Me Time!

[lee_yl]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2132160\" time=\"1712460298\" user_id=\"43981:

Also dd staying late till evening almost every day so mostly eat in canteen. Dd2, after school, she has habit of asking to stop at McDonald's drive thru so not much motivation to cook.

Ahhh… Now I know why you are not motivated to go marketing since your children seldom eat at home nowadays. This situation will only get worse and unlikely to get better. Inevitable that you will feel depressed and keep thinking in circles because as a SAHM, under the same situation, I would have felt that I didn’t have much value-add already.

If I ever reach a point that one whole month I do not need to cook & do marketing, very likely I will feel depressed too because cooking & groceries shopping are two things I enjoy doing.

[MrsKiasu]

lee_yl\" post_id=\"2132172\" time=\"1712473678\" user_id=\"17023:

Ahhh… Now I know why you are not motivated to go marketing since your children seldom eat at home nowadays. This situation will only get worse and unlikely to get better. Inevitable that you will feel depressed and keep thinking in circles because as a SAHM, under the same situation, I would have felt that I didn’t have much value-add already.

If I ever reach a point that one whole month I do not need to cook & do marketing, very likely I will feel depressed too because cooking & groceries shopping are two things I enjoy doing.

Think you are right. I used to be so motivated to try new recipes. Nowadays feeling lazy to even bring the equipment out. Say want to make Belgian waffles, near 2 wks still haven't make. Dd says want to do a trial for her baking tomorrow b4 her home econ test? I think. Last wk, had a day studying Add Math topic feel so motivated today keep asking dd if she needs any help with whichever topic of the subjects. She says don't need..ok I m now watching/reading metaphysics.

[sharonkhoo]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2132161\" time=\"1712460591\" user_id=\"43981:

Exactly. Idleness makes me more tired actually. I even prepared to work for something that earning me a small salary which minus petrol/parking really pathetic..

I think you should look at doing \"something\" as a means to improve your own life by having something purposeful to do. Don't think about the pay and whether it's \"worth it\" - people will do hobbies and activities which cost money to give them something to do! In fact, if you can't find a job that suits you, why not find some volunteer work? Your kids don't need you as much now, so a few hours a week of something may be just what you need.

Looking to the future, sometimes volunteer work can lead to paid work, or can give you some skills and exposure that will help build up your resume. Start with that first, and see where it leads you.

[sharonkhoo]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2132160\" time=\"1712460298\" user_id=\"43981:

Also dd staying late till evening almost every day so mostly eat in canteen. Dd2, after school, she has habit of asking to stop at McDonald's drive thru so not much motivation to cook.

MacD daily doesn't sound very healthy! Maybe you can limit her to 1-2 times a week, and still cook the other days? It's better not to let this kind of habit develop.

[zac's mum]

DS weekdays dismissal at 2.30pm by the time reach home is already tea time kind of timing, so I asked him to eat his lunch in school (or near school) whenever possible before heading home. So he will usually be rotating lunch with whichever friend group is staying back for cca. If no friends free then he will dabao his and mine (lunch) along the way home. Otherwise i am happy to eat an apple alone


I am thinking to go back to full time work hours liao, since i am quite “redundant” at home nowadays.

[sharonkhoo]

Funz\" post_id=\"2132154\" time=\"1712458012\" user_id=\"6230:

Yes, being idle can be stressful as well. No sense of purpose, no sense of accomplishment, nothing much to look forward to.

Some can say no deadlines, no worries, no one to answer to, what's there to stress about. But different people are wired differently.

Agree with you! I just met up with a bunch of friends my age, and most are spending their time travelling and doing hobbies. I am slowing down on work and planning to travel more, but I can't see myself just doing hobbies - that has happened at various times in the past, and I find it boring and stressful after a while.

I'm happy to do volunteer work because I can see that what I do benefits people and the organisation, even though I don't get paid. I will do paid projects if offered, but that part of my work has reduced recently and I haven't been trying very hard to build that up as I'm busy enough for now. I realise that I need to feel that my skills and activities are useful - and I don't see my main skills as cooking and housework!

[sharonkhoo]

zac's mum\" post_id=\"2132176\" time=\"1712478100\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=2132176 time=1712478100 user_id=53606]
I am thinking to go back to full time work hours liao, since i am quite “redundant” at home nowadays.[/quote]

Why not? And if you find that a FT 5 days a week is a bit much, you could try working PT 3-4 days a week. Also, nowadays, WFH a couple of days a week is the norm for many jobs, which is not as intense as 5 full days in the office.

[MrsKiasu]

In my mind I know I want to have something to do now and later can bring it into my ‘retirement’ years…just that what/how/where to start.

[MrsKiasu]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2132174\" time=\"1712477151\" user_id=\"28674:

I think you should look at doing \"something\" as a means to improve your own life by having something purposeful to do. Don't think about the pay and whether it's \"worth it\" - people will do hobbies and activities which cost money to give them something to do! In fact, if you can't find a job that suits you, why not find some volunteer work? Your kids don't need you as much now, so a few hours a week of something may be just what you need.

Looking to the future, sometimes volunteer work can lead to paid work, or can give you some skills and exposure that will help build up your resume. Start with that first, and see where it leads you.

I think go out find a job should be able to ba..if both the company and I compromise a little..but somehow find it not 'sustainable' as in I still would like to have my freedom of time to fetch dds..esp nowadays so hot outside. The weather makes me feel reluctant to go out for a walk also.

[MrsKiasu]

Dd usually go to shortest Q stall during recess forgoing her favourite noodle soup so that she could go library to enjoy aircon. After school, once in a while she will ask me if can dabao tomyam banmian. I bought a bottle of tom yam koong fm SS for her craving at home.