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    How to self-teach your child to focus and pay attention?

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      24hr-mum
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      if she loves to dance, seems like ur child is active, like my boy (tho he doesnt dance. just run ard)


      if she can focus on things she likes eg puzzle, then she prob isnt adhd.
      my boy can focus on drawg, puzzle, car, train, lego, tv, but not sch wk.
      sigh…so if not doing these things, he will not sit still, even now he is 5

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        Paulyn
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        I tried the phonics cards on my 5 yr old who can talk very well but can’t really read as he refused to try. This is due to bad experience as i tend to throw temper when he refuses to write when he was young. He was excited for a while but after seeing me bring out the cards, he immediately say no and that he just wAns to play. He enjoys me reading stories to him though. What should i do

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          Chenonceau
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          Paulyn:
          I tried the phonics cards on my 5 yr old who can talk very well but can't really read as he refused to try. This is due to bad experience as i tend to throw temper when he refuses to write when he was young. He was excited for a while but after seeing me bring out the cards, he immediately say no and that he just wAns to play. He enjoys me reading stories to him though. What should i do

          I was like the laziest mommy ever when it came to Phonics training. I planted mine in front of Dr Seuss computer game (came in CD-ROM in those days) and in front of Winnie the Pooh Alphabet and Winnie the Pooh Math.

          I taught them to play the games and before you know it, they'll have learnt their ABCs and to count.

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            24hr-mum
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            i hv nvr seriously taught my kids phonics cos i dont know and they learnt in sch. n they dont phonic class cos i find it too slow, tho it shd be good but i hv my liimited budget. instead i made my own flash card of sight words, bought some from popular (pelangi series that comes with readers), some from september21 and bought lots of readers eg Oxford Essential Readers. just keep repeating the words flashcard n drill him.


            start with common sight words and high frequency words eg and, of, into, because, what etc - all my kids can read by 3, even by boy who’s active, by 3.5 latest. he didnt like to sit down but i forced him (its like the child dont like antibiotics but u got to force right?)

            phonics is not a must if u are just talkg abt ability to read.
            its more of aiding spelling but can still read wel by sight reading.
            its a bonus if can learn phonics but its not that no phonics, cant read.
            its same for chinese language - the look of the ch character has no relation to the pronounciation. but we learnt by sight reading n memorising right?

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              tamarind
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              Phonics is definitely essential when teaching a child to read. Otherwise, the child will have to memorize thousands of words in order to learn how to read, and this is very inefficient. It is like parents making the big mistake of forcing their kids to write many Chinese characters many times in order to remember the strokes, this is not the correct method. Please note that learning Chinese is completely different from learning English.


              As parents, we should find the most efficient methods of teaching kids. Both my kids are able to read long English novels like Charlotte's Web by 5 years old, thanks to their good foundation in phonics. Being able to read does not mean only knowing how to read simple books of one sentence on each page. It means the ability to read books with about 200 words a page :
              http://tamarindphonics.blogspot.com/2010/03/importance-of-reading-books.html

              They are also able to write long English compositions effortlessly before entering P1, because they can spell most words using phonics techniques. Since they read extensively, they are able to learn a lot of knowledge independently.

              Being able to read effortlessly is essential for doing well in schools. I believe that many kids dislike studying because they find it difficult to read.

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                tamarind
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                Paulyn:
                I tried the phonics cards on my 5 yr old who can talk very well but can't really read as he refused to try. This is due to bad experience as i tend to throw temper when he refuses to write when he was young. He was excited for a while but after seeing me bring out the cards, he immediately say no and that he just wAns to play. He enjoys me reading stories to him though. What should i do

                Have you tried http://www.starfall.com ? Otherwise just let him watch the Leapfrog Letter Factory and Talking Words Factory DVDs will do.

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                  Chenonceau
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                  tamarind:
                  Paulyn:

                  I tried the phonics cards on my 5 yr old who can talk very well but can't really read as he refused to try. This is due to bad experience as i tend to throw temper when he refuses to write when he was young. He was excited for a while but after seeing me bring out the cards, he immediately say no and that he just wAns to play. He enjoys me reading stories to him though. What should i do


                  Have you tried http://www.starfall.com ? Otherwise just let him watch the Leapfrog Letter Factory and Talking Words Factory DVDs will do.

                  Yes... I quite agree with Tam... You don't have to teach your kid phonics. I learnt phonics all by myself watching Sesame Street and The Electric Company. Just find a suitable Phonics game and play it alongside your child. Or get him hooked on the game and go do something else.

                  It really does help. I know some people advocate sight cards for teaching babies to read (preverbal stage) but I've never tried it... I tend to find Phonics a very efficient method of learning to read English in the post-verbal stage (i.e., after the child learns to talk).

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                    tamarind
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                    [quote]I learnt phonics all by myself watching Sesame Street and The Electric Company.[/quote]
                    My hubby told me he used to learn phonics the same way too 😉

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                      Ashes
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                      Is there anyway to deal with daydreaming and lack of motivation & confident ?


                      Since P1 , my son does not have stress with school. Teacher always feedback that he is not paying attention and lieks to daydream and worse still his result is at the borderline & he will b in P4 GEP next year...

                      He can only do his works well when i sit with him. :?:

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                        Chenonceau
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                        Ashes:
                        Is there anyway to deal with daydreaming and lack of motivation & confident ?


                        Since P1 , my son does not have stress with school. Teacher always feedback that he is not paying attention and lieks to daydream and worse still his result is at the borderline & he will b in P4 GEP next year...

                        He can only do his works well when i sit with him. :?:
                        Maybe he is bored with how he is being taught. GEP next year may wake him up. Wait and see?

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