All About Full-Time Maids

[pandafam]

Another way is to bring her to my mum’s place like last time. And she cannot bring her hp (tho I told her can only use hp after 9pm at nite, now alone at home sure use it when I am not around). Kids schoolbus send to my mum’s place, then nite time bring them back home. Its a hassle lah but at least its bullet proof hahahah.

[liuhao]

dont warn her. collect evidence first. otherwise she will do it in more discreet way in the future that you could hardly find out. as far as you dont have concrete evidence, she knows there is nothing you can do about her. even you send her back based on suspicious reason, she can later complain to agent that it's your problem and agent may not stay in your side.


for me, no matter how she loves my kid before, once this happened, your kid is no longer her first priority anymore. your home security will also be compromised. it's simply not worth the risk.

i dont mind maid having male friend. but it highly depends on the nature. a married maid with husband normally gives you peace of mind. but a maid desperately looking for a boyfriend gives you big trouble.

pandafam:

she is loves my kids and they like her too. And finally got her after 3rd round of change

Should I pretend not to know what happen today, and catch her myself next week. Give her a last warning. Or should I warn her tonite? Very vexed, cos she takes care of my 2 sons when we are work late.

[minnie2004]

Angelight:

After almost 2 months without a maid, my new Myanmarese maid finally arrived yesterday after some delay from the agent.


Btw, what's the basic insurance for maid? Can anyone enlighten me? The agent charged me $235.40, is it the universal basic insurance for all maids? I have to pay almost $3000 including maid loan, insurance and agent fee to the agent. :roll:

Hi angelight, good to hear you've finally got a new maid. Hope things will turn out ok for you :celebrate:

My new maid has been with us for over a week now and she still seems pretty clueless. Even though she's filipino, she seems to have a hard time understanding Eng, both spoken and written. I have to admit she's hard working (i purposely picked her as she's an ox). But I also want someone who works smart. So my physical stress has been replaced by mental stress :stupid:

As for the fees, I paid 267.5 for insurance and the total bill is $2100+. It's cheaper as it's a direct hire but then I don't have the option send her back to the agent is she's not good.

[pandafam]

liuhao:

i dont mind maid having male friend. but it highly depends on the nature. a married maid with husband normally gives you peace of mind. but a maid desperately looking for a boyfriend gives you big trouble.

Btw she is married with 3 kids, youngest one already 14yrs old. I just called my agent. His advice is to give warning letter, In short its like this:
1) get her parent's no., then have to tell her parents she has a bf here, anything happen to her is not my problem
2) it is unsafe to my home and children, the indian bf can really sweet talk to her until he go inside my hse
3) he may have a motive. She has to be careful
4) after warning still like see the man, she has to get her own air ticket and fly back

Perhaps I should talk to her seriously but she already lied to me. I dun think I can trust her anymore

[liuhao]

be very careful. i strongly suggest you to collect evidence first. this is important. yes agent is now standing in your side but later can change. if you dont have evidence, the maid and agent can turn against you and accuse you of over suspicious later. it will create big mess and end of the day, you could be the one who has to pay her transferring fee and airticket.


you dont have evidence now. she can simply deny everything and agent may choose to believe her!

this is exactly what happened to my previous maid. the agent initially was very angry to the maid and supported me. however after the maid met the agent and they talked and discussed, agent started to change and told me that the maid is innocent. but i have video tape as evidence. however the agent still tries to support her and keeps saying sorry to me and promises me that she is a different person now and hope i can forgive her of \"small\" mistakes blah blah blah...

pandafam:

liuhao:

i dont mind maid having male friend. but it highly depends on the nature. a married maid with husband normally gives you peace of mind. but a maid desperately looking for a boyfriend gives you big trouble.

Btw she is married with 3 kids, youngest one already 14yrs old. I just called my agent. His advice is to give warning letter, In short its like this:
1) get her parent's no., then have to tell her parents she has a bf here, anything happen to her is not my problem
2) it is unsafe to my home and children, the indian bf can really sweet talk to her until he go inside my hse
3) he may have a motive. She has to be careful
4) after warning still like see the man, she has to get her own air ticket and fly back

Perhaps I should talk to her seriously but she already lied to me. I dun think I can trust her anymore

[shine_fs]

No need to do anything.....


Just pretend nothing happen. No point given her chances....anyway she is already 1 yr 4 mths with you. Her behaviour will change. I think you also don't want to re-contract her so don't waste your time now.

Go and find a new maid and send her back. This will takes maybe few months.

I think your kids will gets along well with anyone (maids)

[liuhao]

i agree with you about the behavior change part. but sometimes even nothing happened they still change.


my previous maid behavior changed tremendously during the 8 months staying with me. i treated her in very consistent way but she just changed by herself. i would say she is a completely different person now comparing to the time she just came: facial expressions, way of talking, eyes contact, gestures, action and reaction...all very different now. she is just...someone else now, smart and sharp comparing to dull and kind before.

btw she has hp and 1 off day

shine_fs:

No need to do anything.....

Just pretend nothing happen. No point given her chances....anyway she is already 1 yr 4 mths with you. Her behaviour will change. I think you also don't want to re-contract her so don't waste your time now.

Go and find a new maid and send her back. This will takes maybe few months.

I think your kids will gets along well with anyone (maids)

[Angelight]

minnie2004:

Hi angelight, good to hear you've finally got a new maid. Hope things will turn out ok for you :celebrate:

Thanks Minnie! I also hope that the new maid will turn out ok this time. But she is very green and inexperienced, never work as a domestic maid in the home country or overseas. I really need to supervise very closely and even have to demonstrate to her how to do certain chores properly. She even tells me today she doesn't know how to handwash the whole family's clothes, doesn't know how to wash car :shock: I thot that's the basic chores they should have learnt at the training centre??

And when I asked her why she didn't eat much of the bread I gave her for breakfast, she told me she doesn't like to eat bread. :? But our family all eat bread for breakfast! So weird.

Is it a culture thing? Any one has Myanmar maids can share with me pls?

[minnie2004]

Angelight:

And when I asked her why she didn't eat much of the bread I gave her for breakfast, she told me she doesn't like to eat bread. :? But our family all eat bread for breakfast! So weird.

Maybe she prefers rice/congee for breakfast? If that's the case, then you can just cook extra rice the previous nite then. My maid also doesn't eat too much bread (the white sandwich bread). Now I buy her those bread with fillings such as red bean, coconut etc and she seems to like it

[yclim]

Angelight:

minnie2004:

Hi angelight, good to hear you've finally got a new maid. Hope things will turn out ok for you :celebrate:

Is it a culture thing? Any one has Myanmar maids can share with me pls?

I won't be surprised the new maid does not know how to wash clothing using hands. They probaly meant they do not know how to wash them our way. It is ok, just show her at least once and remember to tell her how to differentiate clothing that may easily stained. I used to have different basket for different type of clothing. Not knowing how to wash car is a norm. We sometimes also scratch our own cars, so they will tell you they do not know as they are not comfortable. So, again, just show them once.

As long as the maid is not showing attitude, all others can be tolerated!