How to tell if a child is gifted?

[2ppaamm]

Nebbermind:

2ppaamm:

7. If I have my choice, I'd want my son's IQ be to around 120, and an EQ of 210 (if there's a measurement of EQ). Add a kind heart and a love for living, joy and not bitterness, the ability to present and have his ideas accepted. A sympathy for the poor and respect for the old. A love for his country, patriotism, filial piety, gratitude, politeness, forgiveness, and most importantly, humility. In other words, VALUES. I want him to value principles more than academic knowledge.

This's my main struggle with my boy!!

Nebbermind, don't cry! What struggle is that? Maybe we can help...

[2ppaamm]

vlim:

ya the teacher probably think that her gep son is the smartest..

Probably, but I don't blame her for that. Who wouldn't be proud of their kids? I wished she had given my son a chance, too.

[Nebbermind]

2ppaamm:

Nebbermind:

[quote=\"2ppaamm\"] 7. If I have my choice, I'd want my son's IQ be to around 120, and an EQ of 210 (if there's a measurement of EQ). Add a kind heart and a love for living, joy and not bitterness, the ability to present and have his ideas accepted. A sympathy for the poor and respect for the old. A love for his country, patriotism, filial piety, gratitude, politeness, forgiveness, and most importantly, humility. In other words, VALUES. I want him to value principles more than academic knowledge.

This's my main struggle with my boy!!

Nebbermind, don't cry! What struggle is that? Maybe we can help... :D[/quote]The lack of EQ, a kind heart (sympathy), filial piety/respect for the old and, lately, humility. In general, a whole lot of self-centredness!

[2ppaamm]

Nebbermind:

2ppaamm:

[quote=\"Nebbermind\"]
This's my main struggle with my boy!!

Nebbermind, don't cry! What struggle is that? Maybe we can help...

The lack of EQ, a kind heart (sympathy), filial piety/respect for the old and, lately, humility. In general, a whole lot of self-centredness![/quote]But isn't this what the next generation all lack and not just our children? Affluence has soften our kids and make them self-centred and selfish. I often tell the kiddos that they will stand out by being different and exude these qualities... much more than having a big IQ. We parents must find a way to educate that. Let's start by being an example, not that I'm really good, but I'm willing to try.

[Nebbermind]

Don't think we can blame everything to affluence. My boy has been like this since young, nonchalant in nature while my girl is more 'socially conforming'. As it is, we noticed this since he was young and had been working VERY hard to correct it....sometimes it improves, sometimes just the 'regular' him....*sigh*


we just continue

[tutormum]

2ppaamm:

But isn't this what the next generation all lack and not just our children? Affluence has soften our kids and make them self-centred and selfish. I often tell the kiddos that they will stand out by being different and exude these qualities... much more than having a big IQ. We parents must find a way to educate that. Let's start by being an example, not that I'm really good, but I'm willing to try.

Probably is due to a lack of exposure. If kids are shown and exposed to how people live in other countries, they'll learn to appreciate what they have.
Start by discussing with them how they can donate their money and time to the poor. Schools do organize certain activities like visiting an old folks home or orphanage but parents can also do it on their own. We can even teach them in the course of our daily lives. I've taught my DSs to greet everybody they come in contact with, even thanking the bus driver at the end of a trip. Simple things like this teach them that we have to respect others irregardless of status. I heard from my friends that when their children came across a foreign worker, they'll complain that he is smelly etc and avoid him. I talk to foreign workers as if they are friends and the least we can do is to greet them. My DSs have no problem chatting with them. In fact, those foreign workers in my condo help me do up my new apartment and they charge much cheaper than a local firm. I feel for them when they talk about their families back home and how they are trying to earn enough money to see their children through Uni or get married. They even do certain things like drilling holes to hang pics for free cos we are 'buddy buddy'.

[sleepy]

Hi 2ppaamm


How’s your progress? Any new development after speaking to various GEP school principals? Can get a transfer for your ds?

[2ppaamm]

sleepy:

Hi 2ppaamm


How's your progress? Any new development after speaking to various GEP school principals? Can get a transfer for your ds?

Not much solid progress or results, except that I'm still actively talking to a few parties. I've been on a discovery road these few weeks and my perspective of things changed quite a bit. I will share my experience once I have some solid findings. I hope they will benefit some folks here who have very gifted children.

Thank you!

[sunshine05]

I have a child who is born in early Jan too. He'll be in K2 next year.

As prata-queen pointed out, the age gap of these early Jan kids and those born in Dec is less than a month.

Thought of the IQ test and even called up KKH. Must see doctor first to assess whether need to go through the neuro... assessment - which may cost $1k ~ $2k. In the end, I dropped the idea.

\"stuck 6 hours a day staring into thin air\"??

Or anyone has any idea to get the IQ test done? :roll:

[2ppaamm]

Nowadays, I've stopped telling school authorities about what my children can do. When DS2 was P2, he was bored stiff with the \"_x_ = to what?\" in class because he knew that. So he was a major source of problem to the teacher when he will blah out his answers and not his teacher a chance to teach.


So, I spoke with the teachers and principal about giving him other work, because he is fast. I'd even prepare them, and they can give them to him after he has finished the class work so that he is not bored. Their remark, \"O, we have much smarter students here before, and your child is definitely not the most gifted in this school.\" But, I did not say he is the smartest or that he is gifted, I was trying to solve a behavioral problem, and it did not even matter if he was gifted or not.

Of course, when DS1 started university at 14, I got the harshest remarks ever, from teachers, principals, educators, parents, coaches and even the ministry.

Here's an article about how some students who are different can be misunderstood, and how we can help.

http://www.dukegiftedletter.com/articles/vol7no2_ee.html