All About Full-Time Maids
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cwc:
Well, what's past is past. I don't think there can be that many in her family that pass away - now mother down, see how many is left. [I think I'm very evil].
But I think, going forward, any request for $ will have to be advance pay. She can act pitiful....I'll act blur, won't offer any extra money. If she really wants to remit $, I'll probably limit to 1-2 months advance pay since she's already into her 5+ months. Lose a little to see the true colors, worth it. But it feels quite sickening sometimes. The children has been calling for money, to buy stuff......sometimes, I suspect her son turning astray.....know mommy having money soon. Based on all the past maid's sobs stories, it seems like the Indo men like to 吃软饭。
Yes, it's very sickening feeling. I hate being taken for a fool yet somethings we can only trust them.
I do agree with the notion about Indo men. Unfortunately, I hear that Phil men are also the same. From reports in newspapers (ST had some write up years back), they seem very sad for the wives to go abroad and be maids - yet I dun see how they pull up their socks to make their lives a better one. Must be becos those men that really act like men will provide for their family and not depend on their wives to bring home the bacon. Kept telling my first maid NOT to marry any man - but make sure he work and earn money. -
hquek:
Still have the father lah.....then probably she'll really asked to go home cos' only left with 2 kids (her hubby already died). But son already 20 and DD 13+....shall see shall see. Better not waste brain cell and guess, stock limited liao :lol:
Well, what's past is past. I don't think there can be that many in her family that pass away - now mother down, see how many is left. [I think I'm very evil].
Yes, it's very sickening feeling. I hate being taken for a fool yet somethings we can only trust them.
I do agree with the notion about Indo men. Unfortunately, I hear that Phil men are also the same. From reports in newspapers (ST had some write up years back), they seem very sad for the wives to go abroad and be maids - yet I dun see how they pull up their socks to make their lives a better one. Must be becos those men that really act like men will provide for their family and not depend on their wives to bring home the bacon. Kept telling my first maid NOT to marry any man - but make sure he work and earn money.
But seriously, I also pity their lives lah......really suffer and work hard to gain nothing. Guess, we better treasure our SG man hor, they definitely fare better.....no wonder these other women are fighting over OUR men with us.
I'll update all again next month....let's see got new sob stories to tell ....
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catang:
Nevermind about the high pay if she does well, its worth the investment than living in daily frustration.will say i m lucky FOR NOW to have this maid, with us for a mth exactly today. her sal is $490 and thou i felt heartache with such high pay but compared to the previous ones which ranges from $280 to $380, this one is v experienced and communicate with whole family in mandarin but eng with me.
my mum likes her as she can cook and knows how to sweet talk, my children likes her as she fed, shower, play with them, i like her as she knows where n when to stop, not to kpo but only thing is she likes to yi lao mai lao and i will tell her off when she does that. she's 41 but looks young and she under-declared her age when she came over, told me if she doesnt den she wont be able to come out from indo side.
hopefully all her goodness will last, dat's y i say will say i m lucky FOR NOW
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LKVM:
If her purpose was to go home she should just have told you since she was paying the air ticket anyway. Of if she had no intention of coming back at least give you a call by the 10th day. You did the right thing by cancelling the WP.jtoh:
She said she was coming back and didn't come back? It's maids like these that make employers distrust other maids.
Yes she went on 10 days leave luckily I never pay for her airfare.. asked her she must pay herself... then tried calling her on the number she gave no response or out of reach then 12th day no news so I cancelled the WP and look for new maid.. but considering I was FTWM I had too many problems handling this.. waste of money, waste of time :stupid:
Good thing was there was no loan left
In circumstances like these, can we blacklist them with MOM? It seems unfair that they can pull fast ones on us and we can't do anything about it. -
cwc:
my first reaction reading this was your maid (and her family) trying to take advantage of your kindness and con you ? already breach of trust first month when you are not around and when her mom died - she can still carry on to work in your household - business as usual ? she does sound very suspicious with so much 'drama' enfolding in her family...Have been with us for 5 months, generally I'm pleased....except I wonder how honest she is. During her first month, she tried calling overseas while I was out....hmmm. Now, she'll get a call every month and then she'll have this damn pity look and start telling me about her 'sob' stories.
1st time : Money she left behind for her children was stolen (3/4 of it....weird, why would a thief only take 3/4 of it??), son's handphone stolen too.
2nd time : Younger daughter wants a laptop, elder son went ahead to buy. Call to ask for $ despite she having told them repeated no salary for first 9 mths. Well, I just listen. Oh yah, son using back old stolen HP number.....
3rd time : Mom died.....this I gave her a little money plus the CNY angpao, she remitted some back.
