All About Full-Time Maids
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auntieM:
Hi auntie m, yah true....sometimes a woman's six sense can be quite true..I had a feeling that something is wrong with her n so decided to keep a close watch..I think I will just keep my girl away while hubby n me settle her...initially we thot we shall not bother her personal issues as long as she does her work properly...but after serious consideration, I knw i cannot tolerate such a person living in our place n who knows she may bring back the man when we are away for holidays...OMG... I really can't imagine....HappyAvon,
Really 'heng' that you managed to pick up the tell tale signs early and decided on taking action behind her back..
Make sure you have company when you break the news to her in case she turn 'havoc'.. -
HappyAvon:
Hi all, I recently spot checked on my maid's hp n realized she had been using the hp whenever I'm not at home...I'm a SAHM but I still go to hubby's office in d am n then fetch my girl from childcare in noon..on certain days of the week I may oso need to send my girl for her enrichment classes in the afternoon..I started to chk on her cos I realized she seems to be getting forgetful n seems to be rushing to bed even at 9 pm plus...we actually allowed her to rest for the nite at 10 pm daily...to my surprise, she had been using her hp even at 11 pm plus or even midnite...lately I saw a local hp no whom she always SMS n seems to be some mushy smses....so I got my gf's help to call d hp n the recipient turned out to be a man!!! I was very disappointed wif her n we have decided to send her back to agent this weekend.... Her work is acceptable but we cannot tolerate her having affairs here n knowing she is married wif kid...it really reflects badly on her....I hv not told her abt it n intend to just ask her to pack on d day itself..... I knw it's useless to confront her cos she will not admits it n is those hard headed type... I will just tell her I do not need a maid anymore....haiz... Cannot understand why these maids do not knw how to behave properly.... :?
Hi HappyAvon
How long has your maid been with u? Mine 7yrs filippino (40ys old) but on the 6th yr onwards also got exactly the same problem as yours but I never chk if its a guy or not cos she said that between maids, they sometimes use the term \"darling\" too.....anyway, we are not extending her contract & she also no longer happy working for us becos she is not allowed to chat freely (nor secretly) during the day (note that we did not object her calls at nite from 9.30pm to 11pm. My only problem is the next maid may also secretly used as HP is so common now. -
It’s a luxury to have a maid and be a SAHM.
When my daughter was younger (below 4), I had a maid to cook and do housework. I could focus on my son’s school work (P1 or 2 then)…no need to run to and fro kitchen, mop/vacuum, do laundry then. Really shiok. Of course this comes with a HIGH price.
Fortunately, I managed to give my son a good foundation at lower primary then.
Without having to do housework and give 100% attention to my kids, I was not so pek chek but as my kids grew and rely less on maid, I got pissed off with their attitude. -
LKVM:
When there was a maid, I closed 2 eyes even though I am a SAHM. Bcos my focus is on my son who was in lower primary then. Yet can still give me attitude problems. When kids got bigger, I couldn't close 2 eyes anymore. I left housework and cooking to the maid. Marketing/sending kids to and fro school was either myself or hubby.
Yes dear janet_lee88 so much luxury to be SAHM and have maid :love: :love: even the thought makes me happierjanet_lee88:
It's a luxury to have a maid and be a SAHM.
Without having to do housework and give 100% attention to my kids, I was not so pek chek.
Maid was unhappy bcos she wanted to yak with others and taking away these 2 'chores' from her meant she couldn't do that. -
Breadandmuffins:
Hi bread muffins, at least yours had been wif u for 7 yrs....mine was only one n a half yr....I was utterly disappointed with her n will be sending her back tomorrow.....I had laid my rules clearly to her but she had nvr listened even after u lectured her for using the phone in d day.....it was going on for a long time but I just close one eye...since now I found out she had been smsing/talking to a man, I decided to take actions..it's hard to stop Filipino maid from having a hp...they just like to chat....with off days, lagi si.... I will not get any Filipino maid anymore....Hi HappyAvon
How long has your maid been with u? Mine 7yrs filippino (40ys old) but on the 6th yr onwards also got exactly the same problem as yours but I never chk if its a guy or not cos she said that between maids, they sometimes use the term \"darling\" too.....anyway, we are not extending her contract & she also no longer happy working for us becos she is not allowed to chat freely (nor secretly) during the day (note that we did not object her calls at nite from 9.30pm to 11pm. My only problem is the next maid may also secretly used as HP is so common now.
