bags of groceries, she will just sit inside her room & treat me as invisible. During her 3rd day with me she asked about any possible relaxation of off-day !!

Apparently she knows about all the ground rules: no off-day, no hp, if go back to agent employer need to top up 2 more monhs of loan, but yet she go ahead and say wants to change employer last night. But this morning said she wanted to work again & looked quite sincere !!!

My options are:
1. Send her back to agent, look for another replacement. But need to train all over again, but can be for better or worse.

2. Student care: My girl is in pm session, needs to reach student care latest by 8am which means she needs to wake up around 7.20am to wash up & take LRT. Worried that she might be too tired as after school she will only reach home around 7.15pm in the evening. Right now she does assessment given by me in the morning without much distraction. At student care centre there might be too much distraction.

if you were me, will you give this maid a second chance? What are the kind of ground rules to set? I did give her timetable & house rules right from the start. But still.....

Apologies on the long post...Hope to pick your brains on this.

Thank.

Rgds,
Ming

Hi Ming,

I will advise you to get a replacement since she doesn't have the initiative and passion to work for you.
As you have just hired this maid, I believe your agency will do a free replacement for you.

However, a word of caution, do not let your maid know beforehand that you intend to replace her as you can never imagine what she will do during your absence.

[kiasimom]

liuhao:

sorry could not suggest you what to do but currently i am having similar issue...


my new fil maid( 24 married with one yr old son) has been staying with us for 1 week. issues (similar as yours) so far:

- agreed during interview and first day in agent office that no hp is allowed as stated in house rule and she said she had no hp. however after arrived in our house and checked her belongings, found a secret handphone with sim card. i took the hp and kept it for now. but i am not happy. she is dishonest in the first day!

- yesterday evening (7th day), she asked me whether can have her hp. i was quite angry and told her it's not allowed. i told her that you can go ahead to find another employer if you want but here in my home, hp is not allowed. she acted blur and after a while, asked me again for the hp to sms. it really made me mad.

- spent lots of time grooming herself. everytime we asked her to go out with us to do casual marketing, we wait for her for so long at door step but found she went to have shower and change new clothes! we wait for her for 15 mins before she gets ready. told her twice dont do that but still she will go showering everytime! my previous two maids never did that!

- acting blur all the time. most of the time when i say sometime to her, i never know if she really understand me or not. no feedback/reply/acknowledge. i have been trying to speak really slow, clear and loud.

- missing home all the time, everyday wants to call home. finished one sunshine phonecard within 3 days (50mins). today asked me to buy another for her. she will pay by herself though. although so far not affect her work yet...

contract says i cant send her back util 14 days. she does not make big mistake apart from these issues but so far i am not very comfortable. still dont know what to do yet.

but if i send her back to againt due to above reasons, who will pay the transfer fee?

Hi liuhao,

If I am you, I will send her back to the agency and ask for a replacement.
I believe you should have a free replacement as most agencies offer free replacement within the first year.

Do check it out with your maid agency.