Parenting gone wrong?

[satyagraha]

Reminds me of a recent encounter.


At a chess tournament, a mummy was complaining with controlled agitation (not too loud, just to the person next to her) about how her daughter's Indian opponent was naughty, very bad, scheming. I suppose the little boy (under-6 yrs old) probably did do something not acceptable, I'm not sure. But from the mummy's tone, can hear that there's a tinge of discrimination.

What shocked me was what I hear when the match was over and her girl come out to her.

Girl : \"Mummy, that boy is crazy!!\"
Mummy : \"Yes, I know, dear. He really is crazy!\"

:? Is it just me being too sensitive? Or that parent really ought not respond in that manner, despite feeling unjust for her girl? Her girl won that match, btw.

[SAHM_TAN]

satyagraha:

Reminds me of a recent encounter.


At a chess tournament, a mummy was complaining with controlled agitation (not too loud, just to the person next to her) about how her daughter's Indian opponent was naughty, very bad, scheming. I suppose the little boy (under-6 yrs old) probably did do something not acceptable, I'm not sure. But from the mummy's tone, can hear that there's a tinge of discrimination.

What shocked me was what I hear when the match was over and her girl come out to her.

Girl : \"Mummy, that boy is crazy!!\"
Mummy : \"Yes, I know, dear. He really is crazy!\"

:? Is it just me being too sensitive? Or that parent really ought not respond in that manner, despite feeling unjust for her girl? Her girl won that match, btw.

My idea of chess playing is that apponents will try to outwit and outplay each other. It's the nature of the game to bluff opponents with moves to make them make the wrong decision. She should be glad her daughter is able to see through strategy of the boy.

I feel as a parent it's important to explain the situation in a rational manner to the child

[SAHM_TAN]

Sun_2010:

The link


http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_649288.html

If she was angry, she should have complained to her friends via sms not to use the radio waves. It reflects on her maturity level

[DesertWind]

Wah lau, what's so great about Holland V?


Although I can understand Samantha's distaste for vulgar old men (were they old?). Anyway I grew up in HDB estate and I too, dislike going to the neighbourhood coffeeshop very much when young. Usually there would be tables of middle-age men/ah pek drinking beer in evenings or coffee in morning and they would be staring at people coming to the coffee-shop to eat. Gave me the creeps. So I avoid going there and only in the rare occasion would I agree to eat dinner with my family at the tze char shop there.

Even now going to my neighbourhood's coffee shop is the same thing, still have such men around staring at those they found not so familiar to them. But now my skin a lot thicker bo-chap them just buy my food and go. Hello, just in case you think people look because I dress funnily or sexily - no way! I am as aunty as you can get and still people look at me up and down perhaps because my hubby is not Chinese!

But there is no need for this Samantha to talk about Holland V vs heartlanders as if Holland V is some great place just for the elite and cultured. Apartheid or what?

[DesertWind]

Wow, this RGS girl can really write!


I saw this was already a 2006 article. I tried clicking on the original Mr Wee's article but no longer available on the web-link given.

Just by reading this 18 years-old RGS girl's reply gave me an inkling on what it is about. I think she has a point somewhat about this \"cruel\" world whereby it is survival of the fittest and the best will win. She also talks about PMET being whiny instead of becoming more practical like becoming a sales assistant for survival purpose. That she thinks life for this Mr Wee is not that bad compared to the other worst sufferings.

But delivered at a cocky tone of a very young at her very best age (18 yo) with the whole world as her oyster at this point in time. They said the very best years of a students' life would be during university ie. between 18 to 21 yo whereby you dare to dream dreams and dare to implement your great ambitions without much fear or care in the world. True! The innocence of youth!

Fast forward twenty years down the road with 40 yo staring at you, having worked for 20 years in the \"real\" world, having seen many types of people, bosses, circumstances....will she still think this way?

Perhaps, same points still applies but probably delivered in a more subdued, humble tone.

It is not a matter of poor upbringing, but a matter of a privileged lifestyle, plain-sailing school-life, young and inexperienced in the way of life.

Hope time will season this young lady - God Bless her!