Pri 1 child attacked by 5 classmates

[Faun]

Daddy

3Boys:

Bullying in schools have been happening since time immemorial, long before internet.


Many of the bullies have self image issues, come from broken families.

Although their behaviour cannot be condoned, just whipping them and then leaving them to their own devices is not the solution. Next thing they are at Bukit Panjang slashing passers-by.

Punishment and discipline needs to be coupled with compassion and rehab, no matter how distasteful that may be to the parents of the victims.

If the kids are beyond parental control... esp at such young age... then something is very wrong... and the last thing on my mind is compassion.
Spare the rod... spoil the child.

They can only get worst when older...

Besides bullies... parents should teach their kids how to deal with bullies... and be aware of what's going on in sch.


To let the tauntings escalate to become beatings... all parties are at fault.

Use the rod, and we show that we are no better by using violence. The bullies need help and understanding. They are like that because of the environment they grow up in and also to a certain extent, their natural inborn temperament. I don't think they choose to be bad. They're probably very hungry for love and attention. I think taking away privileges and counseling is a better solution.

[Faun]

dimsum:

My boy is in N2 and was taunted by a K2 boy. He called him names right in front of his parents but guess what, they did not stop or chide him at all!After that, he continued to do that everytime he bumped in my DS. One teacher heard it but pretended as if nothing happened. I asked my DS to feedback to another teacher. Again, no action taken. They probably felt it's a \"trivial\" matter? This is one boy who will become a bully soon.


I asked my DS to ignore him and educated him that name calling is wrong. He understands and bochap him.

Verbal bullying is sometimes worse then physical bullying because we have no evidence to show the teacher. It can also appear very trivial to the teacher. We try to tell our kids Stick And Stones Can Break My Bones But Words Can Never Hurt Me. But it'll hurt. Even adults can't take verbal bullying, let alone kids.

I think it's better not to take verbal bullying lightly and call for the form teacher's attention to monitor the situation.

[cherrygal]

I tell my son to make friends quickly in P1 and surround himself with friends so that bullies won't pick on him. From young, he's also a complain king so if anyone touches him, he will yell for the teacher. I also told him who the discipline master is so he should look for him if he gets bullied. Lastly, always get the kid to tell mom if anyone bullies him. We must train our kids to be open with their last line of defence - the parents, no matter what age they are.


My son was taunted a couple of times by his Berries classmate. He was sad about it and I tried to counsel him. I told him such kids are usually lonely and just seeking his attention. If he appeared affected by their verbal taunts, then he is falling into their trap coz they will be happier. So the way to stop them is to act nonchalant.

My son then tried to avoid the bully at his lessons. One day, he had to sit next to this bully in class. When the bully told him he couldn't sit there, my son actually stood up to him and said, \"Too bad, there are no other seats so I have to sit next to you.\" The bully was speechless. He has stopped taunting my son too.

[chatelaine]

Hi dimsum


Which CC is your child in?

There must be something wrong with that boy parents, maybe they themselves do that to others or call their boy \"names\" at home :roll:
If I were there, I will just tell my child in a tone just loud enough for them to hear me... Saying that it's not right to call names. Didn't we or
the teachers taught you that it's so rude and no manners to do that?

The teacher also funny leh, never stand out to correct the boy. More kids will follow suit, good students will learn from the bad students. Then all chaos. :!:

dimsum:

My boy is in N2 and was taunted by a K2 boy. He called him names right in front of his parents but guess what, they did not stop or chide him at all!After that, he continued to do that everytime he bumped in my DS. One teacher heard it but pretended as if nothing happened. I asked my DS to feedback to another teacher. Again, no action taken. They probably felt it's a \"trivial\" matter? This is one boy who will become a bully soon.

I asked my DS to ignore him and educated him that name calling is wrong. He understands and bochap him.

[chatelaine]

Hi Quintessential Mum


Lifting girls skirt and touching them? :!: Did the teacher help to address this issue?

Quintessential Mum:

Not really, i heard of cases in mixed primary schools that the boys actually bully the girls and do all sort of stuff to the girls like lift up their skirts, touch them inappropriately etc especially if they are pretty. FYI, these \"bullies\" are from middle/upper income families and the school is a reputable school in central Singapore. :roll:

[starlight1968sg]

chatelaine:

Hi Quintessential Mum

Lifting girls skirt and touching them? :!: Did the teacher help to address this issue?

Quintessential Mum:

Not really, i heard of cases in mixed primary schools that the boys actually bully the girls and do all sort of stuff to the girls like lift up their skirts, touch them inappropriately etc especially if they are pretty. FYI, these \"bullies\" are from middle/upper income families and the school is a reputable school in central Singapore. :roll:

Potential peeping toms and then criminals.
I was reading about the case of a peeping tom who is trained to become a school teacher. I wonder if such people should be given a 3rd chance.

[chatelaine]

Hi mintcc


I also recall gate usually closed and guarded by prefect. Don't know which school is this to have allowed such thing to happen and students can run out anytime they want. So dangerous!

mintcc:

after reading the news also can't help but wonder :?

Where are the teachers? 5 kids beat up another one in school grounds right before assembly and no one stop them?

P1 kid can run out of school during school hours? :!:

Even when I was in P1 many many years ago the school gates are guarded by prefect before assembly and locked after that. There will always be teachers around during assembly

[chatelaine]

Hi starlight1968sg


2nd chance Yes BUT not 3rd chance, not to mention to be a TEACHER!

starlight1968sg:

Potential peeping toms and then criminals.
I was reading about the case of a peeping tom who is trained to become a school teacher. I wonder if such people should be given a 3rd chance.

[Joeyz18]

pls advise which pri school is this? any mummies know?

[chatelaine]

I believe canning more or less will work on a child.


They will feel shame and will not repeat the same mistake again. Of course, it must come with counseling as well. If they still repeat the same mistake and got canned subsequently. Then, there must be something wrong. Teachers and parents should do something about it.