Rude parents encounters

[winth]

GarangMama:

Well even though no names were mentioned, it was no secret who are the cousins of his precious thousand-gold, whom she meets weekly for lunch at gramp's place - there are only 3 grandchildren and 2 of them belong to the same sub-clan. If it's not for the fact that he's a close relative, whom my offsprings had the unfortunate of sharing the same gene-pool, I would have lashed it out at him with no regards to any familial relations. I just didn't want to 'blow this matter' up, as I don't want to stoop to his level but most of all, I don't think it would have been a positive demonstration in front of my kiddos.

Even though we made our displeasure known to the supposed 'better half', thinking it'll be easier if we can settle any unhappiness as adults, rather than taking it out on children. Still nothing came forth.
Alas what they say is true, blood is indeed thicker than water - it can even choke you to death. Which probably explains why I'm pretty cool if I come across any injustices in the public by other inconsiderate parents, as nothing would have topped this mother of all injustices made by a close relative.

I know it's :x :x :x , but sometimes, it's good for tolerance-training. These people just aren't at your level yet, so don't stoop to theirs. Plus it's their 'thousand-gold', ya know. We don't start a lashing session unnecessarily with such low-EQs, we maintain our poise and lift our heads up high. Some people just want to have their last laughs, so let them. The (parent-children) race is still on, and we won't know how everything (children) will pan out in another 10-20 years time. Keeping comments to self would still be good to have a longer-lasting relationship with your relatives. It feels :stupid:, I know, but it is really not worth it to start finger-pointing, esp when you guys are not mere acquaintances/friends.

[sebast]

Singaporean nowadays after all these educations have forgotten what is being polite & basic counteousy… You can see it anytime anywhere be it your neighbourhood, on the way to work, workplace etc…

[MLR]

sebast:

Singaporean nowadays after all these educations have forgotten what is being polite & basic counteousy.. You can see it anytime anywhere be it your neighbourhood, on the way to work, workplace etc..

Tell me about it.... happens everyday from not holding the lift, not giving up seats/taking up extra seats with their bags on public transport, smoking in non-smoking areas, talking on speaker mode while using mobile phones, playing music on speakers instead of earphones, standing on doorways in public transport, ......... never ending list. Somedays i get depressed over it, i know it sound kinda silly, but hate to think that DS hv to live in such a rude and loveless society and may somewhat be influenced too. :faint:

[corneyAmber]

Since we cannot change the world, then change ourselves...not to become rude of course but to take initiative to be nice to people. Simply put, seldom people return kindness and niceness with poor behaviour. By reaching out first, then it can change the world and the way we look at it after a while.


I have shared all the nice encounters so far in another thread in chit chat, that is the very reason to counter all the unhappening things around us. I don't see the rudeness but I appreciate the goodness......so life is much better for me, at least.

Some people prefer venting...as their way of getting rid of the unpleasantness. That is effective but only half way....to complete the round, start by taking initiative to be nice to people. Some may think I sound ironical but it is a proven approach to keep me happy 90% of the time. The other 10% of unhappiness is contributed by my child mainly when she is naughty... :lol:

[MLR]

ks2me:

Since we cannot change the world, then change ourselves...not to become rude of course but to take initiative to be nice to people. Simply put, seldom people return kindness and niceness with poor behaviour. By reaching out first, then it can change the world and the way we look at it after a while.


I have shared all the nice encounters so far in another thread in chit chat, that is the very reason to counter all the unhappening things around us. I don't see the rudeness but I appreciate the goodness......so life is much better for me, at least.

Some people prefer venting...as their way of getting rid of the unpleasantness. That is effective but only half way....to complete the round, start by taking initiative to be nice to people. Some may think I sound ironical but it is a proven approach to keep me happy 90% of the time. The other 10% of unhappiness is contributed by my child mainly when she is naughty... :lol:

Hiya

Thank you for making me feel so much better to know that there are pple like you around. Its just that this morning DS told me on way to cc that he was sad, cos he said hi, good morning to a boy who came into the lift and he ignored DS. On way home in mrt, gave up seat to an elderly lady, a young man just happily take the seat and very reluctantly gave it up when i told him that the seat was not meant for him and told him to get up.

