PM Lee urges more babies in Year of Rabbit

[foreverj]

janet_lee88:

sleepy:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]When the men's favourite activities are avail, their interest in looking after kids are reduced.

Excellent observation!

Soccer
Computer - FB networking, games
Golf
Watching TV
Reading Newspapers

These are the pet peeves women have with their husbands. No guarantee that the husbands will help out more WITHOUT these 'distractions' but no excuse NOT to.[/quote]let me add to the list. \"Work\" for my hubby..

[janet88]

kwk9060:

Everybody is concern abt matters after the baby is here…. what abt the process of getting the baby?? We wanted another child, but with our hectic work life, we don’t even have the time and energy to make baby. After a whole day of war fighting at office, sometime with a bit of OT, after work have to fetch the elder kids home, a quick dinner and some bonding time with them b4 their bedtime, Sxx is the last thing on our mind. Looking at some of my friends and relatives, double income with no kids, not that they don’t want children, simply no time….maybe the government should look into the working hours and the change the mind set of the employers.

If employees are not very productive in the office, their bosses blackmark them for further promotions. However if couples already have kids and so busy, most would not think of having any more as they do not have time to look after. Even if they can return home early, the inbox is always so full and emails need equal attention.
As for those who have yet to produce, how can they possibly do so working 12-14 hours a day...the last thing on their mind is making babies. All they want is to have quick dinner, shower and sleep.

[hquek]

janet_lee88:

I won't be so stupid to complain about the floor being sticky or clothes folded anyhow. As long as he does something, even if slipshod, better than nothing. Once I open my mouth to complain, the mop will be shoved back to me.

Me too! if his majesty deigns to pick up the mop, I'll steer clear of his way and concentrate on my own cleaning - all the while giving thanks for any work done.

[janet88]

hquek:

janet_lee88:

I won't be so stupid to complain about the floor being sticky or clothes folded anyhow. As long as he does something, even if slipshod, better than nothing. Once I open my mouth to complain, the mop will be shoved back to me.

Me too! if his majesty deigns to pick up the mop, I'll steer clear of his way and concentrate on my own cleaning - all the while giving thanks for any work done.

When HRH (His Royal Highness) mops the floor or folds the clothes, I do not interfere. Sometimes he will see me folding the clothes again and will ask, 'The clothes are not folded to your satisfaction ?' I just smile.

[toddles]

janet_lee88:

hquek:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]
I won't be so stupid to complain about the floor being sticky or clothes folded anyhow. As long as he does something, even if slipshod, better than nothing. Once I open my mouth to complain, the mop will be shoved back to me.

Me too! if his majesty deigns to pick up the mop, I'll steer clear of his way and concentrate on my own cleaning - all the while giving thanks for any work done.

When HRH (His Royal Highness) mops the floor or folds the clothes, I do not interfere. Sometimes he will see me folding the clothes again and will ask, 'The clothes are not folded to your satisfaction ?' I just smile.[/quote]yeah, the clever wife does not Hiam when the hubby does anything positive. give loads of affirmation otherwise it'll never happen again.

[Funz]

kwk9060:

Everybody is concern abt matters after the baby is here…. what abt the process of getting the baby?? We wanted another child, but with our hectic work life, we don’t even have the time and energy to make baby. After a whole day of war fighting at office, sometime with a bit of OT, after work have to fetch the elder kids home, a quick dinner and some bonding time with them b4 their bedtime, Sxx is the last thing on our mind. Looking at some of my friends and relatives, double income with no kids, not that they don’t want children, simply no time….maybe the government should look into the working hours and the change the mind set of the employers.

Govt can set all sorts of rules but it is up to us to make the change. Some bright spark thinks that by staying longer in the office they will get favourable review, and the next bright spark thinking that they don't want to lose out thus stay later then the 1st one and so on and so forth. And it eventually becomes a norm. MOM already has a guideline for working hours, 44hrs/week. But if people continue to prioritise work/promotion over other stuff, there will never be enough time for anything else

[kwk9060]

janet_lee88:

If employees are not very productive in the office, their bosses blackmark them for further promotions. However if couples already have kids and so busy, most would not think of having any more as they do not have time to look after. Even if they can return home early, the inbox is always so full and emails need equal attention.

As for those who have yet to produce, how can they possibly do so working 12-14 hours a day...the last thing on their mind is making babies. All they want is to have quick dinner, shower and sleep.

Totally agreed!! Low birth rate is actually the result of our government's effect to push our country to be world class. U can't have the best of everything. If want to boost the birth rate, we have to slow down on the economic issue, so that ppl will have more time for other things, single have more time to social, couples have more time to build up their family....

[3Boys]

kwk9060:

janet_lee88:

If employees are not very productive in the office, their bosses blackmark them for further promotions. However if couples already have kids and so busy, most would not think of having any more as they do not have time to look after. Even if they can return home early, the inbox is always so full and emails need equal attention.

As for those who have yet to produce, how can they possibly do so working 12-14 hours a day...the last thing on their mind is making babies. All they want is to have quick dinner, shower and sleep.

Totally agreed!! Low birth rate is actually the result of our government's effect to push our country to be world class. U can't have the best of everything. If want to boost the birth rate, we have to slow down on the economic issue, so that ppl will have more time for other things, single have more time to social, couples have more time to build up their family....

Dear kwk,
may I refer you to the KSP Notti Corner.....

maybe you can draw some inspiration from there

[janet88]

Men work hard to bring home the bacon. It’s because of bringing up his children/family that he needs to work hard. Work will always be there, but the children will grow up. This is something that should always be reminded to the men.


Fathers in the past work very hard to bring home money. When he wants to communicate with his children now, there is no communication bcos they didn’t realize that bonding takes place from young…not like turning on a switch. Now that these men have retired and are at home, they feel left out bcos the children do not know how to communicate with him and relate anything and everything to the mother.

[3Boys]

Chenonceau:

Down with football!!

Oh dear... I am having so much fun but I rather suspect the men reading thus are turning pale green. So... no lah... we girls don't mean half of what we say here.

Harlo Ladies!!

You married a MAN lar!

Childcare, cooking ok....but why you want to neuter him?? :shock: