All About Full-Time Maids
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madinked:
huh? Where else has she been sleeping?
I doubt it's boyfriend since she writes to many guys. And one goes by the name of bala.jtoh:
Her boyfriend wrote to her in English? Terrible, these maids.
Oh did I mention she brought back bed bugs? -
madinked:
That's the thing. You let them have handphones because it's not fair to isolate them. But they abuse it by talking non-stop to the detriment of their duties and worse still, talk sweet nothings to the middle of the night and have no energy the next day.Actually the reason I let them have handphones is simple. They almost don't have a life here so it'll be nice to have a phone and they can at least communicate with friends. In the end she used the phone all the time. I had to step in a few times and stopped her. There were many times I stepped out of my room to see her in her room. When she saw me she would pretend to rearrange things. Despite warnings of keeping her phone, I'm reluctant to do I since it's her phone and she's 34 or so. I would think she has more self control than that.
As for off days I gave my maid cos she said she has relatives here. So I thought again it would be nice to be able to meet some people whom she can communicate easily and without restrictions. But in the end I think she went out to meet guys more than relatives. -
madinked:
Maybe you can tell her to use her phone at night -like after she finishes her work. Its the same when we work - our bosses also don't like if we have personal chats on the phone frequently on office hours. 34yrs should be mature and sensible enough :roll:Actually the reason I let them have handphones is simple. They almost don't have a life here so it'll be nice to have a phone and they can at least communicate with friends. In the end she used the phone all the time. I had to step in a few times and stopped her. There were many times I stepped out of my room to see her in her room. When she saw me she would pretend to rearrange things. Despite warnings of keeping her phone, I'm reluctant to do I since it's her phone and she's 34 or so. I would think she has more self control than that.
As for off days I gave my maid cos she said she has relatives here. So I thought again it would be nice to be able to meet some people whom she can communicate easily and without restrictions. But in the end I think she went out to meet guys more than relatives. -
It's really hard to have maid these days. Remembered the first 2 were quite OK, but 3rd was handful.
4+year ago, I allowed my ex-maid to have a handphone...just after she finished her loan. In the 1st month, she incurred $150+ of phone bills, I told her off. In 2nd month, a whopping $1400+....I was shocked. I requested for the statement & found that she was calling overseas, downloading stuff and spending 4-6 hours on phone everyday....many into middle of the night 2am and during daytime while she was supposed to be looking after kids/chores, she'll be on phone for 15-30 mins at intervals of every 30mins. No wonder she complained tired and often go into the room at 8+pm when I still slog till 12+am at night tidying up.
I gave her a good talk. Fortunately for me, she was remorseful and continued working for me (with hardly any pay until all her debts cleared). IF she was difficult and wants to leave, I'll be stuck with the phone bill cos' the phone was registered under my name. Eventually she completed 1.75 years but during her last 3 months, she started giving trouble again..... She wanted to renew but I decided enough is enough.....no renewal, no maid and I become a SAHM. Dun think I regret my decision.....it's sheer mental exhaustion. -
LKVM:
Yes good maids are hard to find these daysLittlefly:
[quote=\"micollh\"]ic. so i better watch out and be aware of all these for my next maid.. gonna headache again cos my maid contract ending will get a new one.., my current maid miss her son, she intends to go back. i feel also good. she work hard here for coming 2 years le. she no phone , never ask for one, and she no frens here, only with my family.
Does your maid intend to return to work ? Maybe a higher pay will attract her to come back after her 'home leave'?
[/quote]Agree! my gf's ex-maid return home citing further studies but few months later call her to see if she wants to take her back at $450 but my gf already got new maid. Then her exmaid went Taiwan for the $800 salary but slog like a horse for a 4 storey house with 7 adults and have to care for elderly on top of cooking and housework. Called my friend again begging to take her back for $400 but my gf has no issues with current maid.
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cwc:
OMG! $1400!!!!It's really hard to have maid these days. Remembered the first 2 were quite OK, but 3rd was handful.
4+year ago, I allowed my ex-maid to have a handphone...just after she finished her loan. In the 1st month, she incurred $150+ of phone bills, I told her off. In 2nd month, a whopping $1400+....I was shocked. I requested for the statement & found that she was calling overseas, downloading stuff and spending 4-6 hours on phone everyday....many into middle of the night 2am and during daytime while she was supposed to be looking after kids/chores, she'll be on phone for 15-30 mins at intervals of every 30mins. No wonder she complained tired and often go into the room at 8+pm when I still slog till 12+am at night tidying up.
