Living in Singapore

[MrsKiasu]

要老公body only改什么。。 for many of us, 你要你拉去吧， 💰放下


Joke aside, imho marriage without kids can be happy but with kids also another type of happiness. Let me choose again, I will choose the same cycle.

[MrsKiasu]

Is it because of daughters (only?). My husband tho no hands on with their studies. Recently, he pouted his lips, the next morning after I scolded the girls…he says why did you scold our daughters. They are our daughters you know…I was trying hard to hold my laughter lol.

[Estéema]

One of my nephew & only son of one of my SIL, married his sweetheart but after marriage they jointly decided not to hv kids but hv 2 lovely doggies with one aircond room dedicated to the dogs.


Now, the elderly couple busy themselves with 4 grandchildren fr their daughter. They used to be high flying professionals (literally flying frequently for work & the kids go for 2 overseas vacations a year and s’times 3. Ano SIL made comments that nephew shld persuade wife to hv children, and as a midwife, she claims that women who doesn’t hv kids will develop endometriosis & the like in their womb (as if replacements). I used to cringed at her claims, but well I’m still abit traditional in my viewpoints abt family & procreation. Tho I won’t go along with “must maintain the male lineage” thingy, I look more on the couple aging years & support fr younger family member(s) wld be enriching. Anyway, it’s still their life. Not for me to comment unless they want my opinion. I love him all the same.

[Liew Nga Wing]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2131178\" time=\"1711103300\" user_id=\"43981:

Is it because of daughters (only?). My husband tho no hands on with their studies. Recently, he pouted his lips, the next morning after I scolded the girls..he says why did you scold our daughters. They are our daughters you know..I was trying hard to hold my laughter lol.

:scared: why you scold people? I have never scold people except my colleagues :rotflmao:

[00skyblue00]

An old friend of mine, got married at age 24, two yrs after grad from uni. Alr decided not to have kids. "signed" contract with her bf before marriage to not have kids. Guy is neutral but ok not to have kids too (i guess). Hence got married. However, his parents are not aware of this pact until today. Even few years back, parents still advised them to seek medical help. Anyway, both migrated to another country years back, complained abt sg tax and setup are all pro family, so households without kids have no perks, no security? at all. Now they have a house fully paid and yes two dogs.


In this case, the girl is adamant not to have kids, but i guess the guy is neutral. I do believe she is the non compromise herself type of person, so she herself knows, cannot have kids.
Also, she mentioned abt risks of having special needs kids is high these days. Is this true?
Perfectionist like her may not know how to handle it. So many parents of children with medical or special needs out there, really admirable of them. I used to think my friend should have a kid back then, but they have their own lifestyle now, also happy for them. It’s fated.

[sharonkhoo]

00skyblue00\" post_id=\"2131181\" time=\"1711108824\" user_id=\"143605:

Also, she mentioned abt risks of having special needs kids is high these days. Is this true?

I think the rates are increasing, but I can't help thinking that it's increased awareness and diagnosis these days. A generation or two ago, people just assumed that some people were \"stupid\", \"clumsy\", \"inconsiderate\", \"rude\", \"sickly\", \"weak\" etc. There are quite a few (not sure how many) older people who, if they had been born 50 years later, would have been diagnosed with something. Also, later pregnancies are associated with a higher incidence of issues, so if people are giving birth later, the incidence of issues will also be higher.

[sharonkhoo]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2131178\" time=\"1711103300\" user_id=\"43981:

Is it because of daughters (only?). My husband tho no hands on with their studies. Recently, he pouted his lips, the next morning after I scolded the girls..he says why did you scold our daughters. They are our daughters you know..I was trying hard to hold my laughter lol.

I would have been furious if my husband had said that to me for that reason - I don't scold people I don't care about, and I only expend that kind of energy on my children because I love them. I certainly wouldn't have been laughing!

[Liew Nga Wing]

Kids always learn from their parents. If the parents scold them, they will scold other people when they grown up. To me and DH, we have never scold DS, we just talk to him.

[MrsKiasu]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2131180\" time=\"1711107667\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2131180 time=1711107667 user_id=195250]
:scared: why you scold people? I have never scold people except my colleagues :rotflmao:[/quote]

It is another word for 'teaching' lol. Young time must teach. Why scold colleagues? All are adults.

[doodbug]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2131182\" time=\"1711110713\" user_id=\"28674:

I think the rates are increasing, but I can't help thinking that it's increased awareness and diagnosis these days. A generation or two ago, people just assumed that some people were \"stupid\", \"clumsy\", \"inconsiderate\", \"rude\", \"sickly\", \"weak\" etc. There are quite a few (not sure how many) older people who, if they had been born 50 years later, would have been diagnosed with something. Also, later pregnancies are associated with a higher incidence of issues, so if people are giving birth later, the incidence of issues will also be higher.

I have a similar hypothesis for cancers and perhaps even chronic diseases. Is there an increased prevalence, or diagnosis?

I wonder if cancer rates are increasing, or that our great grandparents might have the disease, without ever being diagnosed as cancers were not known then. They had shorter life expectancies, and must have been inflicted with an or multiple infirmities too.