Me Time!

[MrsKiasu]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2123425\" time=\"1700802370\" user_id=\"17023:

My Pilates’ classmate shared that her daughter planned to go RGS but her PSLE Tscore fell short of expectations so she went to another Sec sch to do her O levels.

Her daughter aimed to go RI(JC) but again, her O levels results fell short of expectations and she went on to Temasek JC.

Fast forward, the girl finally got into NUS Med with 4As having done well at Temasek JC.

Not uncommon to have ups and downs in life. It builds resilience in kids. When the kids themselves want to do well, they will persevere and won’t give up, and one day they will just realize their dreams.

:hugs: thanks for the inspirational story..really happy for that girl girl to achieve her dreams at the end of the day..my this girl arh..somehow her voices of asking me to give her some motivations some time ago, keeps ringing in my head. She is getting worse in some ways. Do things half hearted kind. Even brushing her teeth..last time she always come to me asked me if her teeth are clean and white enough...now don't skip is good already.

[MrsKiasu]

Funz\" post_id=\"2123437\" time=\"1700806081\" user_id=\"6230:

For myself, stress manifests itself in physical ailments first more than emotional or mental. I will get more migraines, gastric issues and eczema flare ups. Of course if this physical issues are prolonged, it will affect the mood eventually.

For your DD's case since already gone for some checks and the scan shows something iffy that needs further checks I will say just follow through with that just for peace of mind. Else if anything else crops up, you may have to revisit certain things that you have already done this round.

Just went with DS for his consult with a specialist this morning. This thing has been at the back of our heads since before his prelims and I was worried that it might affect his focus. Now that we have gotten it out of the way and it is an all clear with no further follow ups needed, we can fully enjoy our year end trip.

Ikr..when the kids condition cleared..tge kind of relief we have. Still remember yr ds is such a darling tho he is a boy.

And on skin..yes, once stressed also will see some issues surfaced de.

[MrsKiasu]

Dear mommies…thank you for the feedbacks. Yup my heart also think let’s wait and see which subjects needs help. Otherwise once started will need to be brave enough to stop it.

[zac's mum]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2123385\" time=\"1700794208\" user_id=\"14025:

There was an article on a student whose hands were physically challenged to even hold a pen/pencil ...

These students beat all the odds to go all the way for PSLE

Last year there was a very sad article about a boy with terminal cancer & he chose to sit for psle despite the pain and health difficulties. His parents collected his psle results on his behalf after he passed away:

Parents collect PSLE results of son who died from cancer
https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/parenting-education/parents-collect-psle-results-of-son-who-died-from-cancer

[zac's mum]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2123420\" time=\"1700801414\" user_id=\"43981:

Can I check with you all.. Sec1 need to start tuition immediately?

Let me offer a different viewpoint from the other mums. I started my DS on Math & Sci tuition in Dec after getting the results. They were his weak subjects in pri, so i expected them to remain weak in sec. A headstart would be no harm (since hols nothing else to study mah). I also went thru some algebra with him at home in Nov prior to that. He picked up the content well, school reinforced, come home do assessment books, tuition centre has topical revision & mock tests before the exam periods. I throw him exam papers to do also.

Becos i know these 2 subjects will determine his future streaming combi allocation. Even though i hate this system, i do what i can to let him have more options in his future. He is not a science & math person (better at humanities) but will all this extra help he could get A1-B3 consistently in sec 1. It boosts his self-confidence also.

I didn’t want to make the same mistake i made in primary school (not emphasizing too much on academics). I felt that he is at the right maturity level now to understand that he has to work hard for his own future. After he has tasted the disappointments, the limitations in choices, and the ruthless taunting from ex-schoolmates, it serves to drive him internally as well.

[Imp75]

For those progressing into sec 1, maybe adopt a wait n see attitude. See if can cope during the common tests etc? There is still time to catch up later when help is required? Anyways streaming only started end of sec 2 so got time to seek help later. The transition to sec 1 might prove overwhelming for some from 4-8 subjects plus heavy CCA commitments so yah tuition maybe taking away more deserved rest the kids need with longer sec Sch hours.

[zac's mum]

Imp75\" post_id=\"2123471\" time=\"1700814643\" user_id=\"2358:

For those progressing into sec 1, maybe adopt a wait n see attitude. See if can cope during the common tests etc? There is still time to catch up later when help is required? Anyways streaming only started end of sec 2 so got time to seek help later. The transition to sec 1 might prove overwhelming for some from 4-8 subjects plus heavy CCA commitments so yah tuition maybe taking away more deserved rest the kids need with longer sec Sch hours.

If my child went to IP i would do that. But O level track has very short runway. Plus sec 1 eoy result is impt if want to try transfer school. That is my take. Of course must see the child & family situation, travel time, CCA commitments etc. I chose to take slmkhoo’s advice and start DS on a regular consistent after-school schedule from the beginning (of Sec 1; i failed to do this with much rigour in primary school), rather than let him fail his first WA and do corrective fire-fighting recovery later. Some parent friends chose to do that.

[Liew Nga Wing]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2123409\" time=\"1700798409\" user_id=\"43981:

Thanks chief. Maybe also coz I kept telling her b4 results out that getting 8pt is actually not that easy one lor. The exam b4 prelim still ok can get 8pt even some at the unlucky spectrum of the AL range. Then comes prelim..we all errr already. So need to moderate her expectation. I asked her few times any chance of exceeding the minimum/base AL coz I was worry..and those words like mommy you are insulting me arh..I m dumb but not that dumb etc ..in a jokingly manner..no offence to anyone. She likes using words and actions to make us all laugh..ah..going to northern part of china...washing some thermal wears coz going to be colder there.

Are you going to 哈尔滨冰雪大世界?

[ChiefKiasu]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2123409\" time=\"1700798409\" user_id=\"43981:

Thanks chief. Maybe also coz I kept telling her b4 results out that getting 8pt is actually not that easy one lor. The exam b4 prelim still ok can get 8pt even some at the unlucky spectrum of the AL range. Then comes prelim..we all errr already. So need to moderate her expectation. I asked her few times any chance of exceeding the minimum/base AL coz I was worry..and those words like mommy you are insulting me arh..I m dumb but not that dumb etc ..in a jokingly manner..no offence to anyone. She likes using words and actions to make us all laugh..ah..going to northern part of china...washing some thermal wears coz going to be colder there.

Yeah. It's really not easy getting anything below AL10. I salute all those who scored AL8-10 and all those AL5-8 people are not human

But remember... PSLE is just one measure of a person's capability. It doesn't say that a person is stupid just because the person got AL10 or above. It is people who uses the grade to sort students into secondary schools that make it seem like it is. PSLE is the measure of competency in the Primary school subjects, just like the color of belts measure the competency of people training in Taekwondo, or the grades used to measure pianists as they progress. One might not be good in PSLE, but there's always something out there that one excels in.

Life is really about seeking out what one is good at, and then following your dream.

[Estéema]

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2123476\" time=\"1700815182\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2123476 time=1700815182 user_id=53606]
If my child went to IP i would do that. But O level track has very short runway. Plus sec 1 eoy result is impt if want to try transfer school. That is my take. Of course must see the child & family situation, travel time, CCA commitments etc. I chose to take slmkhoo’s advice and start DS on a regular consistent after-school schedule from the beginning (of Sec 1; i failed to do this with much rigour in primary school), rather than let him fail his first WA and do corrective fire-fighting recovery later. Some parent friends chose to do that.[/quote]

I agree to start kids on the right foot & get them steady n a consistent schedule & build their time mgt ability. I’ve been closely guiding them in primary sch as I see it as impt commencement of school life. Once the young child get the hang for studies (homework, reading up, etc), u wld hv given them the desire to pursue knowledge as an interests & studies fall in place when the interests to learn is there.

Once they’re settled in CCA, schedule their academics around it. Adjust along the way. Takes awhile but they’ll get there if the child perseveres. Then it becomes 2nd nature. Do guide as they’re only in tweens & then gradually let them flex their ability to manage themselves & manage their studies well.

DS had no tuition for the Y1 but was really full-on with 2 CCAs, a 3rd language and regular subjects. In fact, DS took on 3 internships fr Y3 and then fr Y5 he had 3 CCAs (one fr his continuation since Y1, one Science club & then Christian Fellowship Leadership). He did take Chinese tuition mid-way to navigate HCL at secondary level. Thkfully he did well to score A* & he didn’t need to worry abt his 2nd language fr Y5. Was initially worried but he assured that he can handle & manage his time.

Make sure yr child make choices base on their interests & they’ll take responsibility to excel. They’ll make friends & motivate each other as they progress thro the academic years. Once yr child gets to enjoy secondary school, I’m sure she’ll make extra effort to roll in with the action & pickup responsibility & want to achieve.