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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2133735\" time=\"1715421507\" user_id=\"43981:
Yes, your kids are brought up by you so whether to celebrate or not will somehow be shaped by your upbringing.
I guess coz I m not someone who puts much attention in celebrations..and they were brought up by me..so naturally lor.. dds want to get me gifts but I told them no need. I m not someone who gets excited in receiving gifts.
Sometimes I do think will that make them having one lesser joy in life in the future and also will they be missing the joy of giving now? Their birthdays we celebrate together coz it happens during school holiday so everyone is there.
My mum likes all these gatherings so I guess I naturally like such celebrations too.
My late MIL on the other hand, did not think such celebrations were necessary. DH always offered to bring her out for Mother’s Day lunch but she consistently rejected.
Funny thing is, although she said no need to celebrate, she got jealous/black face when she saw us wearing nice nice to go celebrations with my mum while she was alone at home.
So I say, if your kids want to give you something as a token of appreciation, pls take! -
lee_yl\" post_id=\"2133759\" time=\"1715480837\" user_id=\"17023:
Whatever it is, since your late MIL has already passed away, just let go 放下 those funny things she had done before. It is for the sake of you not your MIL because it reflects you are still affected by some negative feeling on her jealous or black face,何苦呢?
Yes, your kids are brought up by you so whether to celebrate or not will somehow be shaped by your upbringing.
My mum likes all these gatherings so I guess I naturally like such celebrations too.
My late MIL on the other hand, did not think such celebrations were necessary. DH always offered to bring her out for Mother’s Day lunch but she consistently rejected.
Funny thing is, although she said no need to celebrate, she got jealous/black face when she saw us wearing nice nice to go celebrations with my mum while she was alone at home.
So I say, if your kids want to give you something as a token of appreciation, pls take! -
Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2133760\" time=\"1715486245\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2133760 time=1715486245 user_id=195250]
I think we are on “different frequencies” lah, you misinterpreted my post and I am not affected by the past.
Whatever it is, since your late MIL has already passed away, just let go 放下 those funny things she had done before. It is for the sake of you not your MIL because it reflects you are still affected by some negative feeling on her jealous or black face,何苦呢?[/quote]
I was just sharing my observation that humans can say no need to celebrate Mother’s Day but they are not happy when really nobody celebrates with them.
So how do you celebrate Mother’s Day with your mum? My family with my siblings, parents and my 96yo grandma are having buffet now
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This morning, I had the best Mother’s Day moments at morning service, knowing we’re given the responsibility to nurture our young ones to grow & develop and feels fulfilling. My family gave me hugs & words of comfort looking into my eyes.
Thankful for the opportunity to exercise our patience to see our young ones grow to maturity, to love and to support them no matter what situation they encounter. To give them lots of emotional support, mental stimulation, provide for their physical needs & guide them in their spiritual grow.
Must rmbr to get a family dinner for Father’s Day too as they also played a very impt role running ard getting the baby cots set up & buying babies’ supplies when I was a new mother back then. They’re the financial provider & the muscle for days when mummy is flat out. In my family, DH is the one driving ard the kids for lessons, tuition & when they’ve to do competitions ard the reservoirs.
Thank you all for this parenting journey where I learnt so much to apply. :thankyou: -
If my mum were around, I would celebrate with her.
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lee_yl\" post_id=\"2133761\" time=\"1715491190\" user_id=\"17023:
We don't celebrate Mother Day because it is always very crowded outside. DS and DIL are celebrating with his MIL.
I think we are on “different frequencies” lah, you misinterpreted my post and I am not affected by the past.
I was just sharing my observation that humans can say no need to celebrate Mother’s Day but they are not happy when really nobody celebrates with them.
So how do you celebrate Mother’s Day with your mum? My family with my siblings, parents and my 96yo grandma are having buffet now -
Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2133765\" time=\"1715495908\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2133765 time=1715495908 user_id=195250]
Mother’s Day can be celebrated as everyone does on that designated day, days before or days after. It can be celebrated outside at normal or posh restaurants, or cook-in at home with whatever favourite food anyone can dish up & make everyone treasure those moments together. I used to cook & hv the entire extended family eat together at home coz it’s comfortable physically as well as a place we can freely chat & wont disturb other patrons with our noises or children running around. I enjoyed those days but can’t do as much as I age.
We don't celebrate Mother Day because it is always very crowded outside. DS and DIL are celebrating with his MIL.[/quote]
At dinner last night, BIL had only one carnation for MIL, but she felt every mother at the table shld be given one. So she jokingly pass the carnation to the next mother every half-hour. Then she jokes which mother shld the carnation follows for the night & when we meet in church today, it can follow the next mother in Q. That’s how she spreads her motherly love. Lots of fun fr an 80+ matriarch! We all shared a cake niece baked. Alr passed the baton to her. We also had SIL’s mum with us as part of the big family as she’s a widower living alone. So, hopefully next generation can find all & any occasion to hv large family get-together to catchup & bond.
Whatever we do, impt is the heart that value, treasure and expressed to those who painstakingly perform that womanly duties that fathers can’t or don’t do by nature or as a habit. -
starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2133763\" time=\"1715491640\" user_id=\"14025:
树欲静而风不止，子欲养而亲不待.
If my mum were around, I would celebrate with her. -
Estéema\" post_id=\"2133766\" time=\"1715496809\" user_id=\"66413:
Estéema,
Mother’s Day can be celebrated as everyone does on that designated day, days before or days after. It can be celebrated outside at normal or posh restaurants, or cook-in at home with whatever favourite food anyone can dish up & make everyone treasure those moments together. I used to cook & hv the entire extended family eat together at home coz it’s comfortable physically as well as a place we can freely chat & wont disturb other patrons with our noises or children running around. I enjoyed those days but can’t do as much as I age.
At dinner last night, BIL had only one carnation for MIL, but she felt every mother at the table shld be given one. So she jokingly pass the carnation to the next mother every half-hour. Then she jokes which mother shld the carnation follows for the night & when we meet in church today, it can follow the next mother in Q. That’s how she spreads her motherly love. Lots of fun fr an 80+ matriarch! We all shared a cake niece baked. Alr passed the baton to her. We also had SIL’s mum with us as part of the big family as she’s a widower living alone. So, hopefully next generation can find all & any occasion to hv large family get-together to catchup & bond.
Whatever we do, impt is the heart that value, treasure and expressed to those who painstakingly perform that womanly duties that fathers can’t or don’t do by nature or as a habit.
Our problem is no one want to cook at home. I never cook, my mother is on strike forever 😒. Siblings are the same. We gether during my mother's birthday. -
Can buy whole frozen roast duck, trotter etc and keep…just put into oven for less than half an hr. If the skin of the pork belly is clean, use airfryer can have roast pork le within 2 hrs … I keep few packets of kimchi at home…the other evening I watched mukbang, just thaw meat, pour kimchi add some other ingredients if you want & water can eat already. Lesser supermarket trips nowadays
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