All About Full-Time Maids

[rocklee]

Hi Admummy


For some reason, my reply posting is not shown. So got to re-type the message here.

Being a working mum who relies on the service of the maid, I certainly understand your worries and concern. However, I think it is no use to think so much now since it is beyond your control. Well I believe pregnant lady will have better luck lor! So relax!

Ok, back to your questions.
[quote]anyway, how did u find out your maid was preggy then? Did she tell you? [/quote]I found out that she was pregnant when she went to see my GP (maybe for flu or what, can't really remember). My GP called me to inform me of the news. I couldn't believe my ears and bought the pregnancy kit for her to test again.
[quote]if i were to wait till the 6 mthly health checkup (i.e. when MOM sent us the health checkup letter) then i guess by the time i discover she will be abt 3-4mths preggy.......the point is my edd will be in Dec, so timing is very tight for me....i need to know early so that i have time to prepare for the new maid before i can rest my mind and concentrate on my delivery. [/quote]If you don't trust her, then perhaps you can send her for a simple urine test, say one month after her leave.
[quote]if she really get preggy, what am i suppose to do next? [/quote]If she is really pregnant, then you gotto pay for her airticket, cancel her work permit and send her back immediately. I believe your agent can assist you on this.
[quote]can i deduct from her pay for the cost of insurance, passport, renewal of permit? [/quote]Can check with your agent. I thought of doing the same thing too but couldn't bring myself to do it as I believe she did not do it on purpose. Also didn't want to end our relationship in a sour state.
[quote]besides warning her not to get preggy, what are some other tips that i should take before she fly off and return? [/quote]Maybe you can educate her how to take proper safety precaution before the happy holiday?

Hope the above helps. Meantime, take care.

[tamarind]

Dear all,

Checkout this terrible maid and the frightful event at the airport when she was supposed to fly back to her own country.

http://singaporemaidcomments.blogspot.com/2009/02/evangeline-reubal-dillo-filipino.html

Also make sure you do not employ this maid who lost a 3 year old child for a few hours due to her negligence. Although the child was eventually found you can imagine how traumatic it was !
http://singaporemaidcomments.blogspot.com/2009/06/fitria-wulandari-indonesian.html

[elle_yv.03429hotmail.03429com]

Hi Tamarind,


Would like to seek your opinion whether should I grant my maids with 2 weeks home leave.

She has been working for me approx. 1 year only. She approach me to request for 2 weeks home leave coming Oct 09, claiming that her daughter birthday & she promise her to go home & celebrate for her.

I have checked with my maid agency, but they advice me not to let her go back since she just work for me about 1 year, cause they encounter many cases that maid went back home town & promise to return after their leave, but at the end did not return back.

I did told my maid that if she wants to go home, she will have to bear for her air ticket since my contract with her end only next year.

How do you think, should I let her home & some peoples tell me that if allow her go home, must hold some of her money?

[tamarind]

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Hi Tamarind,


Would like to seek your opinion whether should I grant my maids with 2 weeks home leave.

She has been working for me approx. 1 year only. She approach me to request for 2 weeks home leave coming Oct 09, claiming that her daughter birthday & she promise her to go home & celebrate for her.

I have checked with my maid agency, but they advice me not to let her go back since she just work for me about 1 year, cause they encounter many cases that maid went back home town & promise to return after their leave, but at the end did not return back.

I did told my maid that if she wants to go home, she will have to bear for her air ticket since my contract with her end only next year.

How do you think, should I let her home & some peoples tell me that if allow her go home, must hold some of her money?

Is she a good maid ? If she is a very good maid, and she seems very sincere about her request, then you may want to consider to letting her home, provided she pays for her own air ticket. She will not be paid for the days she is gone, and you can tell her that you will pay her the current month salary only when she returns. But bear in mind that what she says about her girl's birthday may not be true, maids can tell lies about anything.

But if her performance is average only, then I don't think you should let her go. She may think that you are very easy going and ask to go home every few months. What the agency said is true, the maid may not return.

[elle_yv.03429hotmail.03429com]

tamarind:

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Hi Tamarind,


Would like to seek your opinion whether should I grant my maids with 2 weeks home leave.

She has been working for me approx. 1 year only. She approach me to request for 2 weeks home leave coming Oct 09, claiming that her daughter birthday & she promise her to go home & celebrate for her.

I have checked with my maid agency, but they advice me not to let her go back since she just work for me about 1 year, cause they encounter many cases that maid went back home town & promise to return after their leave, but at the end did not return back.

I did told my maid that if she wants to go home, she will have to bear for her air ticket since my contract with her end only next year.

How do you think, should I let her home & some peoples tell me that if allow her go home, must hold some of her money?

Is she a good maid ? If she is a very good maid, and she seems very sincere about her request, then you may want to consider to letting her home, provided she pays for her own air ticket. She will not be paid for the days she is gone, and you can tell her that you will pay her the current month salary only when she returns. But bear in mind that what she says about her girl's birthday may not be true, maids can tell lies about anything.

But if her performance is average only, then I don't think you should let her go. She may think that you are very easy going and ask to go home every few months. What the agency said is true, the maid may not return.

I consider her performance slightly above average. Just sometimes a bit of forgetful when assign some task for her, & I think she did not lies as I remember she did mentioned that last day of Oct is her girl birthday.

[quixation]

I am quite unluckily for the past year to have engage such maids…


1. Caught my maid stealing cigarettes and smoking in toilet
2. My maids cash is inconsistent with her story
3. My maid confessed that she goes out of the house when we are not in
4. My maid was caught on the phone once when we went out…
5. She was caught sleeping when we went out for dinner and came back at 9pm but her work was not finished.
6. My Maid never never since day 1 wakes up on time at 6am as instructed. she can wake up at 7 plus or even 8plus…
7. Everytime I gives her like $4 to buy food, she will say no change but actually she kept all the change.

I have video of her confessing to above and even to being under-age.
If i return her to agent, she gets transfered. If i send her back, i forfeit my loan. Should I report? If i report that she is under-age, how will the agent compensate me? They and the maid breached the work permit conditions…

Can someone advise me ?

[winth]

Hi,


May I know for maids (i.e. Mynmar) to go overseas (i.e. Malaysia), do we need to apply any Visas for them?

Cheers.

[ZacK]

We have our helper (our first) for coming to 4mths now, generally no complaints so far, other than the culture issue which given time she Would be able to get used to… She’s industrious as I think she is up by 5am daily to start her chores so that she can tend to Ds2 when he wakes up.


I’m currently waiting at SGH A&E cos an unfortunate accident happened to our helper while she was sleeping. The metal rod holding the curtains to give her pte space in her room fell on her face and left a deep cut above her right eye.

Her face was red with blood and dripping when she came to us for help… Feeling sorry and bad cos this is certainly not one of the experience she shd have while working here under our care… especially so when it’ll leave a scar due to the stitching required … sigh…

Btw anyone know of any good remedy to reduce scarring from deep cuts? Aloe vera gel? TIA

[ChiefKiasu]

ZacK:

... I'm currently waiting at SGH A&E cos an unfortunate accident happened to our helper while she was sleeping. The metal rod holding the curtains to give her pte space in her room fell on her face and left a deep cut above her right eye...

Oh no, ZacK, that is really unfortunate. Let's hope the scar isn't bad or lasting, as that could give her the right to ask for compensation. I wonder what their claims could amount to. Tamarind, do you know?

[Jav]

Sorry… never post anything before in the forum. Testing whether it was ok. Anyway, I am in dilemma whether to let my maid go back to her hometown in Aug? Her permit is expiring on 30 Sept. She has been a very good helper to me, takes care everything A-Z, a good cook & taken good care of my children. She can only work for me till her passport expiring in July next year. My dilemma is if she goes back, not sure whether she will come back to SG & keep her promise secondly, should I renew her permit before letting her go back. Any advice pls?