All About Full-Time Maids

[Littlefly]

lizuan76:

Littlefly, my DD1 is 7 years old and DD2 6 years old. The maid just been with us 1 week. I also hope that it just that my DD1 has not warmed up with the maid.


Jtoh,my DD1 prefer the grandma to send her to bus stop. However my in law has some knee problem that why we ask the maid to do the sending.

Like this morning, when my maid happily great DD1 good morning, my girl can totally ignored her. Hai. End up scolded by me because i told her must show some respect to the maid.

I have the same issues as my boy don't take very well to my maid. Maybe takes time lor or simply just no chemistry.

[MrsTan]

I created SOP for my maids, with every details, then I gave her a schedule on what are the things she need to do daily, what are the rotational duties.


Even with that detail, she dun follow, when asked her why, couldn’t answer. She with us for about a year, just resigned and left yesterday. She was a transferred maid, worked in Msia before for 4 yrs, ex-employer dun like cos she can’t cook (according to the agent).

Lucky she left the SOP behind, now I just have to follow…

PS : we were very good to her, and she also quite free at home, reason she quoted for resignation was she missed her family.

[catang]

will say i m lucky FOR NOW to have this maid, with us for a mth exactly today. her sal is $490 and thou i felt heartache with such high pay but compared to the previous ones which ranges from $280 to $380, this one is v experienced and communicate with whole family in mandarin but eng with me.


my mum likes her as she can cook and knows how to sweet talk, my children likes her as she fed, shower, play with them, i like her as she knows where n when to stop, not to kpo but only thing is she likes to yi lao mai lao and i will tell her off when she does that. she’s 41 but looks young and she under-declared her age when she came over, told me if she doesnt den she wont be able to come out from indo side.

hopefully all her goodness will last, dat’s y i say will say i m lucky FOR NOW

[Funx3]

catang:

will say i m lucky FOR NOW to have this maid, with us for a mth exactly today. her sal is $490 and thou i felt heartache with such high pay but compared to the previous ones which ranges from $280 to $380, this one is v experienced and communicate with whole family in mandarin but eng with me.


my mum likes her as she can cook and knows how to sweet talk, my children likes her as she fed, shower, play with them, i like her as she knows where n when to stop, not to kpo but only thing is she likes to yi lao mai lao and i will tell her off when she does that. she's 41 but looks young and she under-declared her age when she came over, told me if she doesnt den she wont be able to come out from indo side.

hopefully all her goodness will last, dat's y i say will say i m lucky FOR NOW

Sounds Like an Angel, The Answer to ALL us Parents Here!
GOOD LUCK and May ALL Her Goodness Stays with U ....
:celebrate: :celebrate:

[BeContented]

catang:

will say i m lucky FOR NOW to have this maid, with us for a mth exactly today. her sal is $490 and thou i felt heartache with such high pay but compared to the previous ones which ranges from $280 to $380, this one is v experienced and communicate with whole family in mandarin but eng with me.


my mum likes her as she can cook and knows how to sweet talk, my children likes her as she fed, shower, play with them, i like her as she knows where n when to stop, not to kpo but only thing is she likes to yi lao mai lao and i will tell her off when she does that. she's 41 but looks young and she under-declared her age when she came over, told me if she doesnt den she wont be able to come out from indo side.

hopefully all her goodness will last, dat's y i say will say i m lucky FOR NOW

Hey, sounds like my helper too.....40years old, can cook, knows how to sweet talk, can tease my kids (dun have to take care as they are big liao plus I'm the main caregiver for my children). Helper has to look after FIL tho. Have been with us for 5 months, generally I'm pleased....except I wonder how honest she is. During her first month, she tried calling overseas while I was out....hmmm. Now, she'll get a call every month and then she'll have this damn pity look and start telling me about her 'sob' stories.

1st time : Money she left behind for her children was stolen (3/4 of it....weird, why would a thief only take 3/4 of it??), son's handphone stolen too.
2nd time : Younger daughter wants a laptop, elder son went ahead to buy. Call to ask for $ despite she having told them repeated no salary for first 9 mths. Well, I just listen. Oh yah, son using back old stolen HP number.....
3rd time : Mom died.....this I gave her a little money plus the CNY angpao, she remitted some back.
4th time : Just today son called again using new a HP number. Claimed house window smashed. 2HP, TV, CD Player stolen.....I questioned her, I thot you stay in Kampung and has lots of neighbours? How come this can happen?? She just tell me dunno dunno. Next, told me that if her dad & son old HP (the 2 stolen) sends SMS over, just ignore. My gosh, if they were stolen, why would the thief send sms out using that number and to SG???

I really do not know what to think.....maid trying to con my money? Anyway, Catang....do hope your maid will continue to be good. Do update once in a while....I'm really curious.

