PM Lee urges more babies in Year of Rabbit

[SAHM_TAN]

janet_lee88:

There are fun times lah...somehow that's the joy of a kid but the stress of education stops parents from considering having more kids.

I think it's the definition of success that's stressing parents. We want so much more for our kids

[SAHM_TAN]

phankao:

Not education. Just *stressful* bc they are \"kids\". Even when they are having fun could be a stressful time for us.

I just make sure there are no breakables when they play :lol: :lol: :lol:

[phankao]

SAHM_TAN:

phankao:

Not education. Just *stressful* bc they are \"kids\". Even when they are having fun could be a stressful time for us.

I just make sure there are no breakables when they play :lol: :lol: :lol:

nay, that's not what I mean. You know how they can play until so mad that they don't stop being dangerous until they get hurt? But I think you probably won't understand that as much as I do. AFterall, i've really been thru' it all, quite much more. More years of experience too. SEen it all. sigh.

[SAHM_TAN]

phankao:

SAHM_TAN:

[quote=\"phankao\"]
Not education. Just *stressful* bc they are \"kids\". Even when they are having fun could be a stressful time for us.

I just make sure there are no breakables when they play :lol: :lol: :lol:

nay, that's not what I mean. You know how they can play until so mad that they don't stop being dangerous until they get hurt? But I think you probably won't understand that as much as I do.[/quote]Know what you mean...high from playing...I just grab them and hold. My hubby use the quicker technic, the Mr Cane. Mr Cane's appearance will sober them up too

[phankao]

SAHM_TAN:

janet_lee88:

Yup...for being a coward and not having to live with the guilt, parents suffer for another 30 years.

only 30 yrs....... :lol: Parenting is 24/7 till am in the urn. The degree and type of parenting will be different as they grow but the parent label will never fade. Eventually will be promoted to GRANDPARENTS

You all can tahan for so long, meh? I give up once they become teenagers. They don't need much taking care of definitely from that stage onwards and I leave them be. Only keep an eye. They also won't want you interfering. Which teenager/adult would?!

[phankao]

SAHM_TAN:

phankao:

[quote=\"SAHM_TAN\"]
I just make sure there are no breakables when they play :lol: :lol: :lol:

nay, that's not what I mean. You know how they can play until so mad that they don't stop being dangerous until they get hurt? But I think you probably won't understand that as much as I do.

Know what you mean...high from playing...I just grab them and hold. My hubby use the quicker technic, the Mr Cane. Mr Cane's appearance will sober them up too[/quote]Well, we've had several injuries resulting from kids playing with each other that have required trips to A&E and many weeks of after-care and months of post-care monitoring.

[SAHM_TAN]

phankao:

Well, we've had several injuries resulting from kids playing with each other that have required trips to A&E and many weeks of after-care and months of post-care monitoring.

wow...that is stressful

[janet88]

phankao:

SAHM_TAN:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]

Yup...for being a coward and not having to live with the guilt, parents suffer for another 30 years.

only 30 yrs....... :lol: Parenting is 24/7 till am in the urn. The degree and type of parenting will be different as they grow but the parent label will never fade.

I give up once they become teenagers. They don't need much taking care of definitely from that stage onwards and I leave them be. Only keep an eye. [/quote]When they are teenagers, have to keep an eye even more...that is the age kids mix with others and go on wrong track easily.

[phankao]

janet_lee88:

phankao:

[quote=\"SAHM_TAN\"]
only 30 yrs....... :lol: Parenting is 24/7 till am in the urn. The degree and type of parenting will be different as they grow but the parent label will never fade.

I give up once they become teenagers. They don't need much taking care of definitely from that stage onwards and I leave them be. Only keep an eye.

When they are teenagers, have to keep an eye even more...that is the age kids mix with others and go on wrong track easily.[/quote]Only have to keep an eye. Don't have to do much else. They are quite independent by then, can get around themselves, take care of themselves rather well, generally if they are sensible, other than a bit of emo here/there, they get onto their own schedules, projects, schoolwork etc. Not quite as needy as earlier. Ah, I should know. My teenagers are 14 & 17. Compare with my 12yo and my 2yo? No sweat at that age.

[Funz]

phankao:

janet_lee88:

Hi,

Did anyone read the forum today about this lady who had an abortion when she was pregnant with her 3rd/4th kids (twins) ? Although I am not working, but it sure strikes a familiar tune with women who have to coach kids' education...the attention to be given to the kids and every child being an individual. My hubby and I have to take each child each to coach them in their school work. Son at 11 needs attention (if not more) as he will be sitting for PSLE next year and daughter at P1 hates Chinese and as such require attention to buck up.

I didn't read, but she's a very smart lady then. And courageous.

I won't go so far as to call her courageous. She was caught in a bad position and had to make a tough decision.

All I can say is if one is sure that the family does not want anymore kids, then go ligate or get a vasectomy. Don't wait for things to happen, get caught in this type of situation and have to make such decisions.