4th time : Just today son called again using new a HP number. Claimed house window smashed. 2HP, TV, CD Player stolen.....I questioned her, I thot you stay in Kampung and has lots of neighbours? How come this can happen?? She just tell me dunno dunno. Next, told me that if her dad & son old HP (the 2 stolen) sends SMS over, just ignore. My gosh, if they were stolen, why would the thief send sms out using that number and to SG???
I really do not know what to think.....maid trying to con my money? Anyway, Catang....do hope your maid will continue to be good. Do update once in a while....I'm really curious.
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LKVM:
Yes. I advised one of my previous maids to keep some money for herself and not send everything home in case her husband was squandering away all her money.cwc:
Based on all the past maid's sobs stories, it seems like the Indo men like to 吃软饭。
Not only them but other country men also the same :shock: -
LKVM:
Yes, good that she pay for her own airfare and finished her loan, otherwise lugi. The contract we have is that regardless, employers have to pay the airfare if either one wants to terminate the contract pre-maturely. So sianz - we are always at losing end of the stick.jtoh:
She said she was coming back and didn't come back? It's maids like these that make employers distrust other maids.
Yes she went on 10 days leave luckily I never pay for her airfare.. asked her she must pay herself... then tried calling her on the number she gave no response or out of reach then 12th day no news so I cancelled the WP and look for new maid.. but considering I was FTWM I had too many problems handling this.. waste of money, waste of time :stupid:
Good thing was there was no loan left
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cwc:
Hey, sounds like my helper too.....40years old, can cook, knows how to sweet talk, can tease my kids (dun have to take care as they are big liao plus I'm the main caregiver for my children). Helper has to look after FIL tho. Have been with us for 5 months, generally I'm pleased....except I wonder how honest she is. During her first month, she tried calling overseas while I was out....hmmm. Now, she'll get a call every month and then she'll have this damn pity look and start telling me about her 'sob' stories.catang:
will say i m lucky FOR NOW to have this maid, with us for a mth exactly today. her sal is $490 and thou i felt heartache with such high pay but compared to the previous ones which ranges from $280 to $380, this one is v experienced and communicate with whole family in mandarin but eng with me.
my mum likes her as she can cook and knows how to sweet talk, my children likes her as she fed, shower, play with them, i like her as she knows where n when to stop, not to kpo but only thing is she likes to yi lao mai lao and i will tell her off when she does that. she's 41 but looks young and she under-declared her age when she came over, told me if she doesnt den she wont be able to come out from indo side.
hopefully all her goodness will last, dat's y i say will say i m lucky FOR NOW
1st time : Money she left behind for her children was stolen (3/4 of it....weird, why would a thief only take 3/4 of it??), son's handphone stolen too.
2nd time : Younger daughter wants a laptop, elder son went ahead to buy. Call to ask for $ despite she having told them repeated no salary for first 9 mths. Well, I just listen. Oh yah, son using back old stolen HP number.....
3rd time : Mom died.....this I gave her a little money plus the CNY angpao, she remitted some back.
4th time : Just today son called again using new a HP number. Claimed house window smashed. 2HP, TV, CD Player stolen.....I questioned her, I thot you stay in Kampung and has lots of neighbours? How come this can happen?? She just tell me dunno dunno. Next, told me that if her dad & son old HP (the 2 stolen) sends SMS over, just ignore. My gosh, if they were stolen, why would the thief send sms out using that number and to SG???
I really do not know what to think.....maid trying to con my money? Anyway, Catang....do hope your maid will continue to be good. Do update once in a while....I'm really curious.
yes will definitely update cos i have close to 20 or over 20 maids since day 1 of getting so m skeptical dat she is gd -
LKVM:
ty i hope so too, just hv to close one eye cos at times she will argue but not in rude ways e.g cutting fruit and the core area not totally clean, she said can eat when my ma told her no, den she still insist can, my ma just shut her up by saying can eat den u finish up all
All the best to you and hopefully she can be good to you :celebrate:catang:
will say i m lucky FOR NOW to have this maid, with us for a mth exactly today. her sal is $490 and thou i felt heartache with such high pay but compared to the previous ones which ranges from $280 to $380, this one is v experienced and communicate with whole family in mandarin but eng with me.
my mum likes her as she can cook and knows how to sweet talk, my children likes her as she fed, shower, play with them, i like her as she knows where n when to stop, not to kpo but only thing is she likes to yi lao mai lao and i will tell her off when she does that. she's 41 but looks young and she under-declared her age when she came over, told me if she doesnt den she wont be able to come out from indo side.
hopefully all her goodness will last, dat's y i say will say i m lucky FOR NOW -
catang:
yes will definitely update cos i have close to 20 or over 20 maids since day 1 of getting so m skeptical dat she is gd
20! :shock:
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