Me Time!

[MrsKiasu]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2124256\" time=\"1701672650\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2124256 time=1701672650 user_id=195250]
Stop here....no more impose your worry on her......Just let her to go for her dream.... don't ask A or B to talk to her since she is so determine and crying for it. 不要把她迫疯了.[/quote]

Not forcing. Sometimes need to have some guidance. Adults also need guidance.

[MrsKiasu]

Really crazy now. During fasting, eating window is 2hrs a day. Now is the other way round.

[zac's mum]

DS’ school held their cca trials/auditions during the regular CCA timings, ie after school, on the relevant weekdays. He signed up for total of 5 trials: 4 weekday trials (after school) and 1 weekend (morning) trial. I purposely refused to pick him up from school after those trials, just so that he could have the full experience of his energy level, carrying the schoolbag + equipment, squeezing on the crowded bus with the office workers going home.


After trying out all, he himself concluded, he preferred to pick the Sat early morning cca cos he dun mind waking up early for that compared to soooo tired in the evening after a long day.

[MrsKiasu]

dd2 esp. is the one wants to walk home, try not to ‘disturb’ me whenever I need to make trips just to pick her up. I always need to tell her I m really ok to make the trips. Sometimes I do think it is not very good to complain in front of them eg. say I m tired etc coz they may take it seriously…and ended up I don’t get to hear their ‘exact’ problems. Everything also ok one.

[zac's mum]

MKS, i can understand the kids tend to open up and talk more with us during the car ride. But it is not necessarily the only way. Eg u can modify to taking an easy stroll (or other activity like washing the car; washing dishes) after dinner, maybe they will also be inclined to chitchat with us that way.

[sharonkhoo]

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2124263\" time=\"1701676763\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2124263 time=1701676763 user_id=53606]
MKS, i can understand the kids tend to open up and talk more with us during the car ride. But it is not necessarily the only way. Eg u can modify to taking an easy stroll (or other activity like washing the car; washing dishes) after dinner, maybe they will also be inclined to chitchat with us that way.[/quote]

We have never had a car to drive the kids to and from school! I didn't even accompany them to school most of the time. So I also agree that driving is not necessary to have conversations with kids, and your drives are very short anyway. In my family, the good conversations happened either over meals, or after our family devotions (we are Christians) every evening. These were daily when they were younger, and reduced in frequency as they got older, but we still managed 3-4 times a week even when they were doing A levels. You can try to create some schedule for such opportunities too.

The other thing is to ask questions that they can't answer by saying yes/no/fine/ok! I got a good deal of that when they were teenagers, and my older girl still gives me those if I don't phrase my questions properly. So ask questions like \"What did you do during xxx lesson today?\", \"Who did you talk to during recess today?\" etc.

[MrsKiasu]

The 2 confide in each other alot more now. Whenever I say a little bit more to one of them. The other will say mommy don’t worry, she knows one…她知道的啦…so I can stop my nag…they help each other… before covid both will argue and the younger one will come near me with her lips pout say jiejie lor. Now is different. Sometimes I do find I need to guess.

[Estéema]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124249\" time=\"1701668768\" user_id=\"43981:

Yes leeyl many dilemmas. My dd's stamina is not the strong type. I actually would like her to try for UG, go marching maybe look wise can be a bit tougher. After cca, I see a 'withered' girl when I went to pick her up. She was on 2 days long hours cca but in sec it it going to be longer hours and more days. Sec cca cannot anyhow change right esp for O lvl students. Before psle she already said she want that cca in sec so I was hoping if can get into ip then will be good coz at least no national exam in y4. Now we need to look at points and also exam. So maybe I should pray for failed audition? And also reminded me of dd1 kept taking on competitions during psle year when some others tried to avoid. Will regret de.

MKS,
It’s a good opportunity to let yr child choose sth she likes. Tho it seems she gets what she wants, u get to hv yr girl show u how she can become more independent to manage her time against her desire & u hv the enjoyment to see yr girl grow up to be more responsible for her success.

Not sure abt yr girl’s new sch but our experience is that the teachers will advise & guide them how best to maximize their time, care for their health & balance their academic. Give her more freedom & trust to stretch & grow. I’m sure as she matures to become a young lady, she’ll be more conscious abt her health & take more personal responsibility for her wellness.

[MrsKiasu]

Thanks esteema. Will let her decide. She has few likes. If she goes for this, she may need to forgo at least 2 other likes. She should be taking hcl. Though she doesn’t like the tuition, she may need to go for it sooner than later. Double the number of subjects, not only time is not enough… she needs to also endure pain due to her certain condition. It was already very painful for her when she was on lesser hours and number of days. This is going to be almost double. My heart will be in pain for not only seeing her enduring her pain but also her getting disappointed for seeing her other likes one by one, getting out of touch.

[MrsKiasu]

Received $$ from G already? I have received mine.