JUVENILE DELINQUENTS

[buds hubs]

Andaiz:

Thanks for this! Very illuminating.....


....communication seems to be key to this!

Hi there.. Glad.. you liked it..

I may not be an expert in this but I agree with you that communication is
the key to reach out to your child..

Some children are a little more difficult to handle as compared to others,
so parents of these children have to put in that extra effort..

The important thing is that parents have to detect the early signs of trouble at an early stage so that it can be rectified before its too
late..

Cheers! :celebrate:

[ZacK]

Thanks Bud_hubs for your sharing :celebrate:

[buds hubs]

ZacK:

Thanks Bud_hubs for your sharing :celebrate:

No Problems Bro..

Actually there is a continuation to this same story.... :roll:

but I need some time to put it in writing... Its just that
I've been bogged down with some stuff at work this entire week. :?:

Will try to do it some time this week once everything settles down a bit.. :celebrate:

[ZacK]

buds hubs:

ZacK:

Thanks Bud_hubs for your sharing :celebrate:

No Problems Bro..

Actually there is a continuation to this same story.... :roll:

but I need some time to put it in writing... Its just that
I've been bogged down with some stuff at work this entire week. :?:

Will try to do it some time this week once everything settles down a bit.. :celebrate:

So typical of you to keep us in suspense :roll: ... Joking

We all understand, sometimes there are things that I wanna share except that mind is too tired that I may not be coherent if I post a reply so end up dun post :oops:

[buds hubs]

ZacK:

We all understand, sometimes there are things that I wanna share except that mind is too tired that I may not be coherent if I post a reply so end up dun post :oops:

Thats very true Bro...

I guess all of us have our \"GOOD\" days and our \"BAD\" days huh..

[smurf]

dunno where to start.


an acquintance has a 14 year old gal. she used to do quite in her studies, ranking below 10 when she joined sec sch. but in the recent mths, she mixed with the wrong gangs. Grades gradully dropping, to the extend that she failed almost all subjects.

studies aside, she also started to ask the mum permission to go out. of cos the mum said cannot. but after sometimes later, her mum gave in and let her out once in a while. but she abused her mum’s trust. everytime she went out, she came back with piercing, nose, tongue, ear, etc. and recently, a small tattoo behind.

the mum was furious, beat her until she begged the mum to stop. few times.

One nite, she wanted to escape at midnite to meet 3 guys (in their 20’s). A gal alone with 3 guys.

But, she didn’t manage to go out, the dad was so angry until he fainted on the spot. seeing that, the gal was stunned and cried. BUT, the next morning, she still want to go out again!

She said she knew those guys from the web.

She has been telling lotsa lies Just so that she can go out. SHe said she want to go Church to do activites, but she only want to go to HER fren church. reason why? she isn’t interested in activities, she just wat to meet her frens to go out.

Her blog has very negative remarks about sch. a lot of vulgar words. scolding teachers, she even confess that she is day dreaming and bored in class. She posted some pics of her which seems like soft porn (no nude, just the pose), to entitce men too view.

Recently, she told her mum she wants to kill herself, and she has used knife to cut her hand, but dun tink it’s serious. cos she is still alive, maybe just want to scare the parents.

Why has she become like that? and what is the solution?

[buds hubs]

smurf:

Why has she become like that? and what is the solution?

WOW!!.. That is quite a situation you have here.

Anyway, I think that something must have triggered the sudden change
of behaviour in your friend's daughter. It has already come to a point
where her parents are losing control over her. Personally I dont think that
using physical force works on her. She may see it as a reason to \"rebel\"
further by doing worse things to hurt the parents.

I would suggest for her parents to speak to a counsellor from their
Church or their daughter's school about the problems faced. Let the
counsellor know about their discoveries ie; tattoos, piercing, blog
comments etc. From there, the counsellor should be able to roughly
gauge how best to approach the situation.

However, the counsellor cant work miracles as it will take some time
to get through to the other party depending on how receptive he/she is to
counselling. Should counselling fail and if matters really get out of hand
(God Forbid), then I guess her parents has got to make a decision
whether or not to make a complaint against their daughter.

Just a point to note, blogging is one of the ways for someone to express
their feelings. There may be some clues as to why your friend's daughter
is behaving in that manner which could be mentioned in her blog.
However, I personally DO NOT condone blogging especially among teens
as many of them may be exposed to a lot of wrong influence and may
be too immature to handle them. Sad to say that there are a lot of
\"predators\" lurking in the blogging community who prey on these naive
teens.

Thank goodness, the government realises this worrying trend and that is
why there was a recent amendment to the law which now includes
\"Sexual Grooming\" as one of the offences to deal with such predators
who entice children & teens over the web.