How to self-teach your child to focus and pay attention?

[tamarind]

ctct61t:

smurf:

Hi Tamarind,


Just want to check, does fatbraintoys.com pack toys in very big box? I plan to order 2 or 3 knex toys, but is concern that they might pack them into very big box, and thus, incur in very high volumetric weight shipping, since I'm using vpost. If ship direct, is also very expensive.

Thanks in advance!

I also want to know. Thanks a lot.

I ordered one box of toys from fatbraintoys.com before, they put in a big box, the shipping charge was more than SGD50

You can try to email them first, ask them whether they can pack as compactly as possible, or send in plastic bags, not in a box. If you are ordering tubs, the tub is very rugged.

[ctct61t]

tamarind:

I ordered one box of toys from fatbraintoys.com before, they put in a big box, the shipping charge was more than SGD50

You can try to email them first, ask them whether they can pack as compactly as possible, or send in plastic bags, not in a box. If you are ordering tubs, the tub is very rugged.

The shipping charge is really high...

[tamarind]

Michecplow:

Is there anyway to deal with laziness and lack of motivation & confident ?


since P1 , my son does not have stress with school. Teacher feedback that he not paying attention but still manage to cath up with the lesson & he will b in P4 GEP next year... ( worry for him )

he has short focus span, but when we sit with him for assignment and reading , it does help to improve his focus ..

If he is still able to catch up, then you don't have to worry.

It is actually possible to do well even with a short attention span. My attention span is 15 minutes or less, even as an adult In class, if I often miss what the teacher was saying, but I could read from the textbook and learned on my own. I am not gifted, but I scored mostly As all the way to A levels.

Gifted kids should have the ability to learn on their own. There is no need to worry about whether they pay attention to the teacher or not.

As for laziness and lack of motivation, this is because kids have everything that they want, and they are not hungry. Kids believe that parents are always there to support them for their entire life.

Parents should try to create an environment, in which they can experience what will happen when they grow up, and if they cannot get a job. No toys, no computers, no TV, no holidays and just rice and vegetables for every meal.

We all know that kids from China are mostly very motivated and driven. When I was teaching in a university in China, I visited the hostels, and their living condition is really horrible, I almost vomited when I walked pass their hostels. So when they arrive in Singapore, they are extremely motivated to work hard because they want to get out of their situations back home.

For kids who are not motivated no matter how hard you try to talk to them, then you will have to first take away all the luxuries from their lives.

I am now teaching large numbers of young adults age 17-19 years old. I know many students who are very intelligent, but because they are lazy and not motivated, they spent all day playing computer games and they could never hope to get into university. At this age, it is too late for parents to do anything.

So if you really want to do something, better do it when the child is young.

Just to add that for my kids, they get toys only once a year during their birthdays. If they want anything, I will buy it for them only when they have put in hard work. For example, I give them a small reward when they have completed reading a long novel of my choice.

Another important point to note, is to remove all the distractions. Nowadays kids have computers, ipads, PSPs, etc, all these are distractions. Even if you limit the time of usage, after the kids stop playing, their minds will still be thinking of the games, and they will not be motivated to study. I have seen so many students wasted their youths and future because they are addicted to computer games, it is really sad.

[tamarind]

ctct61t:

tamarind:

I ordered one box of toys from fatbraintoys.com before, they put in a big box, the shipping charge was more than SGD50

You can try to email them first, ask them whether they can pack as compactly as possible, or send in plastic bags, not in a box. If you are ordering tubs, the tub is very rugged.

The shipping charge is really high...

These toys are better than Lego, which can easily cost over SGD100 a box in Singapore. I bought a box of Knex and it cost me less than SGD80 including shipping, so I think that it is still worth it

I would suggest buying one box and see if the child likes it first. Note that your kids may need you to help them, it is quite complicated. My boy spends all day at home, and my mother and maid cannot help him at all, so he has to figure it out all by himself

[ctct61t]

tamarind:

These toys are better than Lego, which can easily cost over SGD100 a box in Singapore. I bought a box of Knex and it cost me less than SGD80 including shipping, so I think that it is still worth it

I would suggest buying one box and see if the child likes it first. Note that your kids may need you to help them, it is quite complicated. My boy spends all day at home, and my mother and maid cannot help him at all, so he has to figure it out all by himself

Hi tamarind, Thank you so much. Ok, i will try it. I found it is not easy to find a suitable toy for my P3 DD.

[smurf]

Thanks Tamarind!


I emailed to them, they said they will try not to use big box if for 2 or 3 toys. But I think it's up to the warehouse. :roll:

[cheese]

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My child needs to be pushed. Can share with me how to get a sec 2 child be self-motivated and focus on school work?


quote=\"tamarind\"]

Michecplow:

Is there anyway to deal with laziness and lack of motivation & confident ?

since P1 , my son does not have stress with school. Teacher feedback that he not paying attention but still manage to cath up with the lesson & he will b in P4 GEP next year... ( worry for him )

he has short focus span, but when we sit with him for assignment and reading , it does help to improve his focus ..

