All About Teaching Values
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Thanks for all your advise /views. Yah, agree I should inform the teacher, and I will if it happens again, becos, as mentioned by 'schweppes', it might have been a genuine mistake. Maybe the boy did not realise what is the meaning of spelling test since it's his 1st.
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schweppes:
Yah, you've got a good point, Shweppes.
On the other hand, to give this boy benefit of doubt, perhaps he may not even realise that what he did was cheating - as obvious as the act is to all of us. It may be a case that he forgot how to spell the word and he just took out that piece of paper to copy out the words.
In fact, a similar thing happened with DD1 when she was in P1 years ago. In her 1st spelling test, she forgot how to spell a word, reached down to her school bag, calmly fished out her pocket dictionary and then checked on the spelling - in full view of the teacher. :faint: When the teacher and I questioned her, she replied, \"But mommy, u always ask me to check the dictionary if i cannot remember how to spell the word.\" :faint: :faint: :stupid:
Your daughter sounds so tenderly innocent. This is off topic, but soo sweet! -
Blobbi:
Haha... thanks Blobbi. Such was the innocence of a 7yo, from the mouth of babes. :love:
Yah, you've got a good point, Shweppes.
Your daughter sounds so tenderly innocent. This is off topic, but soo sweet!
But now!!! at 12 going onto 13.... going thru adolescence battles!!!
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This is an interesting thread. Picked up lots of nice points here.
Very nice to read a couple of comments from school teachers who mentioned that when they look at kids, they don’t see the kids, they see the parents in them! How true is that… kids grow up in the kind of environment with their parents and emulate their behaviour irregardless of what their parents say and don’t practice!
I have a couple of points for your comments:
1. If daddy/ mummy are going through a hard time, anything, do you explain to your child, let him/her see your situation, not to despise you or to fear, but to learn from you how to overcome adversity? Or is it better to shield your child from the harsh realities of life and maintain a happy childhood? To what extent will you share with you child - what if he turns cynical or to what extend will you protect him? - what if he stays naive?
2. I always wonder why we sometimes read about amazing kids of poor parents who broke through the limitations of their background and become a success in life? The parents are too busy elking out a living to teach moral values or spent much time with the kid. What does the kid has in him or her to become such a good person? Why does other kids in similar circumstances continue to be no-gooders in society? Why then do rich kids with all the privileges of time, money, effort, schooling turn out to be no-gooders too?
3. Besides some of the parents who have shared, I am interested to know what are your top priorities/ values that you teach your children too, and why it is important to you?
Thanks for your sharing. -
insider:
My 16 years old son shared something with me that overall I feel proud of him.
Impressive! You have raised him well :celebrate: -
Glad to see and learn so much from this thread.
For my 3 children, we try hearing them out like friends and talk almost about everything.
When situation arise which requires some decision making, I will ask them for their opinion, but will also share with them our ideas. Ultimately, we leave it to them to do it their way if there is no immediate problems.
This year, we are working with P2 child to be more independent and discipline. In the morning, he will wake up on his own, clean up, and dress up. When back from school, he will change, bath, take lunch and do homework. In the evening, he will then have to pack his school bag and bring it to the doorway, before he can have some time on his own. It took us 1 week to get him into the routine, and he seems to be coping well especially when he gets 1 hour computer time everyday after accomplishing everything.
I have a mother-in-law taking care of the 3 kids at home, but will try to do everything for them. So, we took a chance to tell them how they can help out instead of calling out for their grandmother.
We hope our kids can build up a routine of great habits, and to be more understanding and responsible. -
It is monkey see monkey do isnt it? Kids pick up all our habits - regardless.
When my kids were 3 years old we bought them toyogo plastic drawers. I believed:-
- give them their own domain.
- let them have privacy for their own toys
- play with drawers without asking for permission to open/close
- kill their curiosity about drawers
my kids learn to maintain their domain, stay away from our private drawers (i do not lock mine) and learn at a tender age how not to clip thier fingers. If they do its plastic, they are not going to get fractured fingers. I am not a protective mom. I believe in letting my kids to learn within perimeters of course and allowance to make mistake.
To prevent them from looking over the parapet - when she learnt Humpty Dumpty. I sang the rhymns wth her, drew / color her egg. And allow her to drop it from the balcony - 6 floors down. When she saw the aftermath of her broker egg with all the messy yolk. That day on, she realises if she leans over a balcony - she will also be like the egg.
I adopt a very pragmatic approach to life. My kids are 12 & 7 a girl and boy. They are my joy and I kissed them and hug them all the time. Physical expression are important both in the home and outside. Do not be shy to display your love for them. My discipline are tough, but the kids accept and understands. -
Pinkynose98:
i beg to differ that teaching about dangers precedes the necessity to install grilles for young children; cos accidents do happen and they are call 'accidents' for a reason.
To prevent them from looking over the parapet - when she learnt Humpty Dumpty. I sang the rhymns wth her, drew / color her egg. And allow her to drop it from the balcony - 6 floors down. When she saw the aftermath of her broker egg with all the messy yolk. That day on, she realises if she leans over a balcony - she will also be like the egg. -
Hypothetically, if your child has been selected to join the school's team (be it clubs or sports) as a RESERVED player, will you encourage your child to go ahead, bearing in mind that
1. have to spend equal amount of time on preparation work but will only have the chance to use it if MAIN player is 'out' for some reasons.
2. that your child may secretly look forward to the MAIN player being 'out' so that he/she has the chance to shine.
Or do we as parents, put a stop to the kid 'wasting' the time preparing as RESERVED player and better utilise that time for other stuff? -
Hi Jedamun
The correct attitude is that the team is more important than the individual. If your child had to be the waterboy so that the team can win, he should be happy to be the waterboy. Praying for the main player to be injured so that he can shine? This kind of attitude will only get beaten up.
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