I gave her a good talk. Fortunately for me, she was remorseful and continued working for me (with hardly any pay until all her debts cleared). IF she was difficult and wants to leave, I'll be stuck with the phone bill cos' the phone was registered under my name. Eventually she completed 1.75 years but during her last 3 months, she started giving trouble again..... She wanted to renew but I decided enough is enough.....no renewal, no maid and I become a SAHM. Dun think I regret my decision.....it's sheer mental exhaustion. -
LKVM:
We allowed our previous maid to talk on the phone.. sometimes if i wake up ard 12.30 she is still on phone :shock:[/quote] :shock: did you tell her to stop ? she next day morning still can wake up ?
Maybe you can tell her to use her phone at night -like after she finishes her work. Its the same when we work - our bosses also don't like if we have personal chats on the phone frequently on office hours. 34yrs should be mature and sensible enough :roll:Littlefly:
[quote=\"madinked\"]Actually the reason I let them have handphones is simple. They almost don't have a life here so it'll be nice to have a phone and they can at least communicate with friends. In the end she used the phone all the time. I had to step in a few times and stopped her. There were many times I stepped out of my room to see her in her room. When she saw me she would pretend to rearrange things. Despite warnings of keeping her phone, I'm reluctant to do I since it's her phone and she's 34 or so. I would think she has more self control than that.
As for off days I gave my maid cos she said she has relatives here. So I thought again it would be nice to be able to meet some people whom she can communicate easily and without restrictions. But in the end I think she went out to meet guys more than relatives. -
Yes, $1400+. Can you imagine my SHOCK when I received the bill. First thot was to terminate her, but she actually wasnβt that bad, guess still young and canβt think properly. Tho a little ε°ε§, she treated my kids well and that is my TOP priority, chores and the rest are 2nd. AND if I terminate, not only do I need to pay for her airfare etc etc, she has totally zero $ with her cosβ just finish loan. I still gotta bear the phone bill.
Anyway, itβs over for me. AND Iβm GLAD. -
cwc:
Applaud your decision o be SAHM - one the toughest jobs around!It's really hard to have maid these days. Remembered the first 2 were quite OK, but 3rd was handful.
4+year ago, I allowed my ex-maid to have a handphone...just after she finished her loan. In the 1st month, she incurred $150+ of phone bills, I told her off. In 2nd month, a whopping $1400+....I was shocked. I requested for the statement & found that she was calling overseas, downloading stuff and spending 4-6 hours on phone everyday....many into middle of the night 2am and during daytime while she was supposed to be looking after kids/chores, she'll be on phone for 15-30 mins at intervals of every 30mins. No wonder she complained tired and often go into the room at 8+pm when I still slog till 12+am at night tidying up.
I gave her a good talk. Fortunately for me, she was remorseful and continued working for me (with hardly any pay until all her debts cleared). IF she was difficult and wants to leave, I'll be stuck with the phone bill cos' the phone was registered under my name. Eventually she completed 1.75 years but during her last 3 months, she started giving trouble again..... She wanted to renew but I decided enough is enough.....no renewal, no maid and I become a SAHM. Dun think I regret my decision.....it's sheer mental exhaustion.
Err...i need to watch out for my phone bills as we leave at home alone alot while we are at work.
10+yrs back, my mum's maids were not so 'complicated' and quite hassle free. Content with no offs and no phone. Gave one of them an off-day but she came home after lunch citing nowhere to go and also got no friends here. Thenafter she rejected off-days.
I think these days they learn from old-timers all the tips and tricks. -
LKVM:
Littlefly:
:shock: did you tell her to stop ? she next day morning still can wake up ?
Yes ofcuz I said then she fight with me saying I said thats her time she can talk even till 2 also.. her argument is she wakes up on time.. but dunno if she sleeps in afternoon cause i am FTWM
Hmm.....then I think you got trouble. To openly talk back and even have all these thing about my time...dun sound good leh. The one I mentioned, tho she still got up on time but due to tiredness, was very grouchy and started talking back and arguing with the MIL (I bring her and kids to MIL place during daytime). My MIL till today still harp about her.... and still scold me for allowing that maid to have phone. Better monitor.
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