If he is still able to catch up, then you don't have to worry.

It is actually possible to do well even with a short attention span. My attention span is 15 minutes or less, even as an adult In class, if I often miss what the teacher was saying, but I could read from the textbook and learned on my own. I am not gifted, but I scored mostly As all the way to A levels.

Gifted kids should have the ability to learn on their own. There is no need to worry about whether they pay attention to the teacher or not.

As for laziness and lack of motivation, this is because kids have everything that they want, and they are not hungry. Kids believe that parents are always there to support them for their entire life.

Parents should try to create an environment, in which they can experience what will happen when they grow up, and if they cannot get a job. No toys, no computers, no TV, no holidays and just rice and vegetables for every meal.

We all know that kids from China are mostly very motivated and driven. When I was teaching in a university in China, I visited the hostels, and their living condition is really horrible, I almost vomited when I walked pass their hostels. So when they arrive in Singapore, they are extremely motivated to work hard because they want to get out of their situations back home.

For kids who are not motivated no matter how hard you try to talk to them, then you will have to first take away all the luxuries from their lives.

I am now teaching large numbers of young adults age 17-19 years old. I know many students who are very intelligent, but because they are lazy and not motivated, they spent all day playing computer games and they could never hope to get into university. At this age, it is too late for parents to do anything.

So if you really want to do something, better do it when the child is young.

Just to add that for my kids, they get toys only once a year during their birthdays. If they want anything, I will buy it for them only when they have put in hard work. For example, I give them a small reward when they have completed reading a long novel of my choice.

Another important point to note, is to remove all the distractions. Nowadays kids have computers, ipads, PSPs, etc, all these are distractions. Even if you limit the time of usage, after the kids stop playing, their minds will still be thinking of the games, and they will not be motivated to study. I have seen so many students wasted their youths and future because they are addicted to computer games, it is really sad.[/quote]

[baglady]

Hi I was reading some of the posts in this thread and was curious to know if your kids had short attention span since young?


My boy is 2 and has v short attention span. He gets bored v fast and we have to constantly think of new things to occupy him. My parents are looking after him and thankfully my mum is super on the ball. She used to be a teacher so she’s siao on about education and doing fun stuff to teach him. He learns fast but our challenge is how to keep him interested. We’re considering childcare next year as it’s quite tiring for my parents, but I’m worried he will disrupt the class!

I read that it’s important to motivate the child, encourage him, and also teach him using things that interest him. He has topics that he’s interested in, but he gets a bit restless after doing something for longer than 5 min! Any advice?

[24hr-mum]

my boy is already 5, still has short attentn span since birth (tho slightlly better now) but it seems its a trait that wont be outgrown…just got to channel their attention to something of their interest…

[Michecplow]

tamarind:

Michecplow:

Is there anyway to deal with laziness and lack of motivation & confident ?


since P1 , my son does not have stress with school. Teacher feedback that he not paying attention but still manage to cath up with the lesson & he will b in P4 GEP next year... ( worry for him )

he has short focus span, but when we sit with him for assignment and reading , it does help to improve his focus ..

If he is still able to catch up, then you don't have to worry.

It is actually possible to do well even with a short attention span. My attention span is 15 minutes or less, even as an adult In class, if I often miss what the teacher was saying, but I could read from the textbook and learned on my own. I am not gifted, but I scored mostly As all the way to A levels.

Gifted kids should have the ability to learn on their own. There is no need to worry about whether they pay attention to the teacher or not.

As for laziness and lack of motivation, this is because kids have everything that they want, and they are not hungry. Kids believe that parents are always there to support them for their entire life.

Parents should try to create an environment, in which they can experience what will happen when they grow up, and if they cannot get a job. No toys, no computers, no TV, no holidays and just rice and vegetables for every meal.

We all know that kids from China are mostly very motivated and driven. When I was teaching in a university in China, I visited the hostels, and their living condition is really horrible, I almost vomited when I walked pass their hostels. So when they arrive in Singapore, they are extremely motivated to work hard because they want to get out of their situations back home.

For kids who are not motivated no matter how hard you try to talk to them, then you will have to first take away all the luxuries from their lives.

I am now teaching large numbers of young adults age 17-19 years old. I know many students who are very intelligent, but because they are lazy and not motivated, they spent all day playing computer games and they could never hope to get into university. At this age, it is too late for parents to do anything.

So if you really want to do something, better do it when the child is young.

Just to add that for my kids, they get toys only once a year during their birthdays. If they want anything, I will buy it for them only when they have put in hard work. For example, I give them a small reward when they have completed reading a long novel of my choice.

Another important point to note, is to remove all the distractions. Nowadays kids have computers, ipads, PSPs, etc, all these are distractions. Even if you limit the time of usage, after the kids stop playing, their minds will still be thinking of the games, and they will not be motivated to study. I have seen so many students wasted their youths and future because they are addicted to computer games, it is really sad.

thanks so much for your sharing