Since I will be able to watch my girl in the afternoon, I will go for indon maid.. -
I’m considering whether to hire a FDW…
Just wondering, is it possible to "try out" a maid before paying for all the related expenses? like a probation of 2 weeks or something like that…
Of coz, the 2 weeks salary will be paid but in case we do not want the maid, then no need to incur unnecessary costs…
coz I never had a FDW b4 and is not sure whether can get used to it or not, especially after reading so many horror stories…
is the maid already in SG or do they come over only when you employ them? -
Maids hate to be watched, but the problem is they can’t do things right or safe…so how to leave them alone ? I can’t bring myself to leave my kids in the hands of the maid. Who knows what she will do to them ? What if she abuses kids and threaten them not to inform us.
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I never tell my kids to listen to what the maid says...for one thing, I'm at home and what can she possibly have anything to tell them ?
My 2 kids are like 007, esp older child. He will tell me what the maid is doing and what she shouldn't be doing, without me having to ask. Younger one worse, tells me, 'Mummy, when we were at the playground, jie jie talking to all the maids and never look after me'.
My maid actually has a hard time with my kids because they are both observing her. I always tell them both, if she breaks a bowl, I don't want to know but if the kids fall due to maid's carelessness, I will go after the maid. -
My previous maid ever caused my DD to slip and fall in the bathroom becos she didn't dry the wet floor after bathing my girl. DD hit the back of her head during the fall, but thank God nothing happened. I was so worried. But I didn't fire her cos I know it's an unintentional though careless mistake.
Another time, the same maid supposed to watch my girl while she slept on the bed as I was out. But she walked away and my DD fell from the bed and got a huge bump on her forehead, got to rush her to the hospital for xray cos the bump was really huge and ugly. Thank God again she was alright. Still I didn't sack her. And one year later, she can tell me she wanted a transfer. really ungrateful.janet_lee88:
I never tell my kids to listen to what the maid says...for one thing, I'm at home and what can she possibly have anything to tell them ?
My 2 kids are like 007, esp older child. He will tell me what the maid is doing and what she shouldn't be doing, without me having to ask. Younger one worse, tells me, 'Mummy, when we were at the playground, jie jie talking to all the maids and never look after me'.
My maid actually has a hard time with my kids because they are both observing her. I always tell them both, if she breaks a bowl, I don't want to know but if the kids fall due to maid's carelessness, I will go after the maid. -
DesertWind:
Yes, my maid really enjoys working for me. I asked her about her previous employers and from what I gathered, I'm her nicest employer so farcmm:
.....with the quality of maids coming in nowadays (she was my 3rd in a year), mai hiam liao lor.... :roll: As my kids get older, I'm slowly relieving her of the child minding duties. I'm working towards being maid-free. She should be my last maid.
Hi cmm,
I like your \"mai hiam liao lor\"...! hee...hee...hee...
Another phrase I can think of is \"chin chye lah...!\"
I think your maid must like working for you!
Anyway, maid is maid, less we rely on them the better!
All the best!
:celebrate:
I'm really chin chye on most things, but there are certain things that I'm really strict about (discipline, work attitude, respect, no black face, no talking back, hygiene, blah blah blah..). She knows that she will get warning if she breeches any of these (I give her regular reminders, so no excuse). If no improvement, it's a one-way ticket for her. Moe tak keng! I tell her \"Maam is self-employed and I can stay at home to wait for new maid to come\" so she know's I'm not at her mercy wor...
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