[moonee]

cwc:

catang:

will say i m lucky FOR NOW to have this maid, with us for a mth exactly today. her sal is $490 and thou i felt heartache with such high pay but compared to the previous ones which ranges from $280 to $380, this one is v experienced and communicate with whole family in mandarin but eng with me.


my mum likes her as she can cook and knows how to sweet talk, my children likes her as she fed, shower, play with them, i like her as she knows where n when to stop, not to kpo but only thing is she likes to yi lao mai lao and i will tell her off when she does that. she's 41 but looks young and she under-declared her age when she came over, told me if she doesnt den she wont be able to come out from indo side.

hopefully all her goodness will last, dat's y i say will say i m lucky FOR NOW

Hey, sounds like my helper too.....40years old, can cook, knows how to sweet talk, can tease my kids (dun have to take care as they are big liao plus I'm the main caregiver for my children). Helper has to look after FIL tho. Have been with us for 5 months, generally I'm pleased....except I wonder how honest she is. During her first month, she tried calling overseas while I was out....hmmm. Now, she'll get a call every month and then she'll have this damn pity look and start telling me about her 'sob' stories.

1st time : Money she left behind for her children was stolen (3/4 of it....weird, why would a thief only take 3/4 of it??), son's handphone stolen too.
2nd time : Younger daughter wants a laptop, elder son went ahead to buy. Call to ask for $ despite she having told them repeated no salary for first 9 mths. Well, I just listen. Oh yah, son using back old stolen HP number.....
3rd time : Mom died.....this I gave her a little money plus the CNY angpao, she remitted some back.
4th time : Just today son called again using new a HP number. Claimed house window smashed. 2HP, TV, CD Player stolen.....I questioned her, I thot you stay in Kampung and has lots of neighbours? How come this can happen?? She just tell me dunno dunno. Next, told me that if her dad & son old HP (the 2 stolen) sends SMS over, just ignore. My gosh, if they were stolen, why would the thief send sms out using that number and to SG???

I really do not know what to think.....maid trying to con my money? Anyway, Catang....do hope your maid will continue to be good. Do update once in a while....I'm really curious.

frm experience... sometimes whern a maid is too good, I dont feel too comfortable as theres always something to look out for in them such as theft. Tis does not apply to all but we must always be on guard.

[moonee]

[sorry double post :oops:

[BeContented]

moonee:

frm experience... sometimes whern a maid is too good, I dont feel too comfortable as theres always something to look out for in them such as theft. Tis does not apply to all but we must always be on guard.

I know that feeling my Sis ex-maid (~38yo) was similar. Full of lies & when couldn't cheat more $, gave trouble & Employer no choice but to let go cos' knew her intention was to terminate. frankly, My 3 ex-maid tho lacking in skills & can't communicate as well, no worry about honesty at all. This tho good, somehow keeps me on my toes. Often, I find myself second-guessing her words & agenda, tiring

[jtoh]

moonee:

frm experience... sometimes whern a maid is too good, I dont feel too comfortable as theres always something to look out for in them such as theft. Tis does not apply to all but we must always be on guard.

Now that you mentioned it, I'd better keep an eye out.

[jtoh]

cwc:

catang:

will say i m lucky FOR NOW to have this maid, with us for a mth exactly today. her sal is $490 and thou i felt heartache with such high pay but compared to the previous ones which ranges from $280 to $380, this one is v experienced and communicate with whole family in mandarin but eng with me.


my mum likes her as she can cook and knows how to sweet talk, my children likes her as she fed, shower, play with them, i like her as she knows where n when to stop, not to kpo but only thing is she likes to yi lao mai lao and i will tell her off when she does that. she's 41 but looks young and she under-declared her age when she came over, told me if she doesnt den she wont be able to come out from indo side.

hopefully all her goodness will last, dat's y i say will say i m lucky FOR NOW

Hey, sounds like my helper too.....40years old, can cook, knows how to sweet talk, can tease my kids (dun have to take care as they are big liao plus I'm the main caregiver for my children). Helper has to look after FIL tho. Have been with us for 5 months, generally I'm pleased....except I wonder how honest she is. During her first month, she tried calling overseas while I was out....hmmm. Now, she'll get a call every month and then she'll have this damn pity look and start telling me about her 'sob' stories.

1st time : Money she left behind for her children was stolen (3/4 of it....weird, why would a thief only take 3/4 of it??), son's handphone stolen too.
2nd time : Younger daughter wants a laptop, elder son went ahead to buy. Call to ask for $ despite she having told them repeated no salary for first 9 mths. Well, I just listen. Oh yah, son using back old stolen HP number.....
3rd time : Mom died.....this I gave her a little money plus the CNY angpao, she remitted some back.
4th time : Just today son called again using new a HP number. Claimed house window smashed. 2HP, TV, CD Player stolen.....I questioned her, I thot you stay in Kampung and has lots of neighbours? How come this can happen?? She just tell me dunno dunno. Next, told me that if her dad & son old HP (the 2 stolen) sends SMS over, just ignore. My gosh, if they were stolen, why would the thief send sms out using that number and to SG???

I really do not know what to think.....maid trying to con my money? Anyway, Catang....do hope your maid will continue to be good. Do update once in a while....I'm really curious.

They'll always come up with stories of father, mother, grandmother etc dying or very sick etc. But what can we do? If it's really true and we're not sympathetic, then we're being really cruel by not letting them go home on compassionate leave etc.

Stories of house being broken into etc my maids haven't tried yet. But it's usually farm kena flood, no produce to sell, no money for school fees or milk for the baby so they want an advance or to borrow money.