Me Time!
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@slmkhoo I suspect if my 2nd one also decides to study overseas later this year, I’m going to be suffering from empty nest syndrome.
Any other KSP mama in my shoes??I shall take it as advance preparation for kids getting married and flying the coup!
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Try traveling (even a short trip) or going out to eat with just one of them (kids). My experience is that you tend to “hear” more.
We don’t celebrate much either, but recently we’ve tried to make more time to do things together.
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@doodbug Yes, can be quite a shock, I think. I’ve always had one still at home, so the nest is not really “empty” even now. But she’s the quiet one who can be at home and we don’t really notice! I think hobbies and activities (social, volunteer, even work!) can take your mind off the emptiness. Spend more time doing stuff with your husband or other people, especially younger people. Staying in touch with the kids overseas is easier now - we set up a weekly Skype call with my daughter overseas just to talk in person, with occasional WA through the week.
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Skype is shutdown now!
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@slmkhoo we use Facetime and it works well! The whole family has succumbed to the Apple ecosystem, heh.
I’m not feeling the emptiness as I can always find things to occupy and amuse myself
It’s just the realisation that we don’t quite have the kids with us any more cos they’re no longer kids! heh. It’s actually a very nice stage of life to walk together with the spouse.Actually GE period was pretty fun - DD and I attended rallies and screamed our lungs out! Cathartic!
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@SG_KP1 Yes, we were doing it 2018-21! Should have made a note that it was a long time ago.
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@doodbug It’s a stage, and it’s well to anticipate the need to adjust and let go. When they are students, you still have the expectation that they will come home again; when they are married, you know (and hope!) that they won’t come home again! At least not permanently!
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Most of our children have grown up, so we now have more freedom and time for ourselves. My friends are travelling more these days. Last time it was used to be mostly family trips are now often with friends too.
Our conversations tend be on health, travel and skincare. Aging can be a little depressing at times. It is important to find friends to talk to and things to keep ourselves engaged.
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@PiggyLalala I find that having contact with people younger than us also helps. Mixing only with people our own age, the conversations can be rather restricted in topic! We have regular contact with a group of 30-somethings, and it’s really nice to see them go through life with small kids etc (and thank my lucky stars that all that is behind me!). Volunteering also helps to add more different people and groups into the mix.
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