All about Transferring to Other Primary Schools

[jedamum]

schellen:

Hi! Please check this existing thread: http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=1107

mods, please merge.
personally, i think most schools admit transfer cases based on queue number system rather than merit, especially if it is a transfer into neighbourhood schools. with valid reasons, you should just go ahead and approach the school to fill in the form for transfer.
jmho.

[mwchua]

Just wondering.....


I think my girl is not the \"DSA material\", i.e. cant get on the DSA bandwagon through GEP, Maths Olympaid nor outstanding PSLE result (>260).

Do you think it is wise to start thinking of the possible exit strategies, eg transfer to another school with affiliation??? seems to be the \"easy\" way out but can save me 5 more years of screaming/shouting, of hair dropping.....should be a wise move rite??

Last year I actually gave up a chance for her to enter at P1 a very decent girls' school with affiliation after interview....and now she is in another girls' school without affiliation.

Rationale for my then decision was:
- school with affiliation is perceived to be a \"rich girls' school\". Also my stubborn streak that 1 should stand on 1's own 2 feet & not depend on affiliation (based on my personal experience)...but now I realise I am overly naive & idealistic, or rather, I over-estimated my girl's ability.....

- school without affiliation: supposedly produce tough cookies since without affiliation, but maybe more applicable to their sec school though....

So now I am really regretting my decision last year to forego that school with affiliation *sigh* But guess what's been done been done. Have to look forward now. If don't strategise now I will have to really bring my girl up to speed. She is doing fine now at her current school, but still below the standard of some of her classmates who can score full marks for all subject tests. But I really dread the 5 more years of hair-tearing exercise

What will you do if you are me?????? Thanks for your advice

Rgds,
Ming

[tankee]

I do not understand. :?


you said she is doing fine at her current school, so what is the issue?

ok, she is not scoring full marks and topping her class, so? :?

[verykiasu2010]

way too early to judge based on P1 scores


may be she does not even know what is a test / exam … and thought never mind not to put in the correct answer … may be no concept of marks…perhaps give her another year

[KSP]

I guess there is no point crying over spilled mike now. I think our dds are in the same school. My dd scored a total of 27+ for all 3 subjects in her P1. I was so happy thinking she was the first few but guess what? She was around 100th in her level.... out of 300 . Getting full marks in the exam or topical tests are common in the school. As the chinese saying goes -\"yi shan hai you yi shan kow\". Must learn to \"kan kai\" when reality sets in and not to drill hole at the tip of the bull horn.


But if I had a choice like u I will choose a school that has affiliation. At least not so stressful when come to PSLE. That is also the reason why schools with affiliation are so hot.

[jtoh]

Personally, I prefer schools with affliation. Why? Because it spells less stress for the kid. The stress on a child who feels that everything depends on his PSLE results is enormous. The parents feel the stress too and that somehow filters to the kid.


It’s true that children in schools with no affliation are probably more hardworking and that children in schools with affliation take a more relaxed view to their studies. But that’s fine with me. At the end of the day, we want our children to be happy and well-adjusted, not stressed out and unhappy. And if your child has the determination and the intelligence, he/she will still want to work hard to get into a top school based on his ability. With the given advantage of knowing that if he fails to score >260, he/she still has an affliated secondary school to go to.

So whenever my friends ask me, I say go for an affliated school. Better if the affliated secondary school is a good school like ACS, SCGS, MGS etc.

[mwchua]

that's why still in a dilemma....my hubby & my mother also said why worry so much????


Maybe I am a person who always try to plan stuff in advance - nature as well as try years of kena \"tekan\" at work :lol:

Think will see how the rest of her P1 & P2 goes - don't think she is really learning anything \"new\" at P1 now, it's more of the social aspect I think. And yes I used to be so happy when she scored like higher end of 20s out of 30 full mark, until I realised that hey, everyone in the class is also doing the same, and there is these 2 girls who perpetually scored full marks in every single subject !!!!!!

As i am now in 3-days work week, get to volunteer in my girl's swimming class and get to know her classmates a bit better. And also gossip with fellow swimming PV mommies - conclusion is that the school is really living up to \"teach less, learn more\" motto !!

[janet88]

jtoh:

Personally, I prefer schools with affliation. Why? Because it spells less stress for the kid. The stress on a child who feels that everything depends on his PSLE results is enormous. The parents feel the stress too and that somehow filters to the kid.


It's true that children in schools with no affliation are probably more hardworking and that children in schools with affliation take a more relaxed view to their studies. But that's fine with me. At the end of the day, we want our children to be happy and well-adjusted, not stressed out and unhappy. And if your child has the determination and the intelligence, he/she will still want to work hard to get into a top school based on his ability. With the given advantage of knowing that if he fails to score >260, he/she still has an affliated secondary school to go to.

So whenever my friends ask me, I say go for an affliated school. Better if the affliated secondary school is a good school like ACS, SCGS, MGS etc.

My son is in a primary school with NO affiliation. I just registered my daughter in my former school yesterday, which has an affiliated secondary school.
Yup, schools with affiliated secondary school will reduce the stress on the kids. I hope my daughter will still want to work hard and get into a better class in Sec 1 or else get into a better secondary school.

As for my son, I can only hope that his inner maturity will 'awaken' to do well for PSLE and get into a secondary school of his choice. In the meantime, yours truly here will still have to nag and scream.

[Pen88n]

KSP:

I guess there is no point crying over spilled mike now. I think our dds are in the same school. My dd scored a total of 27+ for all 3 subjects in her P1. I was so happy thinking she was the first few but guess what? She was around 100th in her level.... out of 300 . Getting full marks in the exam or topical tests are common in the school. As the chinese saying goes -\"yi shan hai you yi shan kow\". Must learn to \"kan kai\" when reality sets in and not to drill hole at the tip of the bull horn.


But if I had a choice like u I will choose a school that has affiliation. At least not so stressful when come to PSLE. That is also the reason why schools with affiliation are so hot.

I think parents sometime tend to over-worry. Scoring full marks in tests and exams is no doubt a good achievement, but we must also make allowance for kids. They are afterall kids and they make careless mistakes afterall. What is the few marks difference? By the time they go to the workforce, is it going to matter if they score 90 or 100 for English / Maths?

What is more impt is the kid's ability and love of learning. I've seen kids who score high in lower primary, and yet unable to catch up by upper primary. I've also known kids who are careless and scoring 80 - 90s in the lower primary, but they move on and continue scoring higher in the upper primary. The critical component is learning, not only the marks.

[corneyAmber]

I believe it is only clearer at P3/P4 to know if one can cope with the demands of PSLE, you need time to monitor the maturing process.


Part of the reason for your sentiments is because you have given up an affiliation opportunity. If you never had this opportunity, you would probably not have this thought so soon.