Me Time!
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Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2124462\" time=\"1701927273\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2124462 time=1701927273 user_id=195250]
Lnw, you may be at a little more fragile state right now? Or you want to share those sufferings when small that still strongly impact you now ?
Crying the whole lunch time because from what happened here - I can see myself when I was small and those suffering which have taken for those years. Hope this will not happen to any kids anymore.[/quote] -
Coolkidsrock2\" post_id=\"2124448\" time=\"1701923833\" user_id=\"48901:
Always have a feeling this dd seems to be leaning more towards Arts side but as of now nothing being at developed/development side due to my 'neglect'.
Just for sharing, one of my DD's friend joined an orchestra overseas and is now stationed/performing overseas. There is still a pathway in performing or fine arts, etc.
Art is gaining popularity as an asset class, so there will also be (more) opportunities in the industry over time.
Our kids generation is luckier than us in that they have less pressure to quickly find work to support the parents or ease the family's financial burden. They also have more options. -
Imp75\" post_id=\"2124463\" time=\"1701927501\" user_id=\"2358:
Thank you. Take some time to cool down.
Learn to live and let go and be happier? -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124465\" time=\"1701931859\" user_id=\"43981:
It is OK, forget it.
Lnw, you may be at a little more fragile state right now? Or you want to share those sufferings when small that still strongly impact you now ? -
On what happened when young and in a way shaped/impact our thinking, behaviours etc…as I have no parents by my side most time in my growing up years. I find myself very ignorant de.
On academics, I never know I need this A in order to achieve B in a easier way for eg. I only know when there is exam I need to study for it. What CCA I wouldn’t really know but somehow I remember joining UG with my friends. Very little almost none tuition. My parent will provide money and I can go tuition if I want to but I just don’t see the needs/importance of it.
I have no direction provided by adults. Many years later to now, I find it impossible to work on time table/schedule (except classroom time table). I am also unable to teach my kids on following what time do what etc. All free range style of growing up. It was because I know you all mommies that now I have some emphasis on my kids studies…else all free range, kampong style…everywhere, anything type. Our gen can survive coz during our time not that big proportion of people with degree. Now is different.
So if you ask me if I am happy with no limitations imposed…yes I m happy. But I think I would be happier to know why I m doing this instead of that, have some guidance from someone who know more than myself. -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124472\" time=\"1701937395\" user_id=\"43981:
There's a balance to strike - happiness from complete freedom in youth is great, but what if that leads to regrets in later life? On the other hand, being forced to study under harsh conditions may also not lead to a great adulthood.
So if you ask me if I am happy with no limitations imposed..yes I m happy. But I think I would be happier to know why I m doing this instead of that, have some guidance from someone who know more than myself.
Do you have any relatives or friends who can give advice? Someone who is more familiar with the various pathways of education/skills training, knows (or can get to know) your kids' abilities and interests, and can help you and your kids strategise? Parents don't have all the answers, so we have to ask for help from our family and community. We are sometimes asked for help by cousins, nephews, nieces, friends etc - part of the pains/joys of having a big extended family. -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124472\" time=\"1701937395\" user_id=\"43981:
It may not be a bad thing to \"free range\" or 放养 kids. Gives them an opportunity to learn to be independent and solve their own problems. Have seen nearly 20 year-olds cry when encounter problems - 连求救的本能 also not developed.
On what happened when young and in a way shaped/impact our thinking, behaviours etc..as I have no parents by my side most time in my growing up years. I find myself very ignorant de.
On academics, I never know I need this A in order to achieve B in a easier way for eg. I only know when there is exam I need to study for it. What CCA I wouldn't really know but somehow I remember joining UG with my friends. Very little almost none tuition. My parent will provide money and I can go tuition if I want to but I just don't see the needs/importance of it.
I have no direction provided by adults. Many years later to now, I find it impossible to work on time table/schedule (except classroom time table). I am also unable to teach my kids on following what time do what etc. All free range style of growing up. It was because I know you all mommies that now I have some emphasis on my kids studies..else all free range, kampong style..everywhere, anything type. Our gen can survive coz during our time not that big proportion of people with degree. Now is different.
So if you ask me if I am happy with no limitations imposed..yes I m happy. But I think I would be happier to know why I m doing this instead of that, have some guidance from someone who know more than myself. -
Slmkhoo, no need extra help for myself. With maturity, life experiences and advices should be able to manage. I was just trying to tell lnw…coz she seems to be a bit worry for dd and similar cases.
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Coolkidsrock2\" post_id=\"2124475\" time=\"1701944127\" user_id=\"48901:
I really admire your ability to 'let go' and let them 'fly'. It is a good thing to do..I would like to be that kid too.. but for parents need lots of courage, trust and believe, I would think.
It may not be a bad thing to \"free range\" or 放养 kids. Gives them an opportunity to learn to be independent and solve their own problems. Have seen nearly 20 year-olds cry when encounter problems - 连求救的本能 also not developed. -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124489\" time=\"1701959954\" user_id=\"43981:
Also a clear sense of what the child is able to be and do. Being uninvolved and non-directive works for some kids, but not for others. A lot depends on how well they've been taught, how disciplined they are, whether they have learnt to think and make good decisions for themselves. It's not just based on age. When they were toddlers, we based giving them limited freedom on how stable they were walk at walking/running etc, how capable they were with remembering rules, whether they had learnt not dashing into dangerous areas etc. We didn't just say - \"other kids can do this at 3yo, so you carry on\". Same for teens.
I really admire your ability to 'let go' and let them 'fly'. It is a good thing to do..I would like to be that kid too.. but for parents need lots of courage, trust and believe, I would think.
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