I will think more positively and thank you.... :celebrate:

[buds]

Heyya MLR,


I know how you feel...
It's frustrating that it sometimes
don't work both ways... my kiddie
has the disappointed look sometimes
when her usual candour for neighbours
or bus drivers we see daily are not reciprocated.

I always tell her, other people may not be used to
our gestures of friendship and cordiality, but it does
not mean we quit being nice to people around us...
Eventually, you will reap the rewards!

To be of good example, i too practise the hi-bye thingy
out loud... and thanking people for good service and stuff.
There was once, i was entertained at a mall trying to purchase
something in my size... and after everything - they didn't have
it in the colour i wanted despite all the mess created.. The poor
salesgirl really tried and gave her all and it definitely was not her
fault the shop didn't carry the one i wanted.. and i cud sense that
she was kinda sad like she wasn't of much help in the end... I touched
the young girl's arm and squeezed it gently, and i told her - \"It's okay..
though you don't have it... i still appreciate it. You have been a great
help to me today..\" The salesgirl heaved a big sigh and she
managed a smile. She replied, \"It's okay ma'am... it's my job. Hope
to see you again.\" My kiddie upon seeing that said, \"Mum, that was
nice of you!\" And guess what, the next time some other auntie served
her to get the shoe that she wanted, she actually went up to the lady
and said, \"Thanks auntie, this is just what i want... thanks to you i got it!\"

:love: It's always a nice feeling to feel appreciated.. as for us, we feel
nice making someone feel that way too! Giving is just as good as receiving! :love:

[corneyAmber]

MLR:

Thank you for making me feel so much better to know that there are pple like you around. Its just that this morning DS told me on way to cc that he was sad, cos he said hi, good morning to a boy who came into the lift and he ignored DS. On way home in mrt, gave up seat to an elderly lady, a young man just happily take the seat and very reluctantly gave it up when i told him that the seat was not meant for him and told him to get up.

I will think more positively and thank you.... :celebrate:

:celebrate: to you! You have rightfully observe the rudeness of people nowadays and given your upbringing of your DS, I am sure he would not be swayed over to their side but follow your good example instead.

For the \"hi\" incident, perhaps you can share this with your DS, when giving, don't think of the outcome. Giving is also a joy...and once you have experienced the joy..anything else is a bonus. When I say \"hi\" and \"bye\", I don't worry if people return, or feel embarassed that there is no response because saying those things actually reflects that I am in a cheery mood so don't let others spoil that.

[JHJC]

Singaporean nowadays after all these educations have forgotten what is being polite & basic counteousy.. You can see it anytime anywhere be it your neighbourhood, on the way to work, workplace etc



ageed. took my girl to ballet today and the school has a small waiting area. There was this small kids IKEA table with 4 stools. This couple, Hubsand with newspaper spread over half the table, mother with MacDonald breakfast taking the opposite half.. and she has to use a 3rd stool for her Coach bag. :roll:
Bet they did not realise how many parents were standing. Wait.. do they even care?

[buds]

JHJC:

Singaporean nowadays after all these educations have forgotten what is being polite & basic counteousy.. You can see it anytime anywhere be it your neighbourhood, on the way to work, workplace etc



ageed. took my girl to ballet today and the school has a small waiting area. There was this small kids IKEA table with 4 stools. This couple, Hubsand with newspaper spread over half the table, mother with MacDonald breakfast taking the opposite half.. and she has to use a 3rd stool for her Coach bag. :roll:
Bet they did not realise how many parents were standing. Wait.. do they even care?

Mebbe the mother thought people may
just be gawking at her Coach bag.

[JHJC]

before her girl come out of the dance studio, she quickly went to put another bag in the changing room to \"chop\" it.... when another mum went in with her daug that was release earlier.. she sort of tell her she was there first..... :shock:

So Bud.... would you tell her off?