All About Full-Time Maids

[Snow White 0]

KSmom8:

Snow White:

Agent has been counselling her since her 1st month of work. we tot treat her like a family member and bring her with us wherever we go, she will appreciate and do the work properly but we are wrong. she told the agent she wants to change employer b'cos she wants her employer to chit chat, joke with her every day, adapt to her style of working and life style. she worked in Sin for 3 yrs before gg to HK to work for 2 yrs. total she has 5 yrs of working experiences. we brought her with us every month when we goes for our holiday. her 1st holiday trip was 2 wks after she starte work in my family. she went for 3 holiday trips within 3 months. we even bring her along when we dine out at restaurant. i even have to cook b'fast, lunch and dinner for her every wkend. if i dun cook, she dun eat for b'fast, eat cup noodle for lunch and dinner.

Experienced maids seldom appreciate. My maid would pull a long face whenever we brought her out for meals or even on a holiday. She would sulk during the whole time. We would order the same $100+ set for her that we would be having, eventhough the waiter would almost always hint that we can order a different set for her.

I've learnt that she just prefers to stay at home, finish her chores than she is free to relax or yak on the phone, etc.

Now, I'd rather leave her at home to do chores, cook her own meals than to take her with us and spoil the mood. I'd rather take care of my young kid myself.

Needless to say, I am happy to be rid of her soon eventhough I know that I will miss her housework. She can do a good job at housework if she wants to.

The agencies that I've spoken to say that it might be difficult for her to get the same pay with another employer, expat or otherwise. We have also been generous with her pay yet she still don't appreciate.

Hi KSmon8,

what is the nationality of your maid? how long has she been working in Singapore? i am trying to get a maid now.

[janet88]

[/quote]Experienced maids seldom appreciate. My maid would pull a long face whenever we brought her out for meals or even on a holiday. She would sulk during the whole time. We would order the same $100+ set for her that we would be having, eventhough the waiter would almost always hint that we can order a different set for her.


I’ve learnt that she just prefers to stay at home, finish her chores than she is free to relax or yak on the phone, etc.

Now, I’d rather leave her at home to do chores, cook her own meals than to take her with us and spoil the mood. I’d rather take care of my young kid myself.[/quote]

Hi KSmom8, my maid always sulked when when we brought her out…she was literally dragging her feet in Takashimaya :x I pretended not to see or hear. When we went for lunch at Yoshinoya (my kids love it)…she will stare greedily at my kids’ portion…never enough. Your maid very lucky she is eating such an expensive meal…really 生在福中不知福. My son just told me that the maids we had really suck…at 8 years old then, my son saw how they drove me up the wall.

[janet88]

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[jtoh]

I don’t understand why maids always feel a need to lie. Even when there’s no need to. For eg., no fear of punishment, no mistake commited, nothing. It’s like habitual - they HAVE to lie. I mean, we don’t lie to our bosses do we? It’s worse when the maids get together. They teach each other how to lie. And as employers we all recognize the lies because every single maid tells the same lies.


For eg.,"I never see!" "I never touch!"

And you’re right. They’re the best actresses.

[SullyM]

Hi Catang


i’m not sure if it would help if u have a heart-to-heart talk with your maid. share with her some of your pains tat u are going thru & your purpose of employing her. she can surely see the current situation u are in now. ask if she is still interested to work with you after listening to you? if she has any children, she will feel for you. if language is the problem get the agent to translate for u.

if she’s not, you may wish to consider changing maid. dh & i will go thru these sessions with our maids whenever things go wrong so that we remind them their purpose of getting out of indon to work. except for our first maid, the other 4 were freshies as we didnt want those with connections around singapore.

HTH.

[raynreg]

Hi mrswongtuition


I seriously have no ideas about this. Would you mind to share it briefly either here or through PM.

Many thanks

mrswongtuition:

BTW, did you know that Filipinas who work overseas have to pay very hefty taxed when they return? That's why alot of them rather forego the homeleave!

[Snow White 0]

SullyM:

Hi Catang


i'm not sure if it would help if u have a heart-to-heart talk with your maid. share with her some of your pains tat u are going thru & your purpose of employing her. she can surely see the current situation u are in now. ask if she is still interested to work with you after listening to you? if she has any children, she will feel for you. if language is the problem get the agent to translate for u.

if she's not, you may wish to consider changing maid. dh & i will go thru these sessions with our maids whenever things go wrong so that we remind them their purpose of getting out of indon to work. except for our first maid, the other 4 were freshies as we didnt want those with connections around singapore.

SullyM

initially, i have the sme thinking like you. i will talk and counsel the maid and every week and will have a review with her on what problem she is facing in this house or if there is any issues she wants to bring it up so that she is comfortable working in my house and we will have a gd working relationship. but all of them never tell the truth. every wk tells me the same old things, i.e. i am very happy working here\". tot she is happy but slowly problem surface. they are a group of gd actress. brought her to overseas trip every month, restaurant food every wkend and hundred plus of birthday gift. they dun appreciate at all. the moment i told her the mistake she made, she told me i insulted her and hurt her pride. what a high ego pride?


HTH.

[catang]

Sully M, this one no language barrier. just dat i got a rude shock when i saw the mushy smses in her hp. trying to break ice on our way home, we chatted wif on her family n she claimed single n no bf. the moment reached house dashed into toilet call n sms. of cos after keeping for her, i check and found out she was preg b4. bf told her to take care n must eat cos their babe oso need to eat.


agent apparently lying as usual on the biodata. she had 4 employers b4 me but agent stated only 2. still said only 2 when i questioned, only saying will check n get back to me after i said how come from MOM website is 4. ans from agent is 1)passport expired so go back, 2)worked at 2 houses till she cant tahan, 3)sir kept using vulgarities n scold her pig, 4) never pay her salary.

if she’s able to come out now, means she was sent back to abort the child n come back again. also in another of her sms to bf is she has off now. telling him not to call or sms her as i kept her hp. i really do not know to handle but so far 2 days with us, nothing for me to complain about.

tell the agent abt this oso no use cos i always liaise wif father (boss) but he went ovrs so i spoke to daughter. told her i will kena if maid get preg, she can tell me most impt is i need somebody who is able to work well with us, in order to lighten my load and if worse things do happened den see wat to do!

so now can only hope for the best (=^o^=)

[catang]

can any of u advice me, now is only in-principle approval, she havent got her thumb print done. is it possible for me to cancel her n get a new one? will it be counted as one employment by me?


asking this cos MOM today no work.

i still praying hard but had to tink if she were to bring my gal to sch or her therapy session, this will be a chance for her to contact or meet her bf. my gal will be in danger as she looks normal and is in her puberty, but she cant differentiate gd and bad.

[ananya_mohan]

Hi all,


Not too sure if i have posted in the right column…

Im looking for a reputable maid agency…

I have a 15 month baby and a newborn…

anyone can help by introducting a good maid agency?

thanks