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[sleepy]

Question is how to communicate effectively to hubby to show more commitment? Somehow the message just doesn't sink in



Recently, at breakfast table, I asked my kids to give a score for daddy and mummy. Hubby received a mere borderline pass. Reason the kids gave - daddy spent too much time playing golf.
I hope this serves as a wake up call for hubby. Shall see

[sleepy]

Funz:

DD scored below average in her test, he ask me what happened. DS made some mistakes in his tingxie, he ask me why never revise with him issit. Kids fall sick he ask me when am I bringing them to see the doctor. DD in afternoon session, he ask me what's she doing the whole morning. I set some work for her to do in the morning and will go through with her in the evenings, he tell me not to stress her. Ran out of fresh milk, he ask my why never replenish. Haiyoh the list goes on.

Precisely :rant:

[pokemon]

Tks for all of your replies. Before this, i never think i fail as a mum if my kids don’t do well in school, maybe presently my kids sch work are okay. Now, it makes me rethink…if one day i have this problem…


Im just like most of you, i do not have a maid, have to be a superwoman, wearing many hats in the house. So far is juggling fine. Im lucky my dh has never make bad comments about how i handle the kids, housework or any other duties that fall under me. He seemed to understand its not easy being a sahm. I always discuss with him how to tackle problems as well as share my days with him.

[Darius]

Hi, will be SAHM soon. just wonder whats your daily schedule like eg. what to cook for kids and family. what you teach your kids in the afternoon. Please share

[jasmineong]

Hi everyone, I was reading a number of your posts and kind of got 'addicted'. I really wonder why ksp is so good it is addictive, I find myself going to it at 3 plus in the morning :scared:


But anyway, I am a SAHM..I am really happy DH wanted me to do so also, as I think I will make a lousy mum if I work, will be stressed up and end up shouting more..but being a SAHM also very challenging..I agree with what some of you have been saying, you feel that your child's failure becomes your fault cos stay at home, still cannot do well, only recently..I learn to 'kan kai' more.

Any thoughts on how to manage better and also have a 'life' more so that we dont get too wrapped up in our kids and get a bit 'irrelevant'? Any mum face this?

[pea_nut]

Hi - I'm a SAHM who just enjoys spending time with the kiddos...besides cooking, cleaning, kiddo logistics

[janet88]

Darius:

Hi, will be SAHM soon. just wonder whats your daily schedule like eg. what to cook for kids and family. what you teach your kids in the afternoon. Please share

Hi Darius,
My kids are in morning session - K2 and P4. Mornings after they go off to school, I do housework on some days. Lunch is a soup with meat and vege. Sometimes if lazy to cook, then buy 1/2 chicken or duck from downstairs.

Plan a time-table for the whole week, so that your kids know what to do in the afternoon. For eg English on Monday, Chinese on Tue, Maths or Science etc etc.

[Darius]

janet_lee88:

Darius:

Hi, will be SAHM soon. just wonder whats your daily schedule like eg. what to cook for kids and family. what you teach your kids in the afternoon. Please share

Hi Darius,
My kids are in morning session - K2 and P4. Mornings after they go off to school, I do housework on some days. Lunch is a soup with meat and vege. Sometimes if lazy to cook, then buy 1/2 chicken or duck from downstairs.

Plan a time-table for the whole week, so that your kids know what to do in the afternoon. For eg English on Monday, Chinese on Tue, Maths or Science etc etc.

Thanks janet for sharing. like to know more SAHM to learn more from u all

[janet88]

Hi Darius,

Sometimes I wish I can escape from the both of them, esp when they fight. :frustrated: But when I have a chance to be away from them, I miss them. Contradicting right ?

Find a chance to plan a weekly time-table, then you will be able to establish a system, from homework to rest to TV. All the best

[jedamum]

jasmineong:

But anyway, I am a SAHM..I am really happy DH wanted me to do so also, as I think I will make a lousy mum if I work, will be stressed up and end up shouting more..but being a SAHM also very challenging..I agree with what some of you have been saying, you feel that your child's failure becomes your fault cos stay at home, still cannot do well, only recently..I learn to 'kan kai' more.

Any thoughts on how to manage better and also have a 'life' more so that we dont get too wrapped up in our kids and get a bit 'irrelevant'? Any mum face this?

hi jasmineone,
i am a perfectionist, so i cannot accept less than perfect commitment either for my work or my family hence the stress built-up when i was a FTWP is immense (at times when my kid was sick and i have an impt deadline to meet, my kid came in second priority cos my mind rules my heart...so you can see the heartache here). so i'm very glad that my DH is very supportive of me as a SAHM too.

i have also kan kai on how my kids' performance may be independent of my commitment to them, so long i have done my best; this mentality actually reduces conflicts at home.

what can i say? my life revolves around my kids 24/7. they give me purpose in life. i was irrelevant and a workaholic before they came along, so i am enjoying my moment now.