Me Time!

[lee_yl]

00skyblue00\" post_id=\"2123785\" time=\"1701071391\" user_id=\"143605:

I remember one parent saying, the total amount one pays for tuition for a child nowadays, could be enough to send them to private uni with local presence, or the higher amt can be equivalent to go overseas (oz). why pay so much and only to get into local uni. There are options out there. Yes, some parents rather kids to stay in sg and not go overseas, not sure?

Luckily both my kids are ok to pick Uni courses that their results bring them to. They do not have a course that die die they must get in.

But there are kids who are fixated since young to study only Medicine, Law, Veterinary etc. I have seen two friends downgrade their properties to send their kids overseas for Medicine course. Estimated cost of $600K and since my friends have more than 1 kid each, so they need to think of the siblings too. I suppose tuition will never cost me close to $300K if I can use tuition to send my kids into local med/law

[lee_yl]

Imp75\" post_id=\"2123780\" time=\"1701069048\" user_id=\"2358:

Anyways on the topic of tuition to boost grades etc, it’s really subjective la. Some people look at the ROI for other aspects of their investments but do not look at the ROI on this tuition investment on their kids. Got friend sent kids to at TLL since kindy. Fast forward to pri 6, seems like TLL or not, grades still same. It seems common amongst my FTWM friends to simply send kids for tuition regardless of ROI just because they are too busy or unwilling to invest time to teach themselves.

I once asked DH, why must continue to send our girls to Chinese tuition when they cannot score above 90 marks for P5/P6 Chinese exams. My DH replied if we don’t send, maybe they couldn’t even maintain 80+ marks at P5/P6.

So this type of question is a “what if” question with no clear answer.

[Imp75]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2123790\" time=\"1701072714\" user_id=\"17023:

I once asked DH, why must continue to send our girls to Chinese tuition when they cannot score above 90 marks for P5/P6 Chinese exams. My DH replied if we don’t send, maybe they couldn’t even maintain 80+ marks at P5/P6.

So this type of question is a “what if” question with no clear answer.

This is not really what-if qn. Sounds like in your case, it’s probably a good investment if 1. It helps in bringing up the overall Chinese proficiency to get a shot at BSP which your girl eventually got it? 2. If Chinese is the only weak subject that may separate the child from
getting the ESIS or entry into top Sch, then I think worth a good shot at spending the investment esp if you cannot teach yourself ?
I do know people who spends $2000/mth on tuition in pri Sch even though the eventual aim is to go to non-ivy UK pre-college after O level and child already has an affiliated sec Sch. I cannot understand such parent mentality.

[zac's mum]

Just came back to SG after 1 week in cold weather…was feeling sweaty outside airport but thank God for the rain to cool me down again :imcool:

[Estéema]

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2123795\" time=\"1701074825\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2123795 time=1701074825 user_id=53606]
Just came back to SG after 1 week in cold weather…was feeling sweaty outside airport but thank God for the rain to cool me down again :imcool:[/quote]

I’ll hv to brace myself for yr experience. Real cold now. Hands all very dry.

[MrsKiasu]

For tuitions, apart from spending money, need spend time esp when need to chauffeur around. Waiting time/ lost time/wandering abt really don’t like. One dd told me not one time that tuition for her is wasting money only…actually I agree also…if can get lost when teachers in school delivering lessons…what makes the student can have different response with tutors? Another dd, say yes I want I want…after few lessons can see her dragging herself…and for me, apart from putting the tuition reminder on my hp calendar. I need to chg timing in the calendar after morning reminder pop up…so that it reminds me again after fetching them fm school then another round of chging timing/set alarm abt 1 hr fm going out. Very sian.

[Liew Nga Wing]

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2123795\" time=\"1701074825\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2123795 time=1701074825 user_id=53606]
Just came back to SG after 1 week in cold weather…was feeling sweaty outside airport but thank God for the rain to cool me down again :imcool:[/quote]

Welcome back, we all miss you :love:

[MrsKiasu]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2123798\" time=\"1701076115\" user_id=\"66413:

I’ll hv to brace myself for yr experience. Real cold now. Hands all very dry.

Your side around 0 now?

[Imp75]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2123802\" time=\"1701077647\" user_id=\"43981:

For tuitions, apart from spending money, need spend time esp when need to chauffeur around. Waiting time/ lost time/wandering abt really don't like. One dd told me not one time that tuition for her is wasting money only...actually I agree also..if can get lost when teachers in school delivering lessons..what makes the student can have different response with tutors? Another dd, say yes I want I want..after few lessons can see her dragging herself..and for me, apart from putting the tuition reminder on my hp calendar. I need to chg timing in the calendar after morning reminder pop up..so that it reminds me again after fetching them fm school then another round of chging timing/set alarm abt 1 hr fm going out. Very sian.

Yes very sian indeed. Last time I spent my weekends sending/waiting for my girls to finish their sports/dance training when they were younger. Was out practically the entire weekend on these waiting/fetching schedules.

[lee_yl]

Imp75\" post_id=\"2123792\" time=\"1701074438\" user_id=\"2358:

This is not really what-if qn. Sounds like in your case, it’s probably a good investment if 1. It helps in bringing up the overall Chinese proficiency to get a shot at BSP which your girl eventually got it? 2. If Chinese is the only weak subject that may separate the child from
getting the ESIS or entry into top Sch, then I think worth a good shot at spending the investment esp if you cannot teach yourself ?
I do know people who spends $2000/mth on tuition in pri Sch even though the eventual aim is to go to non-ivy UK pre-college after O level and child already has an affiliated sec Sch. I cannot understand such parent mentality.

It’s as if I am a FTMW and cannot supervise my kids all the time and if they don’t do well, then I will ask myself, “what if” I were a SAHM, would things be better??？

Assuming that I know my kid is not the academically inclined type, so even though my kid is able to make it back to his/her affiliated sec sch, I foresee that my kid is unlikely to compete in our local A levels system, more likely than not, he/she will go to Poly and from there, work for few years then maybe apply for (night) Uni.

Then in this case, if I can afford the fees, why not just let my kid exit the local academic rat race and go overseas after O to take a different route to get a degree?