How to get along well with my four children

[Chenonceau]

sotongmom76

Your story is very heartbreaking. I have no words of advice… and hope that some words of comfort may help?

Don’t give up on your kids. They have only you. Don’t scold. Don’t cane. Everyone is in pain together.When children are in pain, they do naughty things. But you’re also in pain and you have 2 jobs. It must be difficult for you.

I am sure your kids love you but they dunno how to show it. Be courageous and strong. Could you perhaps draw strength from the love your children have for you, and forgive them their little transgressions? They lie and have disappointed you but don’t lose heart. They need you and you need them.

All the best.

[3Boys]

sotongmum,

it is painful to read, sorry for your situation

Stay strong for your children. Your eldest is old enough to have some understanding of the situation, he is probably resentful that his cosy life is somewhat disrupted, plus the tweens are a tough period anyway. You possibly need to sit him down and have a heart to heart and get him to cooperate. He possibly needs a strong male figure in his life to mentor a little. Is there any family support network you can call upon?

[tankee]

Hi


Stay strong and don't give up !

I did a google and found this single parent support group.

Perhaps you could give them a call and see if they can help in any way.

http://helpfsc.org.sg/Prognserv/spsg.htm

[sotongmom76]

tankee:

Hi


Stay strong and don't give up !

I did a google and found this single parent support group.

Perhaps you could give them a call and see if they can help in any way.

http://helpfsc.org.sg/Prognserv/spsg.htm

Thank you...I've tried the single parent support group but they couldn't help me because my children are Malaysians.

[sotongmom76]

Hi all,


Thanks for your support and comforting words.....

I'm not very good in expressing myself....

Dun worry.....I'll never ever try to give up....

It's true that now they have only me....and I have only them too....

[Anna Ng]

If you don mind, maybe seek for religion support? They will help you no matter you are citizen or not.

[fussyMummy]

sotongmom76:

....I've tried the single parent support group but they couldn't help me because my children are Malaysians.

Hi sotongmom76,

I did seek help from those single parent support group too, yet no \"support\" from them too, even my kids are singaporean...

I totally can understand how you felt, as I also have similar issues with my kids too... I am lost sometimes, no one to talk with, no one to advise....but I keep remind myself to hang on, dont give up.... or else there will not be anymore HOPE on anything...

Keep move on, for kids and for yourself....

Must remember to take good care of yourself, beside taking good care of your kids...

[sotongmom76]

just wondering how to get along with the children.maybe I'm not a good mom to them, because they just don't listen to me.


We had lost communicate with each other, espically my eldest. He'll only listen to his friends. He started treating us like nothing. Like just now, they are quarelling, so I asked them to stop. Guess wat, I saw his profile in the facebook asking me to QUIET!

That's really hurt me. We used to be very close, we used to play together, we used to chat, we used to do everything together.

Now he won't even want to go out with us. What's really happening between us.

Why do they like to quarelling with each other for nothing? Why he likes to shout at the slibings?

Is it just because he's OLD.....

I had tried my very best to communitcate with him, I had tried to talk to him and telling him why I'm angry with him. But turns out to be the same after a few days....

:stupid: :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:

[sotongmom76]

just wondering how to get along with the children.maybe I'm not a good mom to them, because they just don't listen to me.


We had lost communicate with each other, espically my eldest. He'll only listen to his friends. He started treating us like nothing. Like just now, they are quarelling, so I asked them to stop. Guess wat, I saw his profile in the facebook asking me to QUIET!

That's really hurt me. We used to be very close, we used to play together, we used to chat, we used to do everything together.

Now he won't even want to go out with us. What's really happening between us.

Why do they like to quarelling with each other for nothing? Why he likes to shout at the slibings?

Is it just because he's OLD.....

I had tried my very best to communitcate with him, I had tried to talk to him and telling him why I'm angry with him. But turns out to be the same after a few days....

:stupid: :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:

[kittybank]

sotongmom76:

just wondering how to get along with the children.maybe I'm not a good mom to them, because they just don't listen to me.


We had lost communicate with each other, espically my eldest. He'll only listen to his friends. He started treating us like nothing. Like just now, they are quarelling, so I asked them to stop. Guess wat, I saw his profile in the facebook asking me to QUIET!

That's really hurt me. We used to be very close, we used to play together, we used to chat, we used to do everything together.

Now he won't even want to go out with us. What's really happening between us.

Why do they like to quarelling with each other for nothing? Why he likes to shout at the slibings?

Is it just because he's OLD.....

I had tried my very best to communitcate with him, I had tried to talk to him and telling him why I'm angry with him. But turns out to be the same after a few days....

:stupid: :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:

Dear sotongmom76

Just wanna share with you that boys at this age are going through puberty and can be impatient and rude due to hormonal changes. Please don't blame it on yourself. I am sure he knows but doesn't know how to articulate his love for all the sacrifices you have made. You see, at their age, it is \"lame\" to show love outwardly, especially to mums! You have been through so much, it is the rebuilding stage now, so go slow and steady, \"brick\" by \"brick\", for your new home. Whenever you are feeling down, come to this forum and \"pour\" out your frustrations, we can always lend a listening ear. Keep it up!