All About Full-Time Maids

[ftco]

My Filipino maid is planning on going for 2 weeks home leave later half of next month. As her work permit will expire early March, I will be extending it prior to her home leave.


For home leave, I hear that there is some sort of bond or procedure to do at the Philipine embassy. As I intend to do all this on my own, can anyone with experience advise what the steps involved are?

[catang]

LKVM:

happy to be mum:

maids maids maids...without them, our work, family, social life might be haywire especially for those parents (like me) that do not have a very strong supports from our parents, (my mum never takes care of any of my siblings' kids and i know she does not want to take care of kids so dun even want to bother her, my dad has already passed away, my in-laws dunno where... therefore to those parents who have great support from your parents (our kids's grandparent), appreciate and be very thankful to them..


seriously, our govt is not doing enough at all to encourage parents or married couple to give birth to more kids as the costs are so high, especially with the increase of the maids's salary now increasing so much.

for me, if my maid does not give me any problems, whole household run smoothly. But once she starts to give me problems, our family's life and relationship will suffer. If no maid, put childcare, also so expensive after subsidy and come back home from work, need to cook, feed the kids, guide them with their sch works, do housework, etc.. we dun have any times for ourselves, except to work, sleep, eat, take care of family and kids, no wonder people do not want to give birth!

now have two darling sons, heart still pin for a number 3 but with such lousy govt \"family support\" for us, (govt shld seriously consider to scrape the levy for those with kids) can just hope only and dun dare to try! just have to pray hard maid don't give me too much problems and continue to work for me happily then I can also work happily. But I will still have to mentally prepare myself for a backup plan of childcare in case maid just tell me anyday she does not want to work for me anymore.

I loved your post and have the exact sentiments but too bad can we really do anything about it :shock:

govt kept mentioning these few days abt reviewing the baby bonus or whatever they can tink of to keep the birth rate going up, but never did they mention at all abt birth rate low due to maid issues...tsk tsk

[tamarind]

LKVM:

catang:

govt kept mentioning these few days abt reviewing the baby bonus or whatever they can tink of to keep the birth rate going up, but never did they mention at all abt birth rate low due to maid issues...tsk tsk

Yes right... i dunno why

That is because many men think that we should not be too dependent on maids.

Someone in another thread advised that we should try to train our husbands to do house work, so we don't need maids :roll: Anyone successful in doing so ?

[DesertWind]

tamarind:

That is because many men think that we should not be too dependent on maids. Someone in another thread advised that we should try to train our husbands to do house work, so we don't need maids :roll: Anyone successful in doing so ?

Hi tamarind,

I just got this feeling that if I try to make my husband do housework and look after the baby, he would sure to think I am incapable and probably \"throw\" me out (lets avoid the \"D\" word).

So better I earn enough money, hire a maid, let hubby relax (as he has been used to his whole life depending on his superb stay-at-home mum) and don't put it to the test, don't you agree?
:celebrate:

[laughingcat]

tamarind:

That is because many men think that we should not be too dependent on maids.


Someone in another thread advised that we should try to train our husbands to do house work, so we don't need maids :roll: Anyone successful in doing so ?

Training Husband!?!?! That is the most ridiculous things. I have failed in this. My hubby told me \"who earn more should concentrate in work\" and \"whose study is better should coach the kids\". So like that how to train. I thought in marriage, we are not suppose to \"change\" the other partner but to accept who he is?

If I \"train\" my hubby.....he will definitely complained \"don't try to change me\". So now becomes women' fault in changing hubby lah. Aren't we putting in our own spot?

[tamarind]

Hi Desertwind, laughingcat, LKVM,

When I tried to train my hubby, he refused to be trained. He said that if I wanted him to help, then he must do things his way. Then he used one piece of cloth to mop the floor in the entire living room, without turning the cloth over even once, in the end the floor was still dirty. After a few times, I gave up.

After we have babies, he told me that I should continue to work. Both of us agree that we should both only do what we are good at, and let the professional (maid) do the housework.

[qms]

LKVM:

Yes I agree training hubbys is very difficult its better to have maid and have peace of mind

:scratchhead:

[tamarind]

LKVM:

that peace of mind better than training the hubby and listen to his :rant:

We can change maids up to 4 times a year. Just keep changing until we find a good one.

We cannot change hubby in our lifetime !

[Andaiz]

tamarind:

We can change maids up to 4 times a year. Just keep changing until we find a good one.


We cannot change hubby in our lifetime !

tamarind, you totally crack me up!

[Awonder]

Hi,


I have a Phillipino maid who had work for me for 2 years and she will be taking her home leave soon. Just learn that I had to pay $285 to the Phillipine Embassy for her home leave and I think its quite a sum and ridiculous too. I mean I dont mind paying the sum but I find that its not fair to us, the employer as why should we pay since she is the one taking the leave and I had to cope w/o her for more than 1 month (she had requested for it), and pay for her 2-way air-ticket too.

Need advice from anyone here who had experience the same situation and I was thinking if I can want her to pay the sum instead.